school/parents

[JakeJ28]

so grades haven't been all that high this year (9th) so far and my parents are losin their shit. They've done somethin with my phone so I can't text people, which is really fucking terrible cause I haven't made many friends at school so far (so I'm lonely as shit). I also can't bring my phone to school, which I can actually use occasionally for school purposes. They say I can have it back when I bring my grades up, but it doesn't happen overnight, and I'm going to have to wait quite a while even if every grade is a 100. We've also been arguing quite a bit, and it always ends up with my dad pulling the 'I'll take your phone' and shit. He starts arguing with lies and bullshit and when if I say anything he says 'don't push me' n what not. basically he makes everything one sided and doesn't let me talk. I go to a high school of about 3,000 kids, and everyone I've met has a phone with them. Does anyone else have parents that do this and/or have any tips?

[James Dean]

Oh I have totally been there, and I know it sucks. I can only say that use it as motivation to do better in your school work. They think your phone is distracting you and they made the decision they thought was best for you. I would always get threatened that the internet, my phone, my nintendo ds would be confiscated if I didn't more chores or I misbehaved or failed an exam or my grades were poor. That is just how life is, and because you live under their roof you have to obey them. Don't worry about it though, you're not the only one. I know you feel like the only one at school that is in your position. Believe me, you're not.

Again, use this as motivation to better yourself. Get a tutor, talk to your teachers. Study hard, do extra household chores. Try to do things to show your parents that you're improving and I don't see why they wouldn't give your phone back. I hope things go well for you and don't worry about it. Things always work out best in the end. :)

[michaelb]

yea you're not alone! they always take my phone away but be happy... u don't get hit for bad grades...

[CharlieHorse]

What's the reason behind not getting the good grades?

[Zachary G]

my parents arent that confrontational, but they are pretty strict and regimented when it comes to things like grades. if my grades start to fall off then i stand to lose all kinds of privileges. like right now my phone has all kinds of parental restrictions on it because of something i did over the summer. there really isnt much we can do about it other than do as they ask to the best of our ability.

[devon14]

If it's any consolation my mom takes my phone away from me for a couple of days if I mess up - like on Friday I got busted at a friend (girl's) house when I told her I was by one of my guy friends and when she came to pick me up she figured out I wasn't there.

That's Friday and today's Sunday - still no sign of my phone and not sure when I'll get it back yet!

[Semi_IronMan]

Then maybe u should pull up your socks

[Bull]

It's a law of physics, man. For every action there is an equal reaction. So you goof off and don't work hard to earn good grades, your parents react by taking your phone so you have one less distraction from studying. Bring your grades up, take responsibility for your studies, get your phone back. Simple solution. Ball is in your court. I am a senior in high school, make straight A's, take AP and college courses, and have an ancient flip phone. No distraction there. It is not a punishment, just a parental philosophy that phones are only for necessary communication. That is Not going to change so no point in making it an argument. So, do what is necessary to keep the peace at home. Grow up and be responsible.

[SethfromMI]

just try to work a little harder in school