and here I go again

[Professional Russian]

I have a partially restarted relationship with a girl I grew up with. Not dating or any of that but a friendship. Anyways though I've been telling her a lot of things I think about her without her knowing it was me. And everything I said was true. 100% true. And Ive also done a few other things she thinks are bad when it was only for her own and I don't know how to handle it when it comes in a conversation and I know it will. Basically it goes like this :I've known her damn near all 13 years of her life. I know at one point she was depressed because of what people said to her. About 2 months after finding put about that we went her parents boat with her and of course she was in a bikini. And I looked and studied and stared for hours at her body looking scars in fear that she started self harming. But when she noticed my staring she just looked at shook her head and walked away and got dressed. I don't know how to handle this when she questions me about it. I know she will. Any advice from anyone? Please?

[HUSTLEMAN]

Uhh, take this with a grain of salt b/c I am horrible with stuff like this but I would just tell her truth because anything less than that would make you look like a creep and would destroy the relationship you guys are trying to rebuild.

[Professional Russian]

Uhh, take this with a grain of salt b/c I am horrible with stuff like this but I would just tell her truth because anything less than that would make you look like a creep and would destroy the relationship you guys are trying to rebuild.

When it comes to things like that the truth is harder to believe than a lie. she's obviously gonna believe oh I stared at your body because its sexy as hell over I was looking for scars indicating self harm because I knew about how you felt before and I don't want you to self harm of that

[HUSTLEMAN]

When it comes to things like that the truth is harder to believe than a lie. she's obviously gonna believe oh I stared at your body because its sexy as hell over I was looking for scars indicating self harm because I knew about how you felt before and I don't want you to self harm of that

Go with the truth b/c either way you're gonna look like a creep (assuming she doesn't know about what you know) but at least tell her that you deeply care about her and that you want her to go through any pain.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Relationships and Dating :arrow: Family and Friends

It fits better here.

[Karkat]

I agree with Keyshawn. Just tell her, and apologize for making her feel uncomfortable. I don't think you can really do anything else.

[Professional Russian]

I agree with Keyshawn. Just tell her, and apologize for making her feel uncomfortable. I don't think you can really do anything else.

I'm hopeing she understands that it was for her not me.

[Karkat]

I'm hopeing she understands that it was for her not me.

And hopefully she will. I think if you let her know that you're worried about her, she'll be better able to understand, and she might forgive you. Good luck.

[Professional Russian]

And hopefully she will. I think if you let her know that you're worried about her, she'll be better able to understand, and she might forgive you. Good luck.

Its hard to do that when she's only 13 and I'm 17. Its hard for her to see it the same way I do because of the age difference. She's used to guys going after her for her body not makeing sure she's OK like I do.

[Karkat]

Its hard to do that when she's only 13 and I'm 17. Its hard for her to see it the same way I do because of the age difference. She's used to guys going after her for her body not makeing sure she's OK like I do.

It's still worth a shot, imo.

[Professional Russian]

It's still worth a shot, imo.

Well I'm gonna try. Obviously I'm not letting this relationship go to shit over a misunderstanding. She'll realize what I was doing eventually. And if she doesn't realize it now I guarantee her mom will explain it better than. I did.