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Baconator
October 23rd, 2014, 01:59 PM
Glad I have caught your attention :yeah:

Okay, so there's a cute girl that has been at my school since I started in grade 9, we're both in grade 12 as of this post. I met her within a group I was in prior to high school. As everyone knows, elementary friends break apart, so did the group and her and I never really spoke to each other since the group split.

Near the end of last year (Grade 11) I've caught her eyeing me a few times, alone and with friends. This year she started giving me large smiles and greetings when we pass by in the hallway; I return each one of them. She usually hangs out with her friend about 90% of the time, when not in class. I've never had an actual excuse to walk up to them and talk to them, other than once when we were looking for someone to smoke with; it was just a quick greet and interrogation. But when my friends and I walk up to a group that involves her she gives me the smile and greeting, and I notice she smiles most of the time I am around, and she locks her gaze onto me, like how a magnet leads to metal when close. I find her avoiding conversation with me, and I am the one who initiates it about most of the time.

From previous experiences, I'm pretty sure she has a crush on me, but it's hard to tell because she's a social and friendly person. I don't want to confront her asking about it if she is only being friendly. One thing I consider is that I don't really see her doing these things around other people other than when I am around. I don't actually have a crush on her, but that's not saying I wouldn't date her. I've texted one of her older friends, who happens to be my friend; I asked if this girl talks about me when I am not around, or if she preforms these friendly actions around anyone else. The friend responded saying she's never heard her talk about me, but they don't hang out that much anymore. She told me to just talk to this girl and ask her, but I have anxiety problems which steers me away from such situations because I'm not sure how to start a conversation with her or continue one.

There is a party coming up on Halloween that I would like to invite her to, so time is limited on assessing this situation. Maybe I could use the party as a first date idea, or a way just to talk to her?

Anyway, a tl;dr version of this is I think this girl has a crush on me, I want to take it a step further by confirming this and if so, asking her out. I've never previously had relationship experiences with another person outside of family/friend. Any help on how I can approach this situation and get it rolling?

JamesSuperBoy
October 23rd, 2014, 02:11 PM
Its great your anxiety does not stop you partying and you have a social circle but if anything do not stress about it just enjoy the party.

the party is it ok with the hosts if you invite others?

Baconator
October 23rd, 2014, 02:18 PM
Its great your anxiety does not stop you partying and you have a social circle but if anything do not stress about it just enjoy the party.

the party is it ok with the hosts if you invite others?

Oh yeah, he has reassured us many of times that we can invite as many people as we want since his house is up in the farmlands of my province, therefore the land is large. He's even told us we can crash there the entire night if we have to. I will be since I am driving up and I plan to drink.

Melodic
October 23rd, 2014, 02:33 PM
I think the party idea is perfect. It doesn't add a lot of pressure to her and you two can get to know each other.

JamesSuperBoy
October 23rd, 2014, 02:36 PM
Oh yeah, he has reassured us many of times that we can invite as many people as we want since his house is up in the farmlands of my province, therefore the land is large. He's even told us we can crash there the entire night if we have to. I will be since I am driving up and I plan to drink.

Ok well maybe just see how it goes and you then have to decide if a drink or 3 is worth not being able to drive her home after so maybe its her parents who will let her go.

Baconator
October 23rd, 2014, 02:38 PM
Ok well maybe just see how it goes and you then have to decide if a drink or 3 is worth not being able to drive her home after so maybe its her parents who will let her go.

That's true... I guess I'll just be getting stoned then. That way I can still drive her home later that night.

CanadianJake
October 23rd, 2014, 02:38 PM
Glad I have caught your attention :yeah:

Okay, so there's a cute girl that has been at my school since I started in grade 9, we're both in grade 12 as of this post. I met her within a group I was in prior to high school. As everyone knows, elementary friends break apart, so did the group and her and I never really spoke to each other since the group split.

Near the end of last year (Grade 11) I've caught her eyeing me a few times, alone and with friends. This year she started giving me large smiles and greetings when we pass by in the hallway; I return each one of them. She usually hangs out with her friend about 90% of the time, when not in class. I've never had an actual excuse to walk up to them and talk to them, other than once when we were looking for someone to smoke with; it was just a quick greet and interrogation. But when my friends and I walk up to a group that involves her she gives me the smile and greeting, and I notice she smiles most of the time I am around, and she locks her gaze onto me, like how a magnet leads to metal when close. I find her avoiding conversation with me, and I am the one who initiates it about most of the time.

From previous experiences, I'm pretty sure she has a crush on me, but it's hard to tell because she's a social and friendly person. I don't want to confront her asking about it if she is only being friendly. One thing I consider is that I don't really see her doing these things around other people other than when I am around. I don't actually have a crush on her, but that's not saying I wouldn't date her. I've texted one of her older friends, who happens to be my friend; I asked if this girl talks about me when I am not around, or if she preforms these friendly actions around anyone else. The friend responded saying she's never heard her talk about me, but they don't hang out that much anymore. She told me to just talk to this girl and ask her, but I have anxiety problems which steers me away from such situations because I'm not sure how to start a conversation with her or continue one.

There is a party coming up on Halloween that I would like to invite her to, so time is limited on assessing this situation. Maybe I could use the party as a first date idea, or a way just to talk to her?

Anyway, a tl;dr version of this is I think this girl has a crush on me, I want to take it a step further by confirming this and if so, asking her out. I've never previously had relationship experiences with another person outside of family/friend. Any help on how I can approach this situation and get it rolling?

I think you should invite her to the party, don't think of it as a date but think of it as you are inviting her as a friend to join you. But I do think when your at the party you should try to talk to her about it. For all you know she probably does like you and wants you to make the first move. Either way invite her to the party and just talk to her, you never know you two will probably end up dating after the party! Best of luck to you and hope this is of help.

JamesSuperBoy
October 23rd, 2014, 02:49 PM
That's true... I guess I'll just be getting stoned then. That way I can still drive her home later that night.

Oh well -

Baconator
October 23rd, 2014, 02:50 PM
Oh well -

What?

Karkat
October 23rd, 2014, 05:21 PM
I'd say inviting her, and talking to her while you're there is a good idea. Worse comes to worst, it's not an actual date, so you can get away from her if needed.

Baconator
October 23rd, 2014, 07:43 PM
Thanks for all the advice. Can someone suggest a method as to how I can approach her. Like state above, I've talked to her in Grade 9 from a group way, and we don't talk now, she just says hey to me or talks to me through another group. Any ways on how I can approach her from scratch?

CanadianJake
October 25th, 2014, 07:20 PM
Thanks for all the advice. Can someone suggest a method as to how I can approach her. Like state above, I've talked to her in Grade 9 from a group way, and we don't talk now, she just says hey to me or talks to me through another group. Any ways on how I can approach her from scratch?

Just go up to her and talk to her by saying hello. Just say hello and talk to her for awhile then ask her if she wants to go to the halloween party!

Baconator
October 25th, 2014, 11:30 PM
Just go up to her and talk to her by saying hello. Just say hello and talk to her for awhile then ask her if she wants to go to the halloween party!

Well no shit, I mean what can I use as a topic...

CanadianJake
October 26th, 2014, 01:13 PM
Well no shit, I mean what can I use as a topic...

Well is she interested in sports, music or something that you know of? good way to start off a conversation anyways if you know just one of her interests.