Can't let go.

[pashathedrummer94]

A year ago i was kicked out of my ex-girlfriends house. i was being a dick and i was selfish. and its amazing how much you can grow and realize things in a year. but i have been having these dreams about her and her two little dogs who i love to death. its been getting really hard for me despite keeping my distance from things that remind me of her. (we would always play left 4 dead and GTA together, so i've stopped playing them and many other fave games entirely.) i miss her. and i treated her so horribly. she uses these forums so im afraid she will see this. she's moved on. i was pretty much nothing but a hindrance in my opinion. but she meant everything to me. i've just been having a rough time. i still have everything she ever gave me in a little box under my bed. my best friend keeps telling i should burn it for closure. so i can move on. i just miss her so much. i just needed to vent, but if anyone has advice or anything on how i can stop wanting her back so badly please give advice. she moved across the country and sometimes i feel like it was all because of me. (i know it wasnt. im not that egotistical, but its how i feel sometimes)

[liptonlee]

With all due respect, I guess you fucked up the relationship and there's not much point in reminiscing the glories of your past...

Be firm and cut off all your ties with her, and yes, burn that memory chest. Looking at it will not get you any further, but drag you down to the vicious cycle of self-pity and missing her.

You see, you get emotional upheavals because of her, but this is not reciprocated!! So she doesn't value you that much and bro it's time to let go...

seemed like too much talking lol but hope it helped!

[JamesSuperBoy]

I agree ^^

But you have to find closure in some way - maybe just realize you have changed for the better - have regrets but learn from the whole deal.

[Body odah Man]

A year ago i was kicked out of my ex-girlfriends house. i was being a dick and i was selfish. and its amazing how much you can grow and realize things in a year. but i have been having these dreams about her and her two little dogs who i love to death. its been getting really hard for me despite keeping my distance from things that remind me of her. (we would always play left 4 dead and GTA together, so i've stopped playing them and many other fave games entirely.) i miss her. and i treated her so horribly. she uses these forums so im afraid she will see this. she's moved on. i was pretty much nothing but a hindrance in my opinion. but she meant everything to me. i've just been having a rough time. i still have everything she ever gave me in a little box under my bed. my best friend keeps telling i should burn it for closure. so i can move on. i just miss her so much. i just needed to vent, but if anyone has advice or anything on how i can stop wanting her back so badly please give advice. she moved across the country and sometimes i feel like it was all because of me. (i know it wasnt. im not that egotistical, but its how i feel sometimes)

I getcha, kinda. You miss the girl you love(d), yet you were too egoistical, immature to let her know. Sadly you probably never will get her back because humans are very unforgiving and quite cruel. I think the best thing you can do is try to aim closure OR try to talk to her (call or FB or visit) and tell her you've changed, you miss her, and you want to be friends again and if that fails then aim for closure. Good luck friend.

[tcjonvt]

Get over it.
I hate to say it as brutally as this (I don't really, I'm an incredibly serious and blunt person) but seriously- you had your chance, she gave you a chance- and you gambled. You lost.

You have to accept what you learn in life, and this is one situation where you've been the manipulator. I can only hope you find another girl who will not only give you that second chance but also give you some free lessons in how to not be selfish.

(Which reminds me, I have to take my "be a not so selfish and loser person, Hans" pill. Thanks)

[sweetcake]

If you really, really, really still love her, you should give her a call or contact her somehow, apologize about how messed up you were as her BF, ask her to be friends again, etc.
But if it's just a-gosh I miss her so much, I was a jerk, she's moved on, she's so happy without me:(-phase, get over her. If you contact her under those circumstances, that'll just show how self centered you still are.