How to tell the parents :/

[John040393]

Hey guys, I'm new to this forum so please bear with me.
ok so here's the deal.
I started dating this girl a few weeks ago, the problem is that my parents are.. How can I put it, a bit aristocratic, and have high standards as far as girls i see are concerned.
This girl I'm dating, well, she has a kid, and I'm pretty sure that she smokes marijuana on occasion to, and I know she is involved with some sort of custody dispute with her ex over the kid as well. She ran away from home a few months back and has been staying with a friend ever since who does hard drugs.
My problem, and question is, how do I tell my parents that she is black?

[Hideous]

I do not think telling your parents what race she is will give you the answer you need, to be with her. Now tell me, you really want to be with her... right? I'd say to have a talk with your parents, have them sit them and tell them you've been dating this girl (you don't want to hold it off until they find out, and if you do hesitate to tell them, it will be worse). From what I read above, your girlfriend has gone through a rough time, and I think that should be something you should tell your parents so they could understand where you are coming from. It is better to be honest and open with your parents because they do care for you. I'm not the one to make assumptions but do you live in a household where racism is often brought up?

[John040393]

Yes, race is often an issue in our household. I am not supposed to know this, but my
older sister told me the other day, that my dad doesn't like black people because my mum had an affair with a black guy a few years back :/

[CosmicNoodle]

Hey guys, I'm new to this forum so please bear with me.
ok so here's the deal.
I started dating this girl a few weeks ago, the problem is that my parents are.. How can I put it, a bit aristocratic, and have high standards as far as girls i see are concerned.
This girl I'm dating, well, she has a kid, and I'm pretty sure that she smokes marijuana on occasion to, and I know she is involved with some sort of custody dispute with her ex over the kid as well. She ran away from home a few months back and has been staying with a friend ever since who does hard drugs.
My problem, and question is, how do I tell my parents that she is black?


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You talk of your parentsb as if they are simply abit snobish, then it turns out they are just plain racist, wow, your parents are bad people. No offense.

Race shouldn't come into a relationship, and your parents can't tell you who you can and can't date, just tell them, and if they don't like it, screw them. They can't control who you date, it's simply not up to them.

[jordanhardy]

Yes, race is often an issue in our household. I am not supposed to know this, but my
older sister told me the other day, that my dad doesn't like black people because my mum had an affair with a black guy a few years back :/

So it's your dad that won't like it? Can't imagine your mum would have a issue. She'd be a bit hypocritical to reject her because she's black, or may have some moral issues. Your mum had an affair, she's hardly an angel herself!

[CrazyPerson101]

That sucks that your parents are judgy on race, I'm not sure how to tell someone who's against a certain race... Um, sit them down and tell them that the girl you're dating is black and if they don't agree with it, they'll have to live with it

[James Dean]

Oh lord, this is quite a dilemma that sadly, is very common. Luckily, parents are becoming more open minded as we go on in the world. I just suggest that you find a nice and quiet time and preferably talk to both your parents together and tell them that you happened to find yourself in a relationship with a girl that isn't your race. Tell them something along the lines of, I don't want to force you to like it or her, but love is love and I really like her. I want to know if it is okay if she can come over to meet everyone?

Take it from there. Keep us updated. Take care of yourself and good luck. :)

[John040393]

I spoke to them about it today, It actually went suprisingly well, guess I was kind of worrying over nothing, appreciate the support and advice.
Thank you :)