Dealing with a 'difficult' friend.

[mrrbatty]

I don't really know what else to title this, haha. This is also my first time here, I wouldn't usually come to a forum, but I'm not sure who else to go to.

I've been really good friends with someone since primary school, I really enjoy their company, we get along really well. Lately I became interested in a girl (and from now on anything i say feels really stupid) and we got along really well together. Yeah, I like her. Lately he's cottoned on to this and decided to take a shot at her as well, with similar results to what I've done. I've asked him to back off, as I've been hanging out with her for a long while and he's kind of turned into a dick any time the topic comes up, short story- he says no. Now I'm one of those people, if there are others, that not obsess, but really get taken up in someone. It gets to the point where I'm hair-tearing-ly frustrated with them both, and I feel like it's slowly driving me insane inside, even though we're about net even with our friendships with her.

Now here's the hard bit. Her mother has cancer, she's had it for a long time and it is a big deal, but we all get on with our lives. At the same time as this, my friend (behind her back) has been making a bunch of pretty mean cancer jokes, not about her, but about other people we also know who has cancer (one of our primary school friend's mother). They may call it 'banter' or not seious, but it's pretty bad. I'm really torn to going to her and saying 'This is what he's like' and stuff, half in a way to get revenge on him, and half because I think she deserves to know. Another half is torn in protecting her feelings and not making it worse for myself by explaining why I saw those mean conversations anyway. I really like this girl, and my friend's being a dick, yeah, I want to get back at him, but I'm really unsure about what to do in general, as well as what to do about his conversations.

Sorry if this broke a rule or something, or I seem insane to you guys, or something. I just don't really know what to do anymore.

[Luminous]

Mental Crisis Forum :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[tcjonvt]

If they're making you insane, and not for your benefit, stay away from both of them. Sometimes in life, if you have to move on from someone, then you have to. I had to break way with my best friendship of four years last year because he couldn't accept that I had bi leanings. And especially if he's making jokes behind someone else's back, then that's about as disgraceful as a person can get.

[Leprous]

I don't really know what else to title this, haha. This is also my first time here, I wouldn't usually come to a forum, but I'm not sure who else to go to.

I've been really good friends with someone since primary school, I really enjoy their company, we get along really well. Lately I became interested in a girl (and from now on anything i say feels really stupid) and we got along really well together. Yeah, I like her. Lately he's cottoned on to this and decided to take a shot at her as well, with similar results to what I've done. I've asked him to back off, as I've been hanging out with her for a long while and he's kind of turned into a dick any time the topic comes up, short story- he says no. Now I'm one of those people, if there are others, that not obsess, but really get taken up in someone. It gets to the point where I'm hair-tearing-ly frustrated with them both, and I feel like it's slowly driving me insane inside, even though we're about net even with our friendships with her.

Now here's the hard bit. Her mother has cancer, she's had it for a long time and it is a big deal, but we all get on with our lives. At the same time as this, my friend (behind her back) has been making a bunch of pretty mean cancer jokes, not about her, but about other people we also know who has cancer (one of our primary school friend's mother). They may call it 'banter' or not seious, but it's pretty bad. I'm really torn to going to her and saying 'This is what he's like' and stuff, half in a way to get revenge on him, and half because I think she deserves to know. Another half is torn in protecting her feelings and not making it worse for myself by explaining why I saw those mean conversations anyway. I really like this girl, and my friend's being a dick, yeah, I want to get back at him, but I'm really unsure about what to do in general, as well as what to do about his conversations.

Sorry if this broke a rule or something, or I seem insane to you guys, or something. I just don't really know what to do anymore.

Well, if you really care about this girl, stay with her, try to ignore the person making those mean jokes. Be there for your friend, show her that you care. If you just want this all to end I suggest just finding new friends.

[Seafood]

I left a good friend because he thought I was cutting for attention and thought I was a lesser person.