Do you think it's possible to sleep with someone and it not be sexual?

[ksdnfkfr]

Do you think it's possible to sleep with someone and it not be sexual? Like sleep in the same bed with a friend or relative a lot and even cuddle or spoon, but it not being sexual? Or would you think that's weird or that something is going on?

[James Dean]

I would have to understand the situation more. Like parents let their kids sleep in their beds some of the time. But like between siblings and cousins, I don't know. I just had a bad experience. I remember I was at my cousins house sleeping over one time, and I was in his bedroom, and I decided to sleep on the floor after overhearing him fight with my other cousin because he had a full size bed and I was gonna sleep on it, but my other cousin said he was gonna sleep in his bed, and he replied, "Dude that's gay, you're a guy you can't sleep in my bed." So I guess for the most part it would depend on the person and the situation.

Spooning and cuddling in the bed, are romantic acts and are usually done by two people in love.

[ScottieDog]

I guess it's possible to sleep in the same bed together and it just be as friends. Indeed a friend of mine (a girl) shared a bed with another girl and obviously nothing sexual. I guess if it was opposite sexes it might be more awkward. I'd imagine though if you were asexual you could sleep in the same bed as someone non-sexually.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Yes it s ok just depends on the situation.

[Karkat]

I think it depends, but like, I have same-sex friends who sleep in my bed when we have sleepovers all the time, and it's hardly sexual. (They're all straight, for one thing.) One's even married.

If I were to share a bed with select male friends, it'd be the same thing. Because I'm not attracted to them, and vice versa, but I feel close to them, and I'd feel comfortable with it.

If I were to sleep in a bed with Charlie however, it'd totally be sexual because we've got things going on.


So once again, it just depends.

[CosmicNoodle]

Of corse, with one of my old girlfriends we used to sleep in the same bed and spoon all the time and it was never sexual, nether of us where aroused, we where just enjoying being with each other, I understand your confusion though.

Overall no, just because you spoon someone, or sleep in the same bed, doesn't make it sexual, unless you want it to be.

[ugaboy]

Yes it is possible. Two of my best friends (who are straight btw), are closer than any brothers that I know. They sleep over at each others houses several nights a week, and always sleep together. We pick at them, just kidding though, because they are always cuddled up together in the morning. But it is really a cool friendship that they have.

[ksdnfkfr]

Yes it is possible. Two of my best friends (who are straight btw), are closer than any brothers that I know. They sleep over at each others houses several nights a week, and always sleep together. We pick at them, just kidding though, because they are always cuddled up together in the morning. But it is really a cool friendship that they have.

Me and my cousin who's also 14 sleep together like that. I think I asked about it before a long time ago, but now here in Wash I have two sets of uncles (my dad's half brothers) and aunts and younger cousins. Last weekend one of my little cousins came into my room while we were still asleep and blurted out later to everyone he saw us in bed cuddled up together, so it's become a bit of an issue again in the family I guess. But we've been sleeping together like that like since we were born. I really don't want to give it up.

[tcjonvt]

Do you think it's possible to sleep with someone and it not be sexual? Like sleep in the same bed with a friend or relative a lot and even cuddle or spoon, but it not being sexual? Or would you think that's weird or that something is going on?

Yes...I have a best friend who comes stay at my house all the time! He hugs me a lot and has even given me a kiss by accident- I don't think it's weird...yet

[Uranus]

Yes! I think the world is too focused on everything being sexual. Not everything we do has to be sexual. So yes it is fine and doesn't to be sexual. Just have to see what yours, and your bed buddy's view on it is before you lie down

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

Yes. You could even just sleep in thd same bed and have it be a platonic relationship. Everytime two people get into the bed together, it doesn't have to be sexual, or even romantic.

[Zachary G]

its very possible for 2 people to sleep in the same bed, cuddle, spoon, etc and not be sexual. if its not your intention then its not.

[Horatio Nelson]

If I was with a girl that I was attracted to, it would probably be sexual. I mean, come on.


If it was with a guy friend/cousin of mine, of course not, but we wouldn't be cuddling in the least, just trying to sleep.

[phuckphace]

it's only as awkward as you make it, at least with two people of the same gender. I had to share a bed with my roommate for a few days and I didn't think anything about it. not that I'd be opposed to spooning with him or anything, it's just that if I tried my arm would end up in a cast :lol3:

[Melodic]

I've done that a few times actually and I can say that it was never sexual.

[SethfromMI]

yes it is possible

[Abyssal Echo]

Yes it's possible. I have slept in the same bed with friends and cousins many times nothing sexual ever happened.

[ksdnfkfr]

Thanks. I probably should have said viewed as being sexual. But actually my "new" relatives said it was very understandable to them. Just me being a restless sleeper and Liam cuddling up with me because it makes me sleep a lot better. Sometimes i get in bed with my parents as well to help me sleep better. I wish i wasn't so needy sometimes.

[Buddy 912]

Do you think it's possible to sleep with someone and it not be sexual? Like sleep in the same bed with a friend or relative a lot and even cuddle or spoon, but it not being sexual? Or would you think that's weird or that something is going on?

Possible but may be difficult.

[Hyper]

When I read the title I was wondering if you were going to go full out Clinton with this question but you didn't.

Just cuddling is a show of affection. Affection does not automatically = sexual.

[Karkat]

When I read the title I was wondering if you were going to go full out Clinton with this question but you didn't.

Oh my god. :lol3: This made me laugh harder than I have in a while.

[Emerald Dream]

Absolutely. I have friends that are guys that I wouldn't get sexual with, but I would share a bed with. I don't think it's a big deal at all.

[ksdnfkfr]

When I read the title I was wondering if you were going to go full out Clinton with this question but you didn't.

Have no idea what that means.

[Hyper]

Have no idea what that means.

Well perhaps the best way to explain it is in the immortal words of Bill Clinton when asked if he did or did not have sexual relations with his secretary.

'' I did not have sexual relations with that woman ''

Or in laymans terms

'' I did it, but I did not put it in ''

[ksdnfkfr]

Ew...

[Desuetude]

Yeah course it is. It's just kind of affectionate and some peoples friendships are a lot stronger than others making it harder for said others to understand them. I mean a lot of people would judge if it was happening often but sometimes it might just be a comfort thing, having someone there with you.

[Princess Ariel]

I have done it fairly often, even moreso with the opposite sex. Most recently 2 weeks ago after a night of heavy drinking. I was in the bed with a person of the opposite sex and there was nothing sexual about it, in fact I feel more close to him because of the fact. I've known the kid, literally since I was born, as he was 2 months old and in the delivery room with his mom, which is my mothers best friend since college.

[JacobIN]

I've sleep in the same bed as a friend before...when we woke up we almost were kissing our faces were soo close lol. Its fine really, its what exactly happens in the contact. Like if you start grabbing parts and doing the dirty then yes.

[Laraa.01]

I would find it very hard to sleep in the same bed as a guy and not view it sexually, though it would depend if I liked the guy. As for a girl I could see that happening non sexually :)

[Babiole]

Of course. In many poor countries, siblings share beds, and sometimes parents and children share beds too. The idea of every family member having their own bed used to be an exclusively upper-class thing. In the old days, it was normal for an entire family to sleep in one bed.

[AussieBoi98]

Yea i thinks its okay I'm bi and normally when i sleep at another guys house we normally end up sleeping in the same bed and i don't take it as sexual unless were doin stuff but i find it a bit awkward to sleep in the same bed as a girl but i still don't mind :)

[Wyatt 13]

sure dude, I have cousins living with me and one of them was sleeping with me, same bed and was nothing sexual at all.

[fast8]

Yes it's ok nothing wrong with it

[ksdnfkfr]

Of course. In many poor countries, siblings share beds, and sometimes parents and children share beds too. The idea of every family member having their own bed used to be an exclusively upper-class thing. In the old days, it was normal for an entire family to sleep in one bed.

That's what my grandpa said. That in the old days and still in some countries, brothers sharing a bed completely normal. Since my cousin has been staying with us we've been sharing every night for like 2 months now. But since it looks like he's going to be living with us long term they got him his own bed, but are not discouraging us from still sharing which is cool. My favorite thing is laying next to each other and talking before falling asleep.

[Ben_Frost]

It's possible, actually quite possible. I've slept with best friends on the same bed and cuddling, and actually once spooning without having any sex.

[Hideous]

It's possible, unless you make it sexual.

[mollyjellybelly]

Sure it's possible. I've got a girlfriend who is a cuddler and at sleepovers she gloms onto whoever is close by when she falls asleep but it doesn't mean anything. I think it seems sexual cuz in bed is where a lotta people have sex (or that's what I've heard). But a girl on my swim team had sex in a pool once so does that mean every time she gets in a pool with a guy it has to be sexual? I think it's more about what you want to happen. The sexual part probably starts WAY before you actually get in bed.

[Cangirl]

I think so to that you can sleep in the same bed and it not be sexual. I have some gfs that we do that at sleepovers and cousins to. And sometimes on vacations my sister or one of my brothers and me share a bed. It depends though where and who and stuff.

[ImCoolBeans]

I've slept in the same bed as many of my friends many times. It just happens sometimes, and don't really think anything of it.

Once I woke up with my friend cuddling me with his arm around me, it was kind of awkward but kind of nice at the same time xD I just got up and didn't want to embarrass him or anything.

My favorite thing is laying next to each other and talking before falling asleep.

I agree. Pillow talk is great, whether coitus is involved or not.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Short answer: Yes

I'm sure many people have been in situations where there were too many people and too little beds or sharing a double or something. Happens all the time. Does seem to be a more intimate thing, but not always.

[CrazyPerson101]

Yes it is very possible not to do that, I've slept with many girls that way and some guys and haven't done anything sexual with them. It's not all that hard, it's quite easy for me because I'm not sexually active so I don't really think to do anything sexual with someone.

[Yggdrasil]

I think yeah. It is just lovely i think. Warm, sweet :D And not sexual.

[everlong]

I'd say of course. It's not sexual unless you make it sexual.

[chaosbreak]

I've slept in the same bed with my cousin when we went to visit them.
I've slept in the same bed with my bestfriend countless times.

No touching. No kissing. No sex.

[voodoo doughnut]

i'm glad everyone is being so cool about this. i was a bit embarrassed when ezra posted about this, but now i'm glad. he gets a little paranoid sometimes.

[Professional Russian]

Yeah its easily possible. I've slept with other people multiple times and it was never sexual.

[UnknownError]

I've slept in the same bed as female friends plenty of times without anything happening, because we are just friends. Not that hard really.

[riverboy]

Yes it can be done and I have done it.

[cbm89031]

I think it is possible

[Semi_IronMan]

Depends...

[kay_jay]

When my friend used to sleepover at my house we used to sleep in the same bed and it wasn't awkward at all but we didn't cuddle or anything like that.

[aaroncool123]

Yes. I cuddle and play around with my siblings. My best friend ( a straight guy ) hugs me all the time and kisses me on my head sometimes. We know that we're not attracted to each other so its cool.

[lilg]

I don't see why you couldn't but I've never just slept with someone before

[Jajahugumuju]

When I read the title I was wondering if you were going to go full out Clinton with this question but you didn't.

Just cuddling is a show of affection. Affection does not automatically = sexual.

Haha I totally thought that!

And yeah it's perfectly fine.

[leroy68kilos]

It's not weird at all. I often sleep with one friend. Maybe because neither of us has any brothers, we're kinda close. I love him to bits, and love having him next to me in bed, his skin touching mine, but I'd never want sex with him (or any other guy).

[Dortmund]

Very easy. I've a particular friend I've slept with quite a few times and nothing has happened or needed to happen. Just cause two people are in a bed together doesn't mean they need to be having sex.

[NeuroTiger]

Do you think it's possible to sleep with someone and it not be sexual? Like sleep in the same bed with a friend or relative a lot and even cuddle or spoon, but it not being sexual? Or would you think that's weird or that something is going on?

For a really close friends, it's the limit.