Ugh

[Palm kid]

I am 14, I am single and have been for over two years. My first relationship was overall quite decent it was in 6th grade tho and i was quite shy, although it lasted NINE MONTHS absolutely nothing happned, we didnt even kiss. Im now extremely lonely, i want to know how it feels to be even remotely intimate with a person, and after all tthe 'bases" i have witnessed my two best friends (who were dating) go through its even more difficult. Im not exactly that popular, and quite a few people are happy to make fun of me on a daily basis, no girls like me, and im to shy to go up to one. And above all the wrst thing is I take a LONG time to get oer a girl i like, unfortunately i still like one of my best friends and she feels no similar emotion towards me *sigh*.i dont know what im going to accomplish by writing this but Its good to get it off my chest. is anyone else have this problem?

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

First of all, try not to compare yourself to your friends so much. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 15, almost 16, and some of my friends had already gotten to 3rd base by then. Some of my other friends haven't even had their first kiss yet, and they're nearing their 17th birthdays. So don't worry about what you have or haven't done with a girl, it's not important. In fact, it makes sense that you and your ex didn't do much. You were both on the young end of the dating scene, and neither of you had really done anything before so you were probably nervous to start doing anything.

It's natural to be curious about what it's like to have a girlfriend and to do stuff with her, and to want to be able to find out for yourself (I know I got through junior high fantasizing about a certain boy in my band class xP), you're definitely not alone in that. But you have to understand that you won't be able to just walk up to any random girl, ask her out, and be happy. Find a girl you like, see if she might like you back, and go for it. Ultimately, you'll be happier if you wait for the right girl than if you get your first kiss just for the heck of it with someone you're not sure that you even like.

Annnnnnd as for getting over your best friend, it'll happen in time. For now, enjoy thinking about her, and hanging out with her as a friend, and soon enough you'll find another girl you like who'll like you,too. :)

[LightScribe]

You're better off being single for 2 years to end up with the girl you love than spending 2 years going in and out of unhappy relationships and having emotions going up and down like a rollercoaster.

[steven]

wow... you probably described my life in that paragraph... only my relationship didnt last 9 month... it lasted 2 years :( and she didnt even hold my hand... ahhh well i got over it... that was in year 4 - 6 and it was always on-and-off, and im glad i didnt do anything with her tbh... i think i just went out with her because everyone else had a partner, i got through high school (up to now anyway) just talking about when i would like to do it and how and just using my imagination about some o lasses in my year. then in year 9/10, i got pressured so badly to go out with this lass that i really didnt like... i ended up going out with her and after the first 10 mins... i really hated spending time with her but then the person that pressured me kept sayin 'give it time' so i gev it a week... and thank god we didnt do anything... i REALLY didnt like her... then i got to a point where i felt as though no-one that i liked would like me for who i am, but for my money (if i do end up rich. still to find that out) but 9 (10 weeks in 2 days from now) my current girlfriend kissed me (struggling very hard not to describe how and where atm lol) and thats basically it... im happier now but still not exactly complete... and i thank my past relationship status thing because its kinda made me into the person that i am now, which jeni likes me as :)

hope this cheers you up

Steve