gay friend has a crush on me.

[voodoo doughnut]

i'm straight and there's this gay guy i've become friends with in school. i'm ok with him being gay because my cousin who's my best friend is gay. but he's admitted he has a crush on me. that itself doesn't bother me and i'm actually flattered by it. but how is that kind of friendship supposed to work? i mean would i become his boyfriend? can that happen since i'm straight? don't get me wrong, i really like hanging out with him, but i'm confused.

[CrazyPerson101]

i'm straight and there's this gay guy i've become friends with in school. i'm ok with him being gay because my cousin who's my best friend is gay. but he's admitted he has a crush on me. that itself doesn't bother me and i'm actually flattered by it. but how is that kind of friendship supposed to work? i mean would i become his boyfriend? can that happen since i'm straight? don't get me wrong, i really like hanging out with him, but i'm confused.

Well continue like its any other friendship, just set boundaries and make sure you make it very clear you're str8. You can't stop a crush, you don't have to become his boyfriend if you don't want to, its really up to you if it happens or not ( assuming he wants to be your bf ). Can I ask how he acts around you ?

[voodoo doughnut]

Well continue like its any other friendship, just set boundaries and make sure you make it very clear you're str8. You can't stop a crush, you don't have to become his boyfriend if you don't want to, its really up to you if it happens or not ( assuming he wants to be your bf ). Can I ask how he acts around you ?

he acts like a regular friend but he also flirts with me some. he complements my looks a lot and tells me i'm cute and smiles at me a lot and gives me looks somtimes. he's touched my hair and said he likes how soft it is, and friday he took hold of my hand and felt my palm for a couple of seconds and said he liked how soft my hands are. none of that bothers me any at all, i like being liked and i like him a lot.

[CrazyPerson101]

he acts like a regular friend but he also flirts with me some. he complements my looks a lot and tells me i'm cute and smiles at me a lot and gives me looks somtimes. he's touched my hair and said he likes how soft it is, and friday he took hold of my hand and felt my palm for a couple of seconds and said he liked how soft my hands are. none of that bothers me any at all, i like being liked and i like him a lot.

Well it's obvious he's into you, I was like the same way with a guy I like back in the day ( well 3 years ago XD, He was str8 as well ) Anyway, It's hard not to tell someone attractive that they're attractive every 5 seconds, and I'm glad you're good friend. How do you feel about him likeing you exactly ? like in your opinion, what do you think of him ?

[voodoo doughnut]

Well it's obvious he's into you, I was like the same way with a guy I like back in the day ( well 3 years ago XD, He was str8 as well ) Anyway, It's hard not to tell someone attractive that they're attractive every 5 seconds, and I'm glad you're good friend. How do you feel about him likeing you exactly ? like in your opinion, what do you think of him ?

i like that he likes me that way, it makes me feel good about myself. i think he's really nice to me and he's fun to hang out with in school. we talk a lot and make each other laugh. if you mean what do i think about him psychically, i think he's attractive, but i'm not into him as much as i'm into girls.

[CrazyPerson101]

i like that he likes me that way, it makes me feel good about myself. i think he's really nice to me and he's fun to hang out with in school. we talk a lot and make each other laugh. if you mean what do i think about him psychically, i think he's attractive, but i'm not into him as much as i'm into girls.

first : awwww and second : Okay, so you've got a good relationship with him, would you ever consider being in a relationship with him ? ( maybe not now but sometime in the future ? ) or is he a friend who just likes you ? It's understandable that you're attracted to girls more than guys.

[voodoo doughnut]

first : awwww and second : Okay, so you've got a good relationship with him, would you ever consider being in a relationship with him ? ( maybe not now but sometime in the future ? ) or is he a friend who just likes you ? It's understandable that you're attracted to girls more than guys.

right now he's a friend who likes me, but i'm not ew no way to the idea. i've never had a girlfriend yet, so i don't have anything to compare this to. maybe i am falling for him, i really don't know, it's really confusing.

[CrazyPerson101]

right now he's a friend who likes me, but i'm not ew no way to the idea. i've never had a girlfriend yet, so i don't have anything to compare this to. maybe i am falling for him, i really don't know, it's really confusing.

Ahhh and Oh ? Hmmmm, Do you care about him ( say if he where in the hospital ) would you be worried like : Oh no, I hope he's okay or I gotta go there now ( or in between ) ? It's hard not being able to compare things ...

[James Dean]

Treat it like a friendship for right now. If you are not gay, don't lead him on as that could start other problems. If you do start to have feelings for him that aren't forced and it is natural, just only do what you feel is comfortable. I'm not saying it isn't possible for you to go deeper into a relationship with him, but it just seems confusing to both yourself and to him. Only do things that you are comfortable and happy with. Don't worry about what other people think, people change from time to time. Hopefully everything works out well. :)

[voodoo doughnut]

Ahhh and Oh ? Hmmmm, Do you care about him ( say if he where in the hospital ) would you be worried like : Oh no, I hope he's okay or I gotta go there now ( or in between ) ? It's hard not being able to compare things ...

i would want want to get there asap.

[CrazyPerson101]

Treat it like a friendship for right now. If you are not gay, don't lead him on as that could start other problems. If you do start to have feelings for him that aren't forced and it is natural, just only do what you feel is comfortable. I'm not saying it isn't possible for you to go deeper into a relationship with him, but it just seems confusing to both yourself and to him. Only do things that you are comfortable and happy with. Don't worry about what other people think, people change from time to time. Hopefully everything works out well. :)

i would want want to get there asap.

Although it sounds like you do care for him ( as a friend of course ), CELT has done a good job answering this question. Do what's comfortable for you and who knows, you two may start dating or you may not. Its honestly up to you both and time and your feelings for your friend ( assuming your got any romantic feelings towards him ).

[TheLoneWolf]

If you don't fancy him, just tell him (which you probably already did). And if you do, why not give it a try!
If you don't fancy him, it might feel awkward being around him, but you'll learn to accept it. His feelings will go away and your friendship probably go back to normal :)

[JamesSuperBoy]

I guess he can have a crush on you or anyone else - you are nor responsible for how he feels or thinks - but you can be honest if he does not already know how you feel.

[Zachary G]

Treat it like a friendship for right now. If you are not gay, don't lead him on as that could start other problems. If you do start to have feelings for him that aren't forced and it is natural, just only do what you feel is comfortable. I'm not saying it isn't possible for you to go deeper into a relationship with him, but it just seems confusing to both yourself and to him. Only do things that you are comfortable and happy with. Don't worry about what other people think, people change from time to time. Hopefully everything works out well. :)

good answer. you have got it in a nutshell.

[SethfromMI]

i'm straight and there's this gay guy i've become friends with in school. i'm ok with him being gay because my cousin who's my best friend is gay. but he's admitted he has a crush on me. that itself doesn't bother me and i'm actually flattered by it. but how is that kind of friendship supposed to work? i mean would i become his boyfriend? can that happen since i'm straight? don't get me wrong, i really like hanging out with him, but i'm confused.

lol just talk to him man. tell him you are his friend and are there for him. treat him like you would any other friend. but just politely explain you are not into guys and are not interested in him, romantically, sexually, etc. in any ort of way).

if, for some reason, he continues to flirt or whatever, just be more firm and say you want to be his friend but if he continues you may not be able too.

just be nice, but honest with him, that is all you can do. be accepting of who he is, but you should not feel bad about telling him the truth and how you feel

[ethana512]

he acts like a regular friend but he also flirts with me some. he complements my looks a lot and tells me i'm cute and smiles at me a lot and gives me looks somtimes. he's touched my hair and said he likes how soft it is, and friday he took hold of my hand and felt my palm for a couple of seconds and said he liked how soft my hands are. none of that bothers me any at all, i like being liked and i like him a lot.

I basically agree with what everybody else says about being honest and not leading him on but if you are ok with this stuff maybe you can be more than friends. I'm not saying you should do anything you don't want to but if you guys do boyfriend stuff together and you like it its ok. I guess I'm saying forget labels and just be friends and do whatever stuff together you both are ok with.

[CosmicNoodle]

Well, if your straight, it ain't gonna work is it? You'll have to just remain friends. I don't think he'll mind since he knew you where straight in the first place.

[mrmee]

i have the same "gay friend crushing" situation. we always joke about it like that girl that knows you like her does to you. i made it clear thats as far as i wanted it to gi though

[voodoo doughnut]

ok thanks. i really need the affection he's showing me right now because i'm going through a rough time with my parents divorcing. i'll forget about the labels and enjoy his company. that's also what ezra said i should do. i thought about him all this weekend and couldn't wait to see him at school today. i never had a girlfriend before. he's the first person to show an interest in me like that.

[ethana512]

ok thanks. i really need the affection he's showing me right now because i'm going through a rough time with my parents divorcing. i'll forget about the labels and enjoy his company. that's also what ezra said i should do. i thought about him all this weekend and couldn't wait to see him at school today. i never had a girlfriend before. he's the first person to show an interest in me like that.

Good luck :)

[Luminous]

Teen Sexuality and Gender :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[ThePhantasm]

Just stay friends with him and let it play our some more

[Semi_IronMan]

Seems like you're really into him. Just do what feels right to you, don't worry about other things

[Body odah Man]

i'm straight and there's this gay guy i've become friends with in school. i'm ok with him being gay because my cousin who's my best friend is gay. but he's admitted he has a crush on me. that itself doesn't bother me and i'm actually flattered by it. but how is that kind of friendship supposed to work? i mean would i become his boyfriend? can that happen since i'm straight? don't get me wrong, i really like hanging out with him, but i'm confused.

Just stay friends and set boundaries. Let him know u accept his homosexuality but you don't return it.