17 ,Giving up completely on relationships?

[NotSaturn]

Hi,
So I am in my last year of College and looking to go to Uni next year, however recently I have been feeling really down. Over summer all my friends found girlfriends and now I am the only virgin left. I feel so bad about myself, I am nearly 18 and have never kissed a girl or had a girlfriend and I feel like a failure. All my friend's have matured and seem so much older and complete as people.

It's not that I don't try, I find it easy to talk to people and I was recently rejected by a girl I talked to for 5 months who I thought I was getting close too and everyone thought we were set but she didn't like me. I have to hear every day how cute the couples are and how much stuff they are doing or dates they are going on and I just sit inside on my own.

I just don't know what to do anymore? I feel like my life has flat-lined, I feel so alone as a person and it hurts me every day to know that no one has ever found me attractive or loved me and it has got to the point where I am 100% sure I will never find someone that finds me attractive or ever have a girlfriend. I am destined to die a kiss-less virgin.

I am not the most attractive of guys, people say I dress well and they say how they wish they could dress like me and look cute but they only say that to make me feel better. I am pretty short and young looking which really puts of girls I imagine.

I don't know if it's worth just giving up?

I just feel like so much of a freak never to have done anything at nearly 18? It's just not normal at all and I am trying to find out what's wrong with me but I can't understand it.

Thanks for reading.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Look man, if you put on a defeatist attitude, a lot of people wouldn't want to date you, so instead of that, be a bit optimistic about it, yeah? :D

Anyhow, you haven't even tried dating or even kissed anyone yet, this is not a time to just stop and go 'screw it,' because you have a lot ahead of you.

It's okay, people come and go, and if you think about it this way, people meet a ton of people and they come and go. Just like relationships. You can't expect every single person you like to like you back, just like how you can't expect every person you act nice to do the same. It hurts, I know, but it's something which happens and eventually, you do find someone.

And know what? Who cares if you haven't even kissed a girl before and you're 18. I would rather that than someone which started making out with people at the age of 5 and did so all the time. Let life do it's thing, don't fret about it. If you really wanted to date someone, there are many ways to meet new people. Because you're turning 18 soon, there's dating sites, then you can join clubs, groups, volunteer, get a job (if you haven't got one), anywhere.

Don't feel upset, because you're only 17 and you still have a lot to look forward to. Good luck~

[NotSaturn]

I can't be optimist when I got rejected and I am the only virgin left.

I don't see the point chasing the impossible, it's never going to happen to me.

I have tried to meet new people, but it just get's me in a worse state and make me sure I will never find someone.

Let's say by a miracle a girl finds me attractive and for god know's why want's to do stuff with me I will be so inexperienced that it will be awful for them.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

You can't give up on relationships at 17-18, I can guarantee that anyone at that age has only tapped the surface ofmall the relationships one can be a part of. And as for having done nothing specifically romantic, I feel the same way at 15. I'd even go as far to say that I'm one of the tiny minority of teenage virgins. But still, there are some people who don't get involved in relationships until 20 or 30. You should jump in when you're ready, not just to be on the bandwagon.

[ForLackOfABetterUser]

Rejection is a part of life. It happens to me it happens to everyone. Don't give up on relationships just because you have had rejections. One thing that I tell everyone that most girls like is confidence. With a defeatist attitude you won't show off any confidence. Practice being confident, list good qualities about yourself. Practice picking up girls on the street or something; let's face it what's the worst that could happen there? The worst that would happen is they say no. Big deal, you'll never see them again. Best outcome is you could potentially get a date. It all comes down to having confidence in yourself because your self-confidence really shows, and girls pick up on this. Good luck! Always here to help just drop me a message.

[Typhlosion]

Pfft.

We we're almost in the same boat bud. The difference? I stopped caring and let my life live itself. Had some fun at parties, still a virgin though.

At the end, does it really matter?

[JamesSuperBoy]

and you believe all thier boasts - so think you are the only virgin.

[SethfromMI]

your 17. you still got a lot of life to live. try to stay positive and just wait for the right person to come along.

[dame]

You have to put yourself out there. You got rejected by ONE girl, get over it & move on to the next. You can't dwell on something that didn't work out, it's only going to result in more negativity. When you meet someone else, make sure each one of you are sure of each others intentions from the beginning. You're only 17, many people are in the same situation as you, many people are even older that are in your situation. I'm 17 too & just recently started talking to a guy. Don't give up, put on a smile & move on.

[Karkat]

My ex fiancé didn't have his first kiss until he was like 19. He didn't have his first girlfriend until he was my age. (17, almost 18.)
My most recent ex didn't lose his virginity until he was 20, almost 21.
My...Friend hasn't really kissed anyone yet. Aside from 1st grade but that hardly counts. I don't know if he counts it. He hasn't been in a relationship yet. I'm planning on kissing him on the 25th, the next time we see each other. I'm the closest thing he's had to a girlfriend, one other girl aside (I don't know who he likes more, and yes, that frustrates me beyond belief. He did go to prom with her, so she's got a leg up there, but him and I are most likely moving in together, or at least, we want to. So.) (I'm sure he wants me advertising this but no one knows who he is so hahaha.) Anyways, he's almost 19.

You'll find someone eventually, especially if you focus on other things instead and stop lamenting it. Like others have said, a defeatist attitude is not the way to go.

[sweetcake]

Hi, so I'm 17 and a girl, and I am most definitely still a virgin-although a lot of my friends aren't. It doesn't make me feel pressured though. It doesn't matter, I don't really want to (at least for now). I mean I still have my whole future ahead of me.. Why throw away something beautiful for someone who I'm not sure will always be by my side? That's why I'm waiting till marriage:) what the heck, call me old fashioned as much as you want.

See? You aren't the only one, being a V isn't something to be ashamed of. Look at it this way, you're saving yourself for that certain special someone who hasn't arrived yet. You just have to be patient.

Sorry if I'm not much of help since this is my first post...

[CosmicNoodle]

Pfft.

We we're almost in the same boat bud. The difference? I stopped caring and let my life live itself. Had some fun at parties, still a virgin though.

At the end, does it really matter?

Same, minus the virgin part though.

It doesn't matter, don't stress over it, just chill and get on with your life and eventually you'll find someone you like and who likes you, dont stress it.

Aand dude, seriously, for god sake, your 17, you really think you can base your hole dating future on what's happened so far?