To reach out or not to reach out

[queenofcontrariety]

There's this guy who I'm pretty crazy about but I know I shouldn't be. He's two years older and six hours away. We've been talking online for over a year but it's never been a daily thing and all of a sudden I'm really bothered by it. He is no where near perfect but his flaws and mine seem to match up perfectly. We've been known to refer to it as our own little demented but equally beautiful fairytale. I sometimes feel like I bother him when I reach out but we always have these amazing conversations. I know he read my last message but he never responded and I feel horrible about. I want to reach out and say something but I worry I'm just a burden he doesn't need.

[CosmicNoodle]

Just send a simple message asking if he's ok. What harm could it do?

[asrlem]

Just send a simple message asking if he's ok. What harm could it do?
^^ right there. Just ask something simple and not mean like why didnt you answer just a simple phrase.

[Hideous]

I feel the same way about the guy I'm talking to, but just not for a year long. I think you should just be confident and tell him, what's the worse that can happen?

[James Dean]

That's the thing with online and long distance relationships, you have to work even harder to show love and connection and a bond for each other. Don't stress over this too much. You don't know why he didn't reply. Don't assume he is ignoring you, or if you did something to upset him. Regardless, just stay in touch with him and let him know how you feel as with any relationship. Good luck and take care.

[Zsofia]

Always need to reach out. A lot of people come and go in life. I rather receive a rejection and loose a chance to be friend for a few years with someone then thinking on the chance I have missed when I finally really loose the person. When we grow up, only a few people stay in our life from the early years. I like to think I have the power to choose the ones. Or give it a chance at least.

[JamesSuperBoy]

There's this guy who I'm pretty crazy about but I know I shouldn't be. He's two years older and six hours away. We've been talking online for over a year but it's never been a daily thing and all of a sudden I'm really bothered by it. He is no where near perfect but his flaws and mine seem to match up perfectly. We've been known to refer to it as our own little demented but equally beautiful fairytale. I sometimes feel like I bother him when I reach out but we always have these amazing conversations. I know he read my last message but he never responded and I feel horrible about. I want to reach out and say something but I worry I'm just a burden he doesn't need.

maybe he kinda thinks the same - or now he has other things to get on with but you could message him and just ask and be honest as how you feel.

[Cangirl]

maybe ask if everything is ok and how he feels about everything with you two. its hard though.

[sweetcake]

I think he might have forgotten to reply.. I do that all the time, opening a chat/message and promising myself to reply it afterwards, but then I simply forget :whoops:

[Wyatt 13]

That's the thing with online and long distance relationships, you have to work even harder to show love and connection and a bond for each other. Don't stress over this too much. You don't know why he didn't reply. Don't assume he is ignoring you, or if you did something to upset him. Regardless, just stay in touch with him and let him know how you feel as with any relationship. Good luck and take care.


I totally agree with CELT

[Melodic]

People tend to not reply to things all the time. Don't stress yourself out and find something to distract yourself while you wait for him to reply. If it ends up being a few extra days, then try messaging him again to see if he's okay.

[june3000]

I know how you feel. Just send him a simple "hey, how are you?" If he is annoyed by this than he isn't worth the effort. Think of it like a test for both of you

[Karkat]

Entirely agree with Charles. LDRs can be very hard work.

But they can also be worth the effort. :) Definitely go for it if you feel it's what you want.

[liptonlee]

you might be reading too much on the no reply thing lol but it won't hurt for a follow-up message!

[Body odah Man]

There's this guy who I'm pretty crazy about but I know I shouldn't be. He's two years older and six hours away. We've been talking online for over a year but it's never been a daily thing and all of a sudden I'm really bothered by it. He is no where near perfect but his flaws and mine seem to match up perfectly. We've been known to refer to it as our own little demented but equally beautiful fairytale. I sometimes feel like I bother him when I reach out but we always have these amazing conversations. I know he read my last message but he never responded and I feel horrible about. I want to reach out and say something but I worry I'm just a burden he doesn't need.

I agree with other posters. Send him a line or ask him how his day was.

[queenofcontrariety]

Thanks for all the replies, but he didn't even open it. I mean he has his own issues and I'm just hoping he's alright at this point, but this isn't the first time this has happened and it won't be the last. It just bugs me because he was like the one person I know understood and when he doesn't reply when I need him to most of all I just flip. Thanks for the support and everything but I think I have to walk away from the situation for a bit.