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charcoalbutterfly
October 10th, 2014, 08:05 AM
I met this guy S four years ago, we were in the same class for two years. We were normal friends until I went through a bad breakup with my ex boyfriend. From that day onwards, we became better friends and share the same dance classes. We were always there for each other no matter rain or shine .

This year, we have become more close to the point that we can touch each other without feeling any awkwardness like long cuddles and hugs. He knows all my troubles and vice versa. These few months we have been more intimate(?) than usual. Normally we would cuddle on the couch of the studio and play-fight but recently our 'play-fighting- has gotten more physical. He would always pin me to the couch / floor and place both his hands on my waist and hold me tight just to stop me from attacking him. He has also been staring at me a lot more closer than usual, it makes me really shy and I always try to avoid his eyes when he pins me down.

Today we were lying on the floor and suddenly his arms wrapped around my waist and held me tight for a few minutes and then he dozed off with his arms still wrapped around me! I didn't wake him up because both of us woke up early and were feeling really sleepy at that moment so I just played with his hair and lightly pinched his cheeks.

I'm feeling really confused about the relationship between us. I feel jealous whenever I see some girl being flirty with him and he told me that he felt jealous of some guy friends of mine that are close. We are going to a prom together as dates too. Does S likes me or does he treats me like a sister instead ? Please help me , I do not wish to muck up this relationship with S . Thanks in advance ;)

ScottieDog
October 10th, 2014, 08:15 AM
I don't normally come out one way or the other and like to give non-committal, maybe yes, maybe not answers to these questions but here goes. I think he likes you, all the signs you describe seem to show a guy who wants to be more than friends with you but doesn't know how to tell you. How do you feel about him? Do you fancy him? If so, do you ever initiate contact like hugging him or being touchy-feely with him. Send him signals, if you're into him, that would suggest you want to be closer to him too. Sometimes boys are terrified or breaking a long standing friendship by asking "Do you want to be more?". Indeed girls can be terrified of that too.

tcjonvt
October 10th, 2014, 10:19 PM
I think he likes you- but he could also have friend zoned you seeing as though you've been friends for so long! All I can say is...ask the question and enjoy what he says. If he's nervous when you ask him those innocent words (i.e. "Do you think we should be more?"), then you might have just got a boyfriend.

But what a beautiful story! All the best for your story!

Typhlosion
October 10th, 2014, 10:48 PM
That's definitely not sister treatment. You've said it yourself, the contact is much more intense than before.

Honestly I'm somewhat surprised that neither said much about it. In lieu of that, just let it evolve naturally like it has, you two got a nice time upcoming!

James Dean
October 11th, 2014, 03:13 AM
It's not really that bad, but the both of you just seemed overly attached and protective of each other. It sounds like you have already gotten into that part of the relationship without you realizing it. This is way above him treating you as a friend. I think you enjoy his company and he enjoys yours. Going to prom together sounds very nice, and shows your relationship level. Be happy with what you have right now, take your time with him and watch the two of you grow together. What you mentioned sounds very extreme and way more than just playing. Be honest and upfront with him. Tell him what you like and don't like and learn more about each other as more than friends. :)

Buddy 912
October 11th, 2014, 02:51 PM
If there is something there, it will happen. Take it slow and don't worry about the other girls.