slow. the. f. down

[Broken Toy]

Ive been talking to this girl for like 2 days and in supposed to tell her i love her. Like ive only said it to one person and this is going fast.

Like i added her on fb, then she inboxed saying im unreal (no arguments ;) ) then we started talking, then we wwere talking and it was like 200+ messages right then she said she loved me.

Now like i do have a crush on her but like im not ready to say i love her because i don't even know her that well. I cant exactly turn around and say "slow the fuck down, please" im not sure how to slow this down

[voodoo doughnut]

i had a girl get really infatuated with me like that. she turned out to be nuts to tell the truth. not psycho, but got way too carried away. we hadnt even kissed yet. so just try to play it cool best you can.

[Gamma Male]

I doubt she was serious. She was probably just joking, saying it in the way someone would say "Oh my god, I LOVE this pair of shoes!" Not actually in love, just very fond of.

[James Dean]

I would just tell her I appreciate you saying that. Don't feel uncomfortable unless it starts to get out of control. If you don't want to say it back, then you don't have too. I agree that's very quick to mention that, but some people fall in love faster than others.

[jordanhardy]

i had a girl get really infatuated with me like that. she turned out to be nuts to tell the truth. not psycho, but got way too carried away. we hadnt even kissed yet. so just try to play it cool best you can.

Same here! I made the mistake if sleeping with this girl after meeting her at a friends party. After that she was so obsessive, she'd constantly text me all day and night. She'd stalk me on facebook, Twitter, Instagram. She wouldn't leave me alone. I even caught her trying to look through my bedroom window and saw her hiding behind a bush at the front of my house waiting for me. Seriously crazy.

[Karkat]

I would just tell her I appreciate you saying that. Don't feel uncomfortable unless it starts to get out of control. If you don't want to say it back, then you don't have too. I agree that's very quick to mention that, but some people fall in love faster than others.

Agreed. As far as people go, I tend to fall in love way too fast, and being open as I am, I tend to tell people soon on as well.

Maybe she's just a passionate person.

Don't feel pressured to say it back before you're ready- that turns into a BIG mistake, believe me. I've done it before.

And thankfully, the guy I said it to couldn't have possibly been serious to begin with, so I didn't end up hurting him, but had it been someone who actually cared about me, I would've felt terrible. So terrible.

[CosmicNoodle]

I doubt she was serious. She was probably just joking, saying it in the way someone would say "Oh my god, I LOVE this pair of shoes!" Not actually in love, just very fond of.

Yup, basically, but if she was serious, wich I doubt, just tell her to slow the fuck down [-] And to get her mind straight, she must be insane, you can't love someone after two days, dat bitch be crazy[/-]

[Laraa.01]

You don't need to say it back just say that you like her or that you find her an attractive person. O ly actually say I love you if you mean it and are ready.

[Uranus]

Two days?! She does need to slow the FUCK down!
If you're not ready then that is totally fine. I don't think she was even serious. And if she was, she ain't go no idea what love is. Just talk to her and be straight up with it. Wait a few months and then see how you feel. I knew my gf for 3 months before we got together and said I love you to each other.

[asrlem]

Just keep talking to her and are u sure she wasnt joking like some people are like omg you are so funny i love you or was it like a serious i love you? If it was then just keep talking like it never happened and see if it happens again.

[Broken Toy]

Well im pretty sure she means it in the way i think but im not sure if she actually does but hey, im super loveable (love me!) and she sends me messages that just say 'i love you' and ive just been replying with 'luv ya' because that's like totally different.

I tried to dodge it one tine and she said 'i love you too would be nice' but i still haven't said it yet because fuck its 2 days man

[Melodic]

Two days? It took me two years to tell my best friend I was in love with him. :lol:

I'll give some advice. You should slow it down with her. A speedy relationship tends to not give you much for the future.

[ImCoolBeans]

I think telling somebody that you would like to slow things down is a respectable thing to do. Not many people do it, but I think it's perfectly acceptable and is a much more mature thing to do, as long as you do it in a polite way.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Have you even met her for real / in person?

[Broken Toy]

No.
IM meeting her on Saturday when shes allowed out. I ain't never fell in love over 300 messages before. Try closer to 10000

[JamesSuperBoy]

No.
IM meeting her on Saturday when shes allowed out. I ain't never fell in love over 300 messages before. Try closer to 10000

Good luck!

[SethfromMI]

when she is allowed out of the looney bin?

Just tell her, if she is being serious, you want things to move at a slower pace. if she cant handle that, run. run for the hills lad