Venting I suppose

[Under My Skin]

So back in May I dated this guy from England (long distance) and it lasted until the end of July. I loved him so much but he fell out of love with me and it hurt...everywhere. He was my first love and it tore me to pieces. It's been a while and I've gotten better. But sometimes I'll have a tiny memory and I'll break all over again and I'll have to tell everyone I'm fine because they got tired of me moaning about my ex. I think I'll have feelings for him for a long while. One of our mutual friends even told me that he said: I would never date Taylor again.... that hurt. We haven't properly talked since the break up. He pretty much hates me. And I think...or I KNOW I still have the slightest bit of feelings for him. I miss him. I still cry over him time to time. But it's not as frequent as it used to be. I just don't know what to do...I miss him. I admit it. I miss him.

[Hideous]

I feel the same way about the guy I've been talking to, he is someone I could relate to and we pretty much fell in love with each other, but tables have turned and we do not talk anymore. I know you miss him, but the best thing to do is to move on before you drown yourself in your thoughts.

Try to focus your thoughts on something else instead. It's a difference, but important. For example, you can train yourself to contemplate something whenever thoughts of him arise. It's hard, but you change from thinking about him to thinking productively.

Meditation also helps a lot in taking back control of yourself. Learn to sit still and just observe your thoughts for ten to fifteen minutes without getting lost in them.

Another strategy is to just give yourself a certain amount of time each day to think of him, and resolve not to do so any other time. Probably won't help you forget, but it will lessen the distraction he provides. The more you do this, the less you'll think about him.

You are an amazing person, stay strong.

[Laraa.01]

Well long distance relationships are the hardest to pull off as you are having to do without the close physical contact that many people need to have a relationship. Also if he was your first love that always hurts the most. The only thing you can do is try and put it all behind you and as Alluring has said try and focus your thoughts on the future rather than thinking about the past. There are other guys out there many just as amazing as that guy from England :)