so my folks are getting devorced

[voodoo doughnut]

i saw this coming. but still. its painful. they put it off until we got up to washington so my mom could be with her sister. my dad wants to go to japan if you can believe that shit. so if he dose i'll hardly ever see him. i fucking hate his guts right now. and we've argued a lot the last couple of years. and him and my mom fight all the time.

[Pacaveli]

This is a re-occurring theme, in the US the divorce rate is over 50%, almost the worst. My parents were married for 26 years, and they started to argue the last 5 years in the relationship. The truth is, relationships do get stale. If you want to get some advice feel free to quote my post.

[voodoo doughnut]

This is a re-occurring theme, in the US the divorce rate is over 50%, almost the worst. My parents were married for 26 years, and they started to argue the last 5 years in the relationship. The truth is, relationships do get stale. If you want to get some advice feel free to quote my post.


i could use some advice

[Pacaveli]

i could use some advice

Whom are you most comfortable with in you're family (regarding parents)? Try weighing you're pro's and con's. Sometimes parents tend to create stress for children while in an abusive relationship.

[voodoo doughnut]

Whom are you most comfortable with in you're family (regarding parents)? Try weighing you're pro's and con's. Sometimes parents tend to create stress for children while in an abusive relationship.


my mom. i'm not fighting with my mom. my mom's not the one who's leaving.

[Pacaveli]

my mom. i'm not fighting with my mom. my mom's not the one who's leaving.

Well, you might not understand now. But with parent related issues, you could be better off with that. You're mother could be angry because of you're father, and she's just choosing to take it out on you, which is unfortunate. However, if you're father leaves, you're mother has a chance to be in a better mood.

[voodoo doughnut]

Well, you might not understand now. But with parent related issues, you could be better off with that. You're mother could be angry because of you're father, and she's just choosing to take it out on you, which is unfortunate. However, if you're father leaves, you're mother has a chance to be in a better mood.

i said me and my mom are not fighting. i fight with my dad. my dad is the one abandoning me. i hate his fucking guts. me and my mom get along fine and are supporting each other in this. my dad is being a dick.

[Pacaveli]

i said me and my mom are not fighting. i fight with my dad. my dad is the one abandoning me. i hate his fucking guts. me and my mom get along fine and are supporting each other in this. my dad is being a dick.

Oh, I misunderstood, sorry. Then in you're case it's good you're father is leaving you, it'll be like weight falling off you're shoulders!

[voodoo doughnut]

Oh, I misunderstood, sorry. Then in you're case it's good you're father is leaving you, it'll be like weight falling off you're shoulders!

i still love my dad though. just super pissed at him. it didn't used to be like this. i just want us to be a regular family.

[Karkat]

i still love my dad though. just super pissed at him. it didn't used to be like this. i just want us to be a regular family.

Sadly, you will probably just have to accept the fact that it's not gonna happen in the end. If you don't want to cut ties with your dad, you might try calling him every week or something.

Honestly, during divorces, and times of similar stress, your parents are going to be distracted a lot, and they might not be thinking through how they treat you. So this kinda gives you one of two options with your dad:

-Tell him how you feel about it
-Give him space to avoid conflict, and stress for you both. And the first one might turn into this.

[voodoo doughnut]

Sadly, you will probably just have to accept the fact that it's not gonna happen in the end. If you don't want to cut ties with your dad, you might try calling him every week or something.

Honestly, during divorces, and times of similar stress, your parents are going to be distracted a lot, and they might not be thinking through how they treat you. So this kinda gives you one of two options with your dad:

-Tell him how you feel about it
-Give him space to avoid conflict, and stress for you both. And the first one might turn into this.

i've told him plenty. he knows. gives me the when i'm older i'll understand bullshit. i know the reality of the thing. just wishing and venting. my dad is staying in the apartment for now and me and mom are staying at shea's. so she's got her sis and i've got him to lean on. and my uncle is like my second father. so its not all bad.

[Karkat]

i've told him plenty. he knows. gives me the when i'm older i'll understand bullshit. i know the reality of the thing. just wishing and venting. my dad is staying in the apartment for now and me and mom are staying at shea's. so she's got her sis and i've got him to lean on. and my uncle is like my second father. so its not all bad.

Ah. That's good then.

:hug: Hang in there, hopefully things won't get too messy or stressful.

[voodoo doughnut]

Ah. That's good then.

:hug: Hang in there, hopefully things won't get too messy or stressful.

thanks a lot. i'm mostly worried about my mom. she's pretty busted up over it.

[Karkat]

thanks a lot. i'm mostly worried about my mom. she's pretty busted up over it.

Yeah, divorces are rough as hell- it's literally a breakup magnified by 1000. You might help her out if she needs something done, try to make things a bit easier for her as well for a while.

[voodoo doughnut]

Yeah, divorces are rough as hell- it's literally a breakup magnified by 1000. You might help her out if she needs something done, try to make things a bit easier for her as well for a while.

i'm trying to be an extra good boy right now. her sister my aunt is looking after her mainly. me shea and my uncle are trying to give her space.

[Karkat]

i'm trying to be an extra good boy right now. her sister my aunt is looking after her mainly. me shea and my uncle are trying to give her space.

Ah, that's good then. Well, I wish you guys the best of luck. :)

[ugaboy]

I got the "when you are older" shit from my dad too. Well, I am older now, and NO I still do not understand. I still resent him for leaving us, and don't have much of a relationship with him at all.

I am sure that you and Shea will make it through this together.

[SethfromMI]

I am so sorry to hear that. that is a very difficult thing to have to deal with. I do hope it works out the best for you and your mom. as much as it sucks, it may be for what's best. I know that is not a popular answer. hopefully it will work out for you and your mom though

[Miserabilia]

That's really lame!
My parents divorced but I was cool with it because my dad still lives quite near me, why does your dad want to move to the other way of the world?! That's lame man.

[SethfromMI]

well depending what he does you can get paid some serious money for working on a US military base over there

[CrazyPerson101]

I'm sorry that your parents are getting a divorce, it is hard especially when they're going through with it and afterwards but it gets a little easier with time. Just like everything else, Just know its not your fault that they don't want to be together anymore. Good luck

[JacobIN]

That sucks man. If you want to talk feel free to PM me

[Babiole]

My dad was divorced from his first wife prior to marrying my mom. Mostly it was his ex who had custody since Dad was going to school. My half-sister took it very hard. She disliked my mom at first, and it took over two years before she could accept my mother as her stepmother.