When Does Straight Become Bi?

[mollyjellybelly]

So I’m sitting here in study hall and instead of working on algebra I’m staring at the cute girl two desks up in the next row and imagining what kinda cute undies she might be wearing. So yeah, no doubt I’m bi-curious and maybe this is way too philosophical a question but here it is: At what point does straight become bi?
Is it strictly a mental thing, like when you don’t fantasize about girls in general but about one particular girl? Or is it like virginity where it has to physically happen? (At least I assume that has to be physical, otherwise I lost my v-card a while ago!!) Is it enough to commit to one person mentally or is that just one of those hormone things where you’re so horny that ANYBODY would probably look interesting and they just happened to be the lucky one?!
And if it does have to be physical, at what level? I’ve kissed other girls at sleepovers and “accidentally” touched some boob, but so has just about every other girl out there so that’s probably not it. But if someone else gets interested in me and I let them do something and I enjoy it, does that count? Or do I have to be the one that starts it? And what if I try it for a while and then decided not to anymore? Can you become un-bi or were you just never bi in the first place?
This isn’t anything I’m stressing over. I’ve pretty much decided that if a get a chance I’m gonna try it. Guess I’m just wondering what everyone else’s thought are.

[Zachary G]

the simple answer is that you are bi curious, not necessarily that you are gay or bi, even though youve already done some light experimenting, you could still be in that curious experimental stage. thats a gay boys point of view.

[mollyjellybelly]

the simple answer is that you are bi curious, not necessarily that you are gay or bi, even though youve already done some light experimenting, you could still be in that curious experimental stage. thats a gay boys point of view.

Yeah, I'm definitely curious! Guess mostly I'm trying to figure at what point others start seeing me as actually bi. Not that I guess it matters. It is what it is.

[Zachary G]

Yeah, I'm definitely curious! Guess mostly I'm trying to figure at what point others start seeing me as actually bi. Not that I guess it matters. It is what it is.

dont be so quick to go and put a label on yourself, just ride it out and see how you feel down the road, then make a decision. it doesnt matter what other people think, they dont make or break you. its your life and your decision and you are the only one that matters as far as any of that is concerned.

[mollyjellybelly]

dont be so quick to go and put a label on yourself, just ride it out and see how you feel down the road, then make a decision. it doesnt matter what other people think, they dont make or break you. its your life and your decision and you are the only one that matters as far as any of that is concerned.

Makes sense. Thanks!!

[deregisterme]

Some quite deep thoughts there. I've certainly been distracted by some cute girls and guys. It certainly happens when I'm horny. I certainly think I'm curious as I do get distracted easily. If someone I liked (boy or girl) tried to kiss me, I would return it, as I'd say I'd have those curious feelings - I've been scared to try myself in case of fear of rejection (or being hit). For now, I'd live in the moment, enjoy it, as we all have time to figure out where we're going

[Karkat]

I feel like there's a strong possibility you could be bisexual, coming from someone who is.

I feel that the point where curious becomes bisexual is different for everyone.

But yeah, like has been said above, don't stress labeling it too much.

[Cangirl]

I'm like you molly i wonder what other people look like naked and what undies their wearing and lots of other stuff and I've heard that almost everybody does. So doesn't make you bi or anything but curious for sure. Maybe you need to try something first to find out idk. but don't be embarrassed or whatever. I know some of my gfs and me have experimented at sleepovers and after school and stuff to and more with some to. So give it some time but its scary to wonder i know.

[mollyjellybelly]

Some quite deep thoughts there. I've certainly been distracted by some cute girls and guys. It certainly happens when I'm horny. I certainly think I'm curious as I do get distracted easily. If someone I liked (boy or girl) tried to kiss me, I would return it, as I'd say I'd have those curious feelings - I've been scared to try myself in case of fear of rejection (or being hit). For now, I'd live in the moment, enjoy it, as we all have time to figure out where we're going

Yeah, that's what keeps me from actually trying it is I worry about losing a friend over it. On the other had, what if they feel the same way and they're waiting for me to make the first move? I guess I'm just hoping that some weekend we're all gonna be totally hormonal and it'll just happen. But f it doesn't, I've still got my friends.

The deep questions come easy to me. It's the deep answers that always give me trouble! Thanks!!

[mollyjellybelly]

I'm like you molly i wonder what other people look like naked and what undies their wearing and lots of other stuff and I've heard that almost everybody does. So doesn't make you bi or anything but curious for sure. Maybe you need to try something first to find out idk. but don't be embarrassed or whatever. I know some of my gfs and me have experimented at sleepovers and after school and stuff to and more with some to. So give it some time but its scary to wonder i know.

Glad I'm not the only on that does that!! Yeah, I'm ready to try. Just waiting for the right moment and person to try it with.

[SethfromMI]

straight becomes bi when you are sexually attracted to both sexes. you may just be curious. time well tell

[ethana512]

Sometimes I think about it from the other side.... when does gay become bi?

[Luminous]

OP banned. :locked: