Crush on my friend

[rockymountainway]

I'm 19 and bisexual and I have a crush on my friend, who I'm fairly confident is straight. I haven't told anyone besides my ex girlfriend that I'm bi, so I want to start telling more people, starting with my two closest friends. Knowing them, they'd be surprised but completely supportive and not at all judgmental. However, I'm really attracted to one of them. We've been friends since middle school and he always seemed completely straight, but in the last year, he started making more remarks and jokes concerning homosexual material, and he's also said he's bisexual but has always played it off as a joke. I'm very good friends with him, I'm more comfortable with him than I was with any of my ex girlfriends, and I think I've spent more time with him than I did with them too. So, what do I do? If I tell him I'm bisexual but don't tell him I'm attracted to him, I'll have to keep my feelings bottled up inside, but if I tell him I'm attracted to him, I feel I could risk losing my connection with him. On the other hand, if he's also gay/bisexual, it would be a dream come true. I'm stuck.

[Lost in the Echo]

Well, as you said, your friends are supportive, so I don't really see a whole lot of harm in telling the friend you have a crush on how you feel about him.

I see this going one of two ways:

#1- He admits he has the same feelings for you.
#2- It turns out he actually is straight. He might be a bit surprised at you coming out, and havings feelings for him, and it could be a little awkward.

Speaking as a hetero guy, if one of my friends were to come out to me, and say they have feelings for me, it honestly would be a little weird for a while, but I would definitely accept them for who they are, and tell them I'd just like to remain friends.

So yeah, worst case scenario, this would make things awkward between you and your friend for a while. In the end, only you can decide if it's worth the risk.