What am I?

[moonie]

I really don't know what I am on the whole sexuality front. I have crushes on boys, I find them attractive. I have had crushes on girls before but not for along time. I can see myself with a boyfriend, but not really with a girlfriend. Sometimes (not much) in alone time *wink wink* I might look at girls. When I went to Cornwall in the summer I just looked at all the really good looking boys and I was really attracted to them, but there is never a time when I think "Wow, she looks good". E.g. Someone in my class showed me some pictures of a lady's boobs an to be honest, I felt absolutley nothing.

So do any of you guys know what I am? Am I Gay?

[SethfromMI]

well if you are not sexually attracted to girls you are gay. it sounds like you might be kind of interested in girls. it definitely sounds like you are sexually attracted to guys.

though it sounds like you might be gay possibly bi, but then again, it is not like you need to give yourself a title like that. what are you? a guy named Ben who is attracted to guys

[ksdnfkfr]

A lot of guys our age are confused and unsure about this. The most common and best advice is not to be in a hurry to label yourself, or worse yet let someone else put a label on you.

[Zachary G]

why rush to put a label on yourself? there really is no hurry. obviously you are confused about your sexuality, at least very unsure, so why not just leave things as they are, follow your instincts and let your heart (and hormones) figure it all out for you. youre young and you have nothing but time to figure it all out. dont stress it, just roll with it and it will all come out in the end, then you will know.

[moonie]

Cool, thanks guys. Its not so much labeling its just if I told my family that I thought I was Gay and then a few years later discover I am Bi or straight, they would make fun of me but if I don't I don't feel I can be myself, people at my school think I am but I have never actually admitted it. I am a different person when I am around my family and I don't want to be, but when I am at school, I can relax a bit more but still not that much because I fear if I admit that I could be something to them, they could tell one of my family

[ksdnfkfr]

If I had to say something, I'd probably say "I think I'm gay" or "I'm pretty sure I'm gay"...."but it's probably too early to know for sure"

[moonie]

Okay, thanks Ezra :)

[Semi_IronMan]

You might be, but I don't th'nk you should stress about it now, you're only 14, you have plenty of time to figure out your sexuality

[James Dean]

I think you are learning more about your sexuality. If you don't want to label yourself, you don't have to. You cannot help who you are attracted to. If you like girls, as well as guys, then you are going to have to accept that. I want to say that you're bisexual, but I don't know you and I don't know where you sexuality is going to lead. Be happy for yourself and learn more about your sexuality. Find out what you like and take it from there. as long as you aren't confused, and you accept and love your sexuality for what it is, that should be all that matters. I do wish you the best of luck and hopefully you are able to be happy and come to terms with this. :)

[moonie]

Thank you Celt, that was really helpful :)

[fast8]

In time you will know for sure sounds like you maybe bi but like boys more at this point