Getting bored of my girlfriend?

[Vflask]

So me and my gf are 16 and have been dating for 6 months. Lately, i've felt like everytime we hang out its been meaning less and less. Its not enjoyable to the point were I dont even look forward to seeing her or texting her anymore. In other words im not happy. Is it because we've been seeing eachother too often (every other day) or is it because we're losing the interest in eachother? The fun stuff we used to do isn't even fun for me anymore but I just dont want that, I want everything to be normal again. I've told her and she said shes not enthusiastic around me because she doesn't sleep enough. Shes not really doing much to help it either. Im stuck and i just feel terrible, i dont want to lose her and she doesnt want to lose me either, but she seems a little careless.

[Wyatt 13]

oh well man I think you need to come clean and share with her your feelings and take like a break keeping the friendship.

[AussieBoi98]

Id just go bi its funner and at least for me you don't have to stick to the same person so it never gets boring ;)







So me and my gf are 16 and have been dating for 6 months. Lately, i've felt like everytime we hang out its been meaning less and less. Its not enjoyable to the point were I dont even look forward to seeing her or texting her anymore. In other words im not happy. Is it because we've been seeing eachother too often (every other day) or is it because we're losing the interest in eachother? The fun stuff we used to do isn't even fun for me anymore but I just dont want that, I want everything to be normal again. I've told her and she said shes not enthusiastic around me because she doesn't sleep enough. Shes not really doing much to help it either. Im stuck and i just feel terrible, i dont want to lose her and she doesnt want to lose me either, but she seems a little careless.

[queenofcontrariety]

If you aren't happy don't stay, it's easier to cut ties while trying to leave some remnants of a friendship than to try and do so if things go on longer, you'll feel more guilty the longer it goes.

[Croconaw]

I recommend to break up with her now while the feelings are mutual.

[Cangirl]

i think you should break up to or take a break for sure. If you're not having fun she can tell and you don't want her to resent you right?

[mollyjellybelly]

OK, I'm only 13 and I haven't really had a steady boyfriend so take this for what it's worth but if you're that unhappy you need to do something. Are you sure she feels the same way you do? Do you both miss the same things or are you just in two different places now? But you should either try to fix it or move on. It's not helping either of you to leave everything like it is now.

[SethfromMI]

I think it is time to consider breaking ties. at least taking a break form the relationship

[liptonlee]

i guess the foundation of your relationship isn't that good if feelings are gone after the attraction period...not much point in prolonging the 'suffering' and hinder yourselves from the bigger world!

[Melodic]

Your life is too short. Don't waste your time on a relationship that isn't making you happy. If you continue down the path of having an unhappy relationship, it will only bring further problems and make you resent her. It's best to just end it now.

[UnknownError]

If you have already talked about it with her and nothing has changed since, I'd see how it goes for maybe another week or two then bring it up again. If nothing continues to change after that then maybe consider taking a weeks break or just breaking up altogether (some people don't feel comfortable with the "taking a break" situation).

If you did do that though then you'd probably discover how you really feel towards her in regards to missing her/wanting to spend time with her etc. If you don't really feel this way over the week then it would probably be best to just end it.

[Horatio Nelson]

I recommend to break up with her now while the feelings are mutual.

This.


You don't want to be stuck in something that nobody wants. That doesn't do anyone any good.

[CanadianJake]

There's nothing much to be said because a lot of the post's here would be the exactly the same thing I would have said.

You should just take a break from the relationship and go back to a friendship building level, basically rebuild your friendship and hangout as friends. Maybe if you both just hangout as friends, you both will have a better time together meaning having fun again. If your both satisfied as being friends then it means the relationship between you and her wasn't meant to be and your only meant to be friends. However if you feel like you can't do it then don't but there's no point in being in a relationship that's not making you happy because it'll only lead to worser things then they are now.

Either way hope this helps.

[Karkat]

Id just go bi its funner and at least for me you don't have to stick to the same person so it never gets boring ;)

Ok for one thing, this is absurd advice. You can't just "go bi", and there are plenty of people who are monogamous, or relatively so who are bisexual. Myself included.

And imo, hopping from person to person would get boring.

Not to mention that this doesn't even really relate to the question at hand. But anyways.

@OP, if you don't want to entirely break things off, maybe just take a break from each other for now. HOWEVER, a quick warning- don't get your hopes too high on getting back together if you do. While it's totally possible- maybe all you need is a break- a lot of people who need breaks end up needing kinda permanent ones.

But staying together doesn't seem like a good idea, imo. However, whatever you decide, you should talk things through and make sure you're on the same page.

[ashdyn]

I've been in a relationship with the same person for a really long time so I know all about the changing dynamics in a relationship. What you're feeling is completely normal in a highschool relationship and it only means that it's time to move on. It happens all the time. The idea of dating someone sounds so awesome at the beginning but after a while you just figure out you're not compatable. It's highschool...it's when you're supposed to figure out what you do and don't like about people you're in a relationship with. Don't feel bad breaking up with her. She more than likely feels the same way.

[Vflask]

This.


You don't want to be stuck in something that nobody wants. That doesn't do anyone any good.

Sorry I didn't mean to say that she felt mutually too, I meant to say that she is the one that likes me and will stay for me and help me to do anything I can to get those feelings back. Sometimes I feel fine when I'm with her and everythings normal, and sometimes I feel like I don't like her at all. It's really hard for me to let go of someone who has such good qualities and we've shared the best times together. I just need some guidance on how to get my feelings back because thats all I want. I've felt like this a couple weeks ago, then I felt completely fine the week after UNTIL, one day the next week we were hanging out, and she seemed totally uninterested and just boring, like we had nothing in common for a second, and then I got all these negative thoughts back. Its weird too because sometimes I look forward to hanging out with her, and sometimes I don't, thats what gives me hope. I forgot to mention I have anxiety disorder as well so it very well could be tied into that because I get very bad nausea when I feel negative about her.

[chaosbreak]

Man, I know how you feel somehow. Had this same problem with a girl I had a complicated relationship w/ not too long ago.

Don't mind me if I'm being a little insensitive here but, if you're not happy anymore, and you feel like she's not either, then why do you cling over this relationship? Right now, I feel like you two are more in love with the idea to keep this relationship together than with the other person.

[Babiole]

If you really feel that way, I think you should break up. But try to do it politely. You might need to explain a bit first before you cut to the chase.

Then again, I'm not good at relationship advice.