I keep crying over things which people wouldn't normally cry about

[Dying Ember]

I've been feeling kind of down lately and I keep bursting into tears over things which people wouldn't normally cry about. I was just wanting to know, how can you stop yourself crying and calm down?

[Hideous]

Crying is not a bad thing, it just shows how much you care/ or are in pain. In order to stop yourself from crying, think about what you have right now, and how happy you are to have it. Look at the positives in life, life moves on, you will be facing obstacles and it will knock you down. Don't let the fear keep you from climbing, when it knocks you off, get back up and try again.

[wonderland]

I've been feeling kind of down lately and I keep bursting into tears over things which people wouldn't normally cry about. I was just wanting to know, how can you stop yourself crying and calm down?

First I just want to tell you that it's completely normal, it happens to everybody.

My best advice would probably be just to try and calm yourself down. Take deep breaths and just try to relax. You could try distracting yourself and thinking about the things that make you happy as well - take your mind off of the thing that's bothering you.

This is what I do when i'm in that sort of situation and it does help me sometimes :)

[Pacaveli]

This is a common problem, it happens to all of us! I wouldn't consider this as depression, as I don't really think it fits a category. This is most common in teenagers, because of the hormones. It will be over soon!

[ksdnfkfr]

I tend to cry and sob over nothing instead of something in particular. A few nights ago I just curled up and started crying so hard my sides hurt. But I kinda felt better after. It comes and goes. Right now I'm pretty happy again. My therapist calls it "catharsis (http://psychology.about.com/od/cindex/g/catharsis.htm)"

[cookiecrunch]

Crying for me is a special moment. For me, it's the difference between a long episode of depression and a good day. When i cry, i make sure to pour my heart out; on things that burden me inside. Sometimes i like to bottle things up, but crying for a few minutes once in a while is the reason I can let go and be happy.

[cookiecrunch]

I've been feeling kind of down lately and I keep bursting into tears over things which people wouldn't normally cry about. I was just wanting to know, how can you stop yourself crying and calm down?

I think you're already halfway there :)

[SethfromMI]

you just maybe a person who cries more easily. I know a guy on the football team, big, ox like guy, he can cry sometimes about different stuff and no one would are make fun of him

[Dying Ember]

This is a common problem, it happens to all of us! I wouldn't consider this as depression, as I don't really think it fits a category. This is most common in teenagers, because of the hormones. It will be over soon!

yeah, sorry I didn't mean it was depression. I probably put it in the wrong forum but I wasn't sure where else to put it.

[Dying Ember]

First I just want to tell you that it's completely normal, it happens to everybody.

My best advice would probably be just to try and calm yourself down. Take deep breaths and just try to relax. You could try distracting yourself and thinking about the things that make you happy as well - take your mind off of the thing that's bothering you.

This is what I do when i'm in that sort of situation and it does help me sometimes :)

Unfortunately, taking deep breaths seem to make me hyperventilate and cry even harder.. :/
I just hate crying in public or infront of people and that's why I made this thread I guess

[wonderland]

Unfortunately, taking deep breaths seem to make me hyperventilate and cry even harder.. :/
I just hate crying in public or infront of people and that's why I made this thread I guess

Completely understandable, not all methods work for everyone

You could try removing yourself from the situation, head to a bathroom and just let it out there. I understand that there may be some situations where this is not an option though.
Sometimes blinking less often or closing my eyes stops me from crying. You could try distracting yourself with the things around you, name different objects and colours in your head and such. Or you could try singing a song in your head or reciting a poem. If you're not focusing on the thing that's upsetting you then you may be less likely to cry.

I think it's important for me to tell you that it's okay to cry though. Although you don't enjoy it, it can let people know how you're really feeling and can help to grow relationships in some cases.
I understand that crying in front of people can make someone embarrassed or uncomfortable, but make sure that you still give yourself time to let out your emotions through crying - even if it's in private. Keeping strong emotions bottled up will only make you feel worse.

[Dying Ember]

Completely understandable, not all methods work for everyone

You could try removing yourself from the situation, head to a bathroom and just let it out there. I understand that there may be some situations where this is not an option though.
Sometimes blinking less often or closing my eyes stops me from crying. You could try distracting yourself with the things around you, name different objects and colours in your head and such. Or you could try singing a song in your head or reciting a poem. If you're not focusing on the thing that's upsetting you then you may be less likely to cry.

I think it's important for me to tell you that it's okay to cry though. Although you don't enjoy it, it can let people know how you're really feeling and can help to grow relationships in some cases.
I understand that crying in front of people can make someone embarrassed or uncomfortable, but make sure that you still give yourself time to let out your emotions through crying - even if it's in private. Keeping strong emotions bottled up will only make you feel worse.


Thank you so much for your advice, it's really appreciated. You're right, crying does make me feel better in a way.
I barely ever cry infront of my friends but a lot infront of my family. They don't seem to understand how upset I am and I've been told to 'stop feeling sorry for myself or they laugh at me or get mad. My dad doesn't seem to understand that when I'm crying I want to be alone. Which is why I'd just rather not start crying in the first place so I could avoid all this.
I'll use your advice, thank you so much for it :)

[wonderland]

Thank you so much for your advice, it's really appreciated. You're right, crying does make me feel better in a way.
I barely ever cry infront of my friends but a lot infront of my family. They don't seem to understand how upset I am and I've been told to 'stop feeling sorry for myself or they laugh at me or get mad. My dad doesn't seem to understand that when I'm crying I want to be alone. Which is why I'd just rather not start crying in the first place so I could avoid all this.
I'll use your advice, thank you so much for it :)

I'm sorry that you're family are like that, have you tried talking to them about it and explaining that you would rather be alone when you feel like that?

[Dying Ember]

I'm sorry that you're family are like that, have you tried talking to them about it and explaining that you would rather be alone when you feel like that?

I haven't talked to them specifically but when it happens i go into my room or the bathroom if i can.