Why am I instantly turned off by any guys who appear insecure and stiff?

[Elanor]

I know several guys at my school who are extremely hot on paper, with a great body and a perfect face and everything, but even though both I and some of my friends can agree that they look great, they just don't feel "interesting".
I don't even give them a second look most of the time, because their body language just feels "off" and makes them appear a whole lot less attractive - they seem uncomfortable with themselves, or just look plain annoyed and "closed".
They also seem to be by themselves a lot of the time without really attracting much attention, so apparently they haven't received terribly much interest from anyone else either, or they simply haven't welcomed people into their "private zone".

Is it normal to feel this way, and be instantly turned off or unattracted to a physically appealing guy simply because he lacks a confident body language?

[James Dean]

We all have preferences to what we like in a person. You can see past pretty faces and physical attraction. I can agree and relate myself. Which is why I have so many crushes but then they stay as crushes. I see how some people are on the inside and stuff and it completely erases everything I thought about them before. It is very normal, and I know because I'm the same way. Some people might call it being picky, but relationships are all about connecting with every part of the person. Someone can look nice and attractive, but they aren't everything. If I don't connect with them aside from how they look, it doesn't mean anything, and it turns into a bad relationship.

[SethfromMI]

because you don't find that to be an attractive quality.

[Karkat]

You can't really help what you find attractive and what you don't.

[Elanor]

because you don't find that to be an attractive quality.
Of course, I was just wondering if this is something common. :P
I have never felt genuinely attracted only to an attractive body, it feels like those guys need to have some sort of confident charisma as well in order to actually seem attractive for real

[CharlieHorse]

You can't really help what you find attractive and what you don't.

I agree.

Maybe they're shy. I bet if you talked with them and be their friend that they'll open up to you.
I'm sort of similar. I don't really hang out with people at school, and I might seem closed off, but if someone were to strike up a conversation, I would gladly hang out with them.

[Body odah Man]

I know several guys at my school who are extremely hot on paper, with a great body and a perfect face and everything, but even though both I and some of my friends can agree that they look great, they just don't feel "interesting".
I don't even give them a second look most of the time, because their body language just feels "off" and makes them appear a whole lot less attractive - they seem uncomfortable with themselves, or just look plain annoyed and "closed".
They also seem to be by themselves a lot of the time without really attracting much attention, so apparently they haven't received terribly much interest from anyone else either, or they simply haven't welcomed people into their "private zone".

Is it normal to feel this way, and be instantly turned off or unattracted to a physically appealing guy simply because he lacks a confident body language?

It's normal. We all have our quirks

[ScottieDog]

I think you'll find that not finding insecure guys attractive is pretty common. Can't help you with why that is but I know it's common to be turned off by insecurity in guys :)

[ImCoolBeans]

By nature, most humans are attracted to confidence or comfortablility in our own skin. Even if you consciously don't have anything against insecurity, subconsciously it's unattractive in a sexual or romantic pretense.