My Brother

[jockeyboy97]

Hi everybody I need some advice, unfortunately this is something I can't talk to my parents about. I caught my brother experimenting with his friend. His friend spent the night Saturday and I walked in on them Sunday morning, because my Mom sent me to his room to call them for breakfast. I called his name, knocked the door and he yelled something so i opened the door. They were naked and it looked like my brother was giving his friend a bj. I said sorry and closed the door. It was an awkward Sunday and Monday. I tried talking to him but he won't even look at me or say one word. He closes his door and I don't know what to do. Were really close and have talked about sex and puberty and I even told him about masturbating. We have seen each other naked. I don't care if he experiments with guys because I experiment with guys. It bugs me so much that he doesn't want to talk to me or hang out. My mom and dad even asked me what's wrong with us, and if we had a fight. I just want him to know I don't care what he does and that I'm there for him.
I couldn't even sleep last night. I don't want him to feel guilty, I just don't know what to do. Should I leave him alone or try to talk to him. Today he told me to get out of his room and go to hell and fuck off. That made me feel bad because he has never told me anything like that and neither have I. I will take any advice anyone can give me.

[ksdnfkfr]

He's obviously embarrassed as hell. Act like nothing happened and give him time to get over it. Might take a while. Cool that you're such an understanding big bro.

[James Dean]

Oh gosh, :(. He is just probably shocked right now as well as being humiliated and confused about it all.

I would just pretend it never happened, and just let it be for right now. Give him some time to chill about it. After a while you can try to talk and discuss it more with him. If he is still acting strange about it, then don't bring it up ever again unless he does. Don't act any different or try to force him to talk about it if he doesn't want to. Hopefully everything goes well. :)

[JamesSuperBoy]

Hi everybody I need some advice, unfortunately this is something I can't talk to my parents about. I caught my brother experimenting with his friend. His friend spent the night Saturday and I walked in on them Sunday morning, because my Mom sent me to his room to call them for breakfast. I called his name, knocked the door and he yelled something so i opened the door. They were naked and it looked like my brother was giving his friend a bj. I said sorry and closed the door. It was an awkward Sunday and Monday. I tried talking to him but he won't even look at me or say one word. He closes his door and I don't know what to do. Were really close and have talked about sex and puberty and I even told him about masturbating. We have seen each other naked. I don't care if he experiments with guys because I experiment with guys. It bugs me so much that he doesn't want to talk to me or hang out. My mom and dad even asked me what's wrong with us, and if we had a fight. I just want him to know I don't care what he does and that I'm there for him.
I couldn't even sleep last night. I don't want him to feel guilty, I just don't know what to do. Should I leave him alone or try to talk to him. Today he told me to get out of his room and go to hell and fuck off. That made me feel bad because he has never told me anything like that and neither have I. I will take any advice anyone can give me.


maybe he is just awkward - could be confused to if he feels he is gay or just curious - hormones rampant and he is unfairly taking it out on you - just chill for now

[Zachary G]

He's obviously embarrassed as hell. Act like nothing happened and give him time to get over it. Might take a while. Cool that you're such an understanding big bro.

yeah, i think this is the best and simplest advice anyone cold give. just give him some room and some time to cool off and process it all. he will get past it in time.

[xXEverReadyXx]

He is obviously embarrassed, so with these kind of situations you really need to give the person time to get their head around what has happened. After a while, if you pretend that nothing has happened then hopefully there won't be some much awkwardness, only then, if he wants to, should you talk to him about it. Its totally normal btw :)

[Wyatt 13]

Jeez man If i were him I felt very embarrassed cuz you are my bro dude and you saw me giving head to other dude..so I think just let the time pass and respect his silence.

[fast8]

I let him cool down awhile then maybe tell him its ok or just text him tellin him your not mad or upset you have done that before to its fine

[Cangirl]

I agree let him kinda come down from being embarrassed about you seeing him do that. Or you can just say something like "hey I've done it so no biggie, doesn't make you gay or whatever' and then go on to talk about something else. You could say that you did it and not say that you saw him know what I mean? just let him know about that its ok to experiment and stuff. and yeah you're a cool older brother.

[Uranus]

He's probably embarrassed. I mean, he was caught experimenting by his own brother. Give him some time. He's probably not mad, but confused and embarrassed and probably doesn't even know what to say. You're his brother so don't just move and and act like it happened and all that. You should talk to him. If he won't listen to you it's probably because he would be too embarrassed to talk, even with his brother. Maybe if he has a phone, send him a text, and say what you would if you sat down with him. It'll be easier for him through a text rather than face to face.

[jordanhardy]

Give him time, he'll come round eventually. When he does, explain to him that your supportive and that the he has nothing to be ashamed of. It sounds like your quite close so it shouldn't take long to go back to normal.

[SethfromMI]

let things die down. as people said, pretend it didn't even happen. I guess down the road if you feel it is the right time to talk you can try, but to be honest, I would wait till he comes to you. if he doesn't want to talk to you about that (and I know you just want to help and I respect that) , understand it is just something he doesn't want to share.

it is just a very awkward thing for him. probably more for him than you sounds like. time will heal this wound soon enough

[ethana512]

Yeah just ignore it and knock louder next time.

[chaosbreak]

Give him some space. You can't really force him to confess stuff to you right away, that's just gonna be like pushing him away. Let him do whatever he wants for now, when he finds the courage to tell you whatever his reason was, then, make him feel like you're there for him.

[Semi_IronMan]

He's embarrased. Give him some time, he'll come around

[kay_jay]

Just give him time, I wish I had such an understanding brother like you.