Question for the openly gays/bi's

[TheLoneWolf]

Hello there fellow LGBT's!

I recently began coming out to several people as gay. All of them (my mother, grandparents, and about 6 friends) reacted pretty awesome. They don't make a big deal about it. They accept me for who I am.

I was scared that, especially my female friends, would act uncomfortable around me. Surprisingly it's the other way around.
I feel very nervous around them, and definitely not because I'm in love with them.
I'm constanyly aware of the fact that I'm gay. I'm scared they find it weird when I touch them on their arm or something.
I basically constantly think that THEY are constantly thinking about me being gay. Although I'm pretty sure they're not. A few days ago one of my friends asked me 'Ooh look at this cute boy! Ooh no wait, I forgot you're gay!' So nope, they're definitely not constantly aware.

My question for you is; do you feel the same way?
How often do you think about your being gay/bi/whatever?

[CosmicNoodle]

I think about it whenever it's relevant, when attracted to someone, or when I end up in more...*cough*...steamy...situations. Apart from that, never really crosses my mind, it's just what I am.

I never really worry about people always thinking about it, I mean, do you always think about someone's sexuality whenever your near them? Nope (or at least I hope not). So why would they do the same. You really don't have to worry about it.

[Whiskers]

A few days ago one of my friends asked me 'Ooh look at this cute boy! Ooh no wait, I forgot you're gay!'


I'm sorry if this is taken offensively but that sentence just made my day

[Karkat]

I feel like a few of my...Less accepting friends are a little uncomfortable about it, however, they don't really treat me all that much differently for it.

I'm not so flamboyant that I am constantly spewing figurative rainbows out the mouth, so I feel like it's easy to get along with me, even if you don't "agree with being gay". (Stupid as that might be to begin with.)

I think about being gay when it's relevant, I guess.

[James Dean]

Yeah I don't like coming out sometimes, however I'm very bipolar about the subject. I think you should be open and accept your sexuality and shouldn't hide. However, there are some times to where I think I should keep my privacy and I feel that's too much information that I'm giving the person.

I do accept myself, don't get me wrong. I just feel there are sometimes I feel my sexuality is pushed on me. Like I have some female friends that whenever we go out, a guy would be strolling by and she would ask if I find him hot. Like seriously. Do you find every guy hot? ugh. :(

[TheLoneWolf]

Well that's the weird part. I really don't mind what people think about me. I've been called gay for almost 5 years now and it never really bothered me (even when I was not out to certain people).

Problem is, I'd rather have people say in my face that they don't like me rather than act very awkward around me. I've asked the friends who I've come out to whether they feel awkward around me, and they've assured me they do not.
They don't even think about it.
Then why do I constantly think about it!?
I totally accept myself being gay, I quite like it, I talk about it, I make jokes about it. But why on earth do I have to think about it so much...

@CELT, my friends ask me that too constantly 'Do you think she's hot?' 'Would you date her?' I personally do not mind these questions at all. I actually like them asking me that because that's the same as they'd do if I were to be straight.
But I totally get your point!

[Elysium]

My question for you is; do you feel the same way?
Surprisingly, I don't.
How often do you think about your being gay/bi/whatever?
Not terribly often, but it's not uncommon, either. It's about as much as I think about being Jewish.

[romes3]

Hello there fellow LGBT's!

I recently began coming out to several people as gay. All of them (my mother, grandparents, and about 6 friends) reacted pretty awesome. They don't make a big deal about it. They accept me for who I am.

I was scared that, especially my female friends, would act uncomfortable around me. Surprisingly it's the other way around.
I feel very nervous around them, and definitely not because I'm in love with them.
I'm constanyly aware of the fact that I'm gay. I'm scared they find it weird when I touch them on their arm or something.
I basically constantly think that THEY are constantly thinking about me being gay. Although I'm pretty sure they're not. A few days ago one of my friends asked me 'Ooh look at this cute boy! Ooh no wait, I forgot you're gay!' So nope, they're definitely not constantly aware.

My question for you is; do you feel the same way?
How often do you think about your being gay/bi/whatever?

1. I don't really feel that way around my friends.
2. I don't really think about me being bi. I mean when I like a girl, I know it's because I'm bi but other than that no.

[Zachary G]

I think about it whenever it's relevant, when attracted to someone, or when I end up in more...*cough*...steamy...situations. Apart from that, never really crosses my mind, it's just what I am.

I never really worry about people always thinking about it, I mean, do you always think about someone's sexuality whenever your near them? Nope (or at least I hope not). So why would they do the same. You really don't have to worry about it.

i think this sums it up and couldnt have put it any better myself. :yeah: