So fucking confused

[Redrocket]

I am so fucking confused people that I don't know what to do anymore . First off my ex keeps giving me mixed emotions. her and I were in bed we were cuddling then we start talking about stuff. then she says "you realize wrre jst friends right? i was so hurt by that comment then I said "are we gonna sleep together at the sleep over? Then she told me i dont know. we were still cuddling then she said we were going past the friendzone. I asked if she wanted to stop. She said "for now." A little while later she starts holdin me again and I told her that I need to confess something to her. I told her that it's not her fault for the things that she does and that something bad has happened in her childhood and that she doesn't know how to love and that she picks bad taste boyfriends because she can't do any better then she says your right. Then later we go o th living room and she starts sitting on my lap and I asked her if he wanted to sit on the couch and she says "But I like to sit on your lap." Then I ask he if we will ever get back together then she says he wants to go slow with me. Then she told me she had o go so I romantically carried her to her car. I am so fogged comfused I don't know if she really loves me or not

[bootycutie]

Truthfully, I'm not sure she knows what she wants. I think you just need to "feel" her out a bit, let her have a long "leash" and just don't get too invested emotionally in her right now. You might get your feelings hurt.

[Karkat]

If what she's doing is hurting you, let her know. She might not be trying to lead you on, but that doesn't mean your feelings don't need to be taken into consideration as well.

[James Dean]

You just have to listen to her sometimes. I think she was being honest when she said she wants to go slow. So because this is a relationship, you have to go slow with her. Rushing and making her do things she doesn't want to do might cause problems. So I would just give it time for right now. I see some spark there, and there might be something special that might pop up later on. Seems you just have to be patient with her in order to have a good relationship. I would be ready for whatever happens and stay in contact with her to see which direction this goes. Good luck. :)

[Body odah Man]

Sounds emotionally conflicted. I'd advise going slow and being patient with her.

[ScottieDog]

My thoughts are exactly the same as the people above me, I think she is really confused too. Just give her time and space to work things out. I think she needs the time to figure things out herself first before she goes any further, just give her that time.

[JamesSuperBoy]

yes - respect her wishes - then see how it goes -

[CosmicNoodle]

If what she's doing is hurting you, let her know. She might not be trying to lead you on, but that doesn't mean your feelings don't need to be taken into consideration as well.

I was going to say something similar, if you want a relationship to work don't bend over backward for her, make your felings known. In realtionships you are equals, you make compromises for each other, she'll have to get used to that.

Then again, you also have to take her emotions into account, if she wants to take things slow, there must be a reason behind it,

Try talking things over with her.

[Buddy 912]

Truthfully, I'm not sure she knows what she wants. I think you just need to "feel" her out a bit, let her have a long "leash" and just don't get too invested emotionally in her right now. You might get your feelings hurt.

GREAT answer.