Who knows about your self harm?

[wonderland]

Have you told anyone about your self harming, or did they find out somehow?

For me, the only people aware of my self harm are my mother who found out by accident, my grandparents because my mother told them, and my psychologist who was once again told by my mother

[CosmicNoodle]

For me I only let certian people know, I'm not one of those people who walks around showing any motherfucker who will pay attention, but I don't specifically hide it, for me, if they notice, they notice, and thats that. The only people I will NOT show is my parents or family.

- My Therapist
- Some of my closer friends
- Anyone on VT who knows me

[Miserabilia]

nobody. I guess people saw and noticed and figured it out and some even asked but I'll never admit it to them so nope.

[Karkat]

A couple friends. I don't usually talk about it, and I have other problems that tend to overshadow my self-harm- especially because I don't SH often.

[Dying Ember]

Two of my friends (my only friends) found out. I told the school nurse and that's all.

[Broken Toy]

I cut my wrist before and shrank my jumper so basically a few people know.
So there's this girl i like.
4 girls who are SHers themselves.
One of the girls boyfriends.
Friend i told because i known her forever.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

The first person to know was my GP.. she told my mom who subsequently told my dad. My ex therapist knows, and a small handful of real life friends, but that's it. Carefully hidden, always.

[ksdnfkfr]

My cousin found out I was self harming and told my parents. Probably my aunt, uncle and grandparents know too. And my shrink and pediatrician know ofc. It's been a long time since I've cut though because I got therapy for it. I hit myself and bite my hands/fingers when I have an autistic meltdown, but they say that doesn't count as the same kind of SH.

[Seafood]

A lot of people.

What happened, I really needed help, so I told one of my closest friends. They just shot me down so I just kept telling people, asking for help, they all shot me down.

Except for 2 really amazing girls that also SH. One of them is really cute.;)

[Desuetude]

Mum and dad found out by accident which caused my little sister to find out too. I told my 3 best friends and one of my friends parents.

To be honest I've gotten to the point where I'm honestly not bothered that much about showing my arms, I attempted to hide them for 2 years and now I just find it to be too much effort. Yes there are a fuck load of scars that will be there for years, yes sometimes people notice but what else can I do? I don't show my thigh scars but that's a different story. So yeah to answer the question I wouldn't know how many people know I self harm because a lot of people have probably seen my scars and not mentioned it. I'd estimate about 50 or so.

[Babs]

About half my siblings, I'm guessing. Only two specifically said anything about it but I'm pretty sure most of them knew during the time I was cutting, but didn't say a word about it.

[wonderland]

For me I only let certian people know, I'm not one of those people who walks around showing any motherfucker who will pay attention, but I don't specifically hide it, for me, if they notice, they notice, and thats that. The only people I will NOT show is my parents or family.

- My Therapist
- Some of my closer friends
- Anyone on VT who knows me

i really admire the fact that you're not afraid of people/ bothered by people seeing your self harm, hopefully i can be like that someday too (:

A lot of people.

What happened, I really needed help, so I told one of my closest friends. They just shot me down so I just kept telling people, asking for help, they all shot me down.

Except for 2 really amazing girls that also SH. One of them is really cute.;)

I'm really sorry that happened to you, that's one of the reasons i don't tell people about my self harm

I'm really glad you found some people who understand though :)

Posts merged. Next time, please use the "Edit" or "Multi" button. ~Elysium

[CosmicNoodle]

i really admire the fact that you're not afraid of people/ bothered by people seeing your self harm, hopefully i can be like that someday too (:

No, don't get me wrong, it scares me, and I don't like it, but you can't enjoy everything in life can you?

[ThatClumsyPianist]

I've told two teachers, my best friends, my parents, and my school's psychologist knows because I have appointments with her to find ways to stop and all that stuff.

[Ambrosia]

My sister was the first person to find out when I first started only because she saw the scars. My whole family knows because I was forced to tell them after a terrible incendent involving the military. Since I haven't self injured in almost a year I don't hide my scars anymore. I have hundreds of them and they are pretty obvious but most people are kind enough not to ask so who knows how many other people know.

[Harley Quinn]

Pretty much everyone I've come into contact with, except for my bosses at work know. I've never really cared about who knows and who doesn't, it's not a part of my life that I am totally ashamed by. If I didn't personally tell them, it either just came out, was obvious or they just asked.

[Hideous]

Only my brother.

[allisonmyers]

2 of my friends know we used to together at one point

[Luminous]

My parents, sibling, VT, and anyone basically while I was at the hospital - counselors, nurses, social workers, doctors, patients, etc.

[Leprous]

Parents, therapist barely knows why I'm depressed, so not telling her about that either.

[UnknownError]

Some friends, but the majority of them only found out after I stopped because by then I didn't care who knew really. My parents and sister found out by accident. That's about it really, I kept it really secretive and the friends I told after I had stopped were like "I had no idea??".

[Princess Ariel]

Only a select few have asked and I've told them. I used to be ashamed of them and would blame it on the cat. But Im at a point in my life when I don't have anyone negative in my life, nor do I fear I'll lose them as a friend. Next semester when I'm in Rez might be different, but I'm hoping for the best.

[justkeepswimming]

my mom my close friends my boyfriend and my therapist. i don't show them im not embarrassed just wouldnt wanna hear what people would say.

[romes3]

My best friend does. I had to tell him last year, when I made a huge cut on my forearm and we had a lab (sleeves need to be rolled up) in school the next day.

[geecastrell]

The only person that has ever found out about mine is my boyfriend. One day we were just sat in his bed watching TV, and I hadn't realised that my skirt had risen up, showing my scars. Otherwise, I don't think I would have opted to tell anyone.

[LunaHermione]

I told one of my best friends after I'd been doing it for about a year. She noticed that I always wore long sleeves, even in like really hot weather, so she spoke to me one night when we were alone and gently nudged the convosation in that direction. And I just broke down in tears and told her. She was really supportive. Another of my friends found out a couple of months later because we were in school at dinner time, and we were talking and I was sitting opposite her and went to point at something and my school jumper slid down a little and she grabbed my arm and pulled it towards her and was like 'what's that?' And I just snatched my arm back real quick. My other two friends hadn't noticed because they were having their own convosation but my other friend who I told did and they both gave each other a look. I swear I was so scared because that was the first time anyone had seen them and I was freaking out so bad. Later at home I got a text off her saying something like she was really worried about me, that she was there for me if I needed someone to talk to and that she loved me. I eventually told her everything too. I never told my other two friends. Me and them drifted apart anyway. But I still talk to the two I told often but I think they think I've stopped now. Don't really want to tell them I haven't. I don't want them to worry. :/

[Whiskers]

Only VT knows my secrets

[RakshaMalayka]

My mum found out on accident. She told my stepdad, councilor at the time, brothers, and sisters. I've told a couple friends who've been through the same things or are thinking about it. My ex's know. Oh yeah and everyone on VT.
Most people piece it together rather quickly however anyway considering I gave up going out of my way to hide my scars.

[Dalcourt]

I guess people here on VT and everyone who paid enough attention. I never really actively told anyone except one therapist.

[amgb]

Some of my friends who I told, my parents, my mum's parents and her siblings (so my aunt and uncle), some teachers at my old school and my psychiatrist, and of course people on this site~

[Meh Guy]

When I used to cut, I never hid it. It started out as a cry for help, and turned into an, pardon my French, I don't give a shit type of thing. People would always look at me funny and I'd just stare back. Dark times indeed. My parents eventually said enough was enough and got me counseling.

[avri]

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[Babs]

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