Crush on someone 4 years older than me.

[The_Alpha]

So I recently met an amazing girl and we really connect and get along have heaps in common etc. And I really like her.

Im 16 and potentially I could pursue a relationship with her.

I'm just wondering has anyone here been in a relationship with someone in their twenties while you've been a teen but older than fifteen?

[ScottieDog]

I don't have any experiences to tell you but often us females are looking for guys older than us rather than younger. I do have to say though that sometimes relationships can work out with older women. You'll just have to remember that she'll expect you to be very mature and act older than your age. Women in their twenties can't be doing with 'silly teen boys'. It's going to be a hard one for you but if you really want it, go for it :). All the best!!!

[jordanhardy]

It's not impossible, but won't be easy. 4 years isn't an issue when your older, but at our age it can be a big thing. I don't see why it is, but is often frowned apon by others

[CosmicNoodle]

To be honesyt, that likely wont work.

[JamesSuperBoy]

So I recently met an amazing girl and we really connect and get along have heaps in common etc. And I really like her.

Im 16 and potentially I could pursue a relationship with her.

I'm just wondering has anyone here been in a relationship with someone in their twenties while you've been a teen but older than fifteen?


I guess it is really the girl's call here as in does she want to pursue a relationship with you?:yes:

[The_Alpha]

While I respect you're all giving me your honest opinions most of you are failing to answer my question.
Please don't assume I'm not mature, please don't assume that she is in a better position in life than me, please don't assume she doesn't want anything to do with me
Please just stick to answering my question or if you must give your opinion please label as just an opinion.

That being said thanks all of you for replying :)

[Karkat]

I was 16 going on 17, and my ex was 20 going on 21 when we got together, we lasted a little over a year, to answer your question.

It can be tricky/interesting to manage that kind of a relationship, but it's not impossible.

[ScottieDog]

While I respect you're all giving me your honest opinions most of you are failing to answer my question.
Please don't assume I'm not mature, please don't assume that she is in a better position in life than me, please don't assume she doesn't want anything to do with me
Please just stick to answering my question or if you must give your opinion please label as just an opinion.

That being said thanks all of you for replying :)

I guess in my reply I was pointing out some of the most common difficulties in relationships with this age gap at this age. I did note that in your opening post you mentioned that you really connect and have heaps in common which is good. I guess only you know the situation and all the little details all I can do is give the advice on where problems may lie. :) Just thought I would clarify :)

[The_Alpha]

I guess in my reply I was pointing out some of the most common difficulties in relationships with this age gap at this age. I did note that in your opening post you mentioned that you really connect and have heaps in common which is good. I guess only you know the situation and all the little details all I can do is give the advice on where problems may lie. :) Just thought I would clarify :)


S'okay :), I just took the opportunity to nip it in the bud, wasn't pointing fingers at you or anyone :)

[James Dean]

I myself have not, but my cousin was dating a guy that was much older in his twenties, but she met him much earlier than that, and she was in her teens. They were together for quite some time. She did act kinda immature sometimes. Not that he wasn't a bad influence or anything, but we never liked him around her and how she would act different.

I don't have much experience about it. It would depend on the age gap and how the relationship is and usually true love is hard to break up so if they truly love each other, they might run away together and then there is nothing you can do.

I really hope things go well for your situation and hopefully my story helped you. :)

[CassnovA]

I personally could not see any 20 year old dating a 16 year old. At 20 youre on the brink of adulthood, probably have a job, a car, and soon be able to go to bars, clubs, casinos, 18 rated movies, etc. I just cant see a person like that, who wouldnt be able to take their partner anywhere cos they are still a school kid. Its not so much the age gap, or the maturity level, but the social problems it would cause.

[The_Alpha]

Nevermind guys.

Turns out she's a lesbian :p

Oh well, new friend ^,^