Is she interested or not?

[Eperty123]

I've been writing with this girl for a while now and I've tried to invite her out but none of them were a success. She cancelled all of them... I've met this girl at work - we're working on the same supermarked. But ever since the first time meeting her, I've felt like I wanted to give it a go - try to get her and it all started from there! :P


We've talked, chatted etc. and asked if she had Snapchat and said yes. I added her and we began snapping to each other. She was always the one who snapped me first regardless of situation which I was really happy for. But one day I wanted to see how she would react if I asked her out. (For fun.) She suprisingly said yes and I was like "Wow.. Can't believe this..." and it went from there. I just ended up fucking it up because I forgot that I had work. I really wanted to go on date with her but because I was afraid to hear what my boss would say if I cancelled my shift. (This is my first job ever so I didn't want to lose it so suddenly. Atleast that's what I thougt), I asked my girl if she's okay with postponing our date. At first I didn't say postpone, I just told her that I won't be able to go out with her which I believe hit her hard because she truly was looking forward to it. (I could sense it somehow) She actually got a little angry at me. But she said yes and I eventually managed to make up with her.

So the second time I asked her out she cancelled it because she needed to find an internship. And then the third time I asked her out she cancelled it too because she's gonna to a funeral. I got annoyed by the fact that it was going to be on the same day as our date, but what can you do?

But anyway! The problem is I don't know if she's interested in me or not. The only thing that I have noticed is that she started to include kisses, hearts etc. in our messages. The first time she did it was when I asked her out the first time. I've never had a relationship before so I took it as she was into me, so I was testing her out to see whether she's testing me in some ways by varying my messages so that one message had a few and others don't. But I couldn't really tell so I just went with the flow and just started doing the same thing. But as time flew and other stuff happened, she began losing her interest in me. (Or atleast that's how I took it.) She didn't really wanted to text me as often. I was the one texting her first. But our messages still consist of hearts, kisses etc. It's just that I can't really tell whether she's into me or not.

Edit:
Hope that this thread now makes sense. :)

[James Dean]

I do agree, this is very confusing. You are going to have to make a choice that you are probably not gonna like. I would stop putting together dates with her. Yeah I can understand the first two times, she probably had more important stuff to do. However, now it seems kinda fishy and it's not really adding up. Text messages don't really count, and to me both of you are using texting as a cop out to deal with the bigger issue. You need to have a phone call with her, not a text chat. Just tell her your feelings and what you been up to and probably see what is up with her.

This is a communication error. Good relationships come together on communication, and it seems there is a big block in the middle between you guys trying to talk to each other. I really hope things go well for you, and whatever happens with this girl that you end up moving on and learning from it. Just talk to her, don't be afraid. The two of you need to know how each of you feel in order to move forward. Good luck. :)

[Eperty123]

I do agree, this is very confusing. You are going to have to make a choice that you are probably not gonna like. I would stop putting together dates with her. Yeah I can understand the first two times, she probably had more important stuff to do. However, now it seems kinda fishy and it's not really adding up. Text messages don't really count, and to me both of you are using texting as a cop out to deal with the bigger issue. You need to have a phone call with her, not a text chat. Just tell her your feelings and what you been up to and probably see what is up with her.

This is a communication error. Good relationships come together on communication, and it seems there is a big block in the middle between you guys trying to talk to each other. I really hope things go well for you, and whatever happens with this girl that you end up moving on and learning from it. Just talk to her, don't be afraid. The two of you need to know how each of you feel in order to move forward. Good luck. :)
I'm sorry for the confusement. I was having many emotions going through my head when I was writing this. But thank you for your concern and reply. I will try speaking with her about this. ;)

[ScottieDog]

I have to say this is confusing as she's giving mixed signals here. On the one hand she's still sending you text messages with hearts, which is a sign she's interested but the whole date thing has me worried. It's OK to cancel dates if you have other things to do but if I was into a boy and had to cancel a date, I would try and rearrange it. So for example "Sorry I can't make Friday as I have a funeral on but fancy Sunday instead?" The fact that she just leaves it like that is really not a good sign. Also although you still text her and stuff, many girls send hearts and kisses to many people who they like as friends but nothing more.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Maybe she could be interested but is just busy and you do not seem to understand that she may have a whole heap on. So fine you make a date then cancel as you had work.

maybe just cool it and ask if she wants to hang out sometime - let her suggest a time

[Eperty123]

I have to say this is confusing as she's giving mixed signals here. On the one hand she's still sending you text messages with hearts, which is a sign she's interested but the whole date thing has me worried. It's OK to cancel dates if you have other things to do but if I was into a boy and had to cancel a date, I would try and rearrange it. So for example "Sorry I can't make Friday as I have a funeral on but fancy Sunday instead?" The fact that she just leaves it like that is really not a good sign. Also although you still text her and stuff, many girls send hearts and kisses to many people who they like as friends but nothing more.
Again I'm sorry for that. :P The thing is she always leaves every of our arrangements like that whenever she needs to do something else. Honestly it's kinda annoying. And as for the hearts and stuff, well.. I can't determine whether she sends them as a friend-only thing or whatever as she started to send all those after I asked her out the first time. (She really looked forward to it according to some messages I re read.)

I re read all of messages to the point where I asked her out the first time. It seemed like she went from not busy to busy and where she actually suggested a day. Also a lot of things have happened lately where her friend's little brother died and her grandma is hospitalized. So she's kinda in a understandable case.

But there was a day where we got really close. It was at work. (We're working at the same supermarked) She was in pain due to her period and she didn't let me know because she thought that I thought it was disgusting, which was not! Anyway, I embraced her a lot and we talked about stuff. She actually apologized for not being able to hang out at that day where she needed to find an internship. (Quite unexpected) But hell, she was damn sweet! It was like she wanted someone to take care of her and so I did! It was an unforgettable moment!

A similar moment happened two weeks ago as well! I was heading home but then I saw her and then we approached each other. I gripped her hip and I asked her if she could hang out. She said that we could figure something out and as she said that we held hands. But our boss just ruined the moment because she suddenly came out of the office. So we had to let go.

A few hours later when I got home, I came with a day and she agreed to it and it was thursday (tommorow). :3

As for gripping her hip it just happened to be something I do... It may sound weird but I just go for it whenever we're alone. I do as well hug her because it's part of the things I did on that day. Whether she likes it or not I don't know but she just don't like it when employees are around when at work. :rolleyes:

But that was pretty much it. I don't know if those things count as "more than a friend" and so forth. :)


Maybe she could be interested but is just busy and you do not seem to understand that she may have a whole heap on. So fine you make a date then cancel as you had work.

maybe just cool it and ask if she wants to hang out sometime - let her suggest a time
She's having a hard time at the moment so I'm kinda holding back for the time being.. :3

Edit:
Just made this post more interesting. :D