She hardly wants to give me her time

[Paladino]

It's getting quite frustrating actually, and it is making me doubt my self and it hurts me, because 2 out of 3 times I am meant to see my girlfriend, she either says "I'll just see you tomorrow and we will spend the whole day together" or my favourite of all time(sarcasm)! "Let's go and meet *enterfriendname* first and then we will do our own thing. Today is the final straw with this because I am getting sick of not being able to spend time with her only when she wants to, it's mind fucking and does cause a great deal of hurt for me anyway, although it seems harmless that it appears she has called one date but it's not just one it's been happening for a number of weeks.

I have tried to tell her how it makes me feel and she claims she understands bla bla and then she goes and fucking does it again! Even sometimes 2/3 days in a row she will do it before she decides that "I'm aloud her time". This is what it feels like, it feels like I am a puppy locked in a house waiting on the owner to come home not knowing when they will return!!

She will either insist on seeing our friends before we spend time together or not at all. I get one day of her just her at best a week. She never used to be like this and used to always want to be with me and I found it quite annoying but cute, I am not asking her to spend every day with me. I am asking her to find enough time to allow us to get things working properly again and if she loves me like she says shouldn't i be a priority? No matter how mad I am at her or how much she annoys me she is always my number 1 priority and I have made mistakes in the past but all I want to do is treat her right and give her happiness, but I want it in return and not be a 2nd or even 3rd option to her as this is what it feels like now.

And when I complain about this situation or talk to her in a concerned way about it she accuses me of trying to argue or gets angry with me. :mad::mad:

[SethfromMI]

well if you are that unhappy and I can't blame you then it is time to call it quits

[Paladino]

I wanna give it time to change, since I posted this I spoke to her without her claiming I was trying to argue or moaning and she seems to understand, so we'll see how it goes from here ..

[SethfromMI]

I wanna give it time to change, since I posted this I spoke to her without her claiming I was trying to argue or moaning and she seems to understand, so we'll see how it goes from here ..

well that is good to. and fact, it is even better you are giving her that second chance :)

[Paladino]

well that is good to. and fact, it is even better you are giving her that second chance :)

We were just friends before we got together for 4 years, very good friends, best girl friend I had ever had and the relationship has lasted for over a year n a half, I couldn't just give it up easily. It was as if us two were always supposed to end up together, other people seen it coming without us even knowing.

[SethfromMI]

We were just friends before we got together for 4 years, very good friends, best girl friend I had ever had and the relationship has lasted for over a year n a half, I couldn't just give it up easily. It was as if us two were always supposed to end up together, other people seen it coming without us even knowing.

well it is good you realize that. I should never have said let it go that quickly anyways, you just sounded so frustrated with it. if she is that special to you, never let her go unless it gets to the point where it is causing you too much pain and it really isn't worth it

[Paladino]

well it is good you realize that. I should never have said let it go that quickly anyways, you just sounded so frustrated with it. if she is that special to you, never let her go unless it gets to the point where it is causing you too much pain and it really isn't worth it

I thought our problem was solved but again I've found out she has been hiding more stuff from me, after TWICE in the last 2 weeks she had sworn to me and promised me there was nothing else that would come out that could damage our relationship :confused: I just want to know why she keeps lying to me and making me feel this way especially because she knows what she is doing. I'm starting to get to the point where I should give up but I don't want to give her up easily or without a chance of her going back to the way she was.

[SethfromMI]

I thought our problem was solved but again I've found out she has been hiding more stuff from me, after TWICE in the last 2 weeks she had sworn to me and promised me there was nothing else that would come out that could damage our relationship :confused: I just want to know why she keeps lying to me and making me feel this way especially because she knows what she is doing. I'm starting to get to the point where I should give up but I don't want to give her up easily or without a chance of her going back to the way she was.

look take some time to think but all I am going to say is what I know about myself. I could never be with someone I did not trust. if I could not trust them, I could not be with them. take that for what its worth

[Paladino]

All I want is for her not to lie to me! How many times will she keep lying and hiding stuff before she finally realizes what she is doing wrong.

[SethfromMI]

maybe never. maybe she is a dishonest, lying deceitful woman who is not going to stop.

you got some choices. wait to se if she will changer her ways and leave if she doesn't
leave and if she wants to change, consider it giving a second chance
or keep doing what your doing, hoping she will change her ways even if she doesn't

want my opinion? if you honestly cant trust her at all then leave her. give her a chance if she means that much to you, but if she doesn't change after a certain period of time, then leave her

[Paladino]

Thanks for the help.

[Paladino]

Should have seen this coming, earlier today she tells me "It's not working anymore, I can't do this, I love you but it isn't the same anymore, its not you its me, I'm sorry."

I feel like an absolute dick. She has been playing me and lying to me and then hits me with this. Every time I am with a girl this happens to me. Fuck it.