Self harm as part of my anger management

[Dalcourt]

Three days ago I had a terrible fight with a friend and in the process I cut my arm with my knife...and I know I had probably hurt him if I hadn't cut myself.
I screamed at him and felt like I snap so I took my knife pressed it to my arm and just ran away from him.
It might sound weird but I feel sometimes hurting myself is the only way to stop myself from hurting others...and I mean like really physically harming them.

When I get mad I can get mad to the point where I don't know what I do...and hurting myself is the only thing that brings me back.

I have tried other things to contain my anger but nothing really seems to work...hurting myself isn't healthy but still healthier than hurting others...so I feel I'll never be able to stop self harming.

My therapist doesn't get it...so I just had to get this off my chest here, no need to comment on it, guys.

[Seafood]

Three days ago I had a terrible fight with a friend and in the process I cut my arm with my knife...and I know I had probably hurt him if I hadn't cut myself.
I screamed at him and felt like I snap so I took my knife pressed it to my arm and just ran away from him.
It might sound weird but I feel sometimes hurting myself is the only way to stop myself from hurting others...and I mean like really physically harming them.

When I get mad I can get mad to the point where I don't know what I do...and hurting myself is the only thing that brings me back.

I have tried other things to contain my anger but nothing really seems to work...hurting myself isn't healthy but still healthier than hurting others...so I feel I'll never be able to stop self harming.

My therapist doesn't get it...so I just had to get this off my chest here, no need to comment on it, guys.

I get it. But to be honest I would have punched the guy. Friend or not, if they got me so fucking pissed then and there I would have just let it off.

I kinda have anger management and have cut myself due to anger. A cold shower helps.

[RazorTourniquet]

I get it. But to be honest I would have punched the guy. Friend or not, if they got me so fucking pissed then and there I would have just let it off.

I kinda have anger management and have cut myself due to anger. A cold shower helps.


Guys, I don't think that the idea of harming AT ALL is cool. I had such a person in my life, never wanted to get him pissed and when I did without a good enough reason I faced how awful violence can be. Don't cause damage, not to yourself not to anyone. Run, swim, take a shower, count to 10, scream, anything. But please... do no harm.

[Ben_Frost]

Self harming just won't help you and in the long run it'll turn out much worse for you. Probably harming stuff, like a stress doll, boxes, wooden blocks or anything you could hit without harming yourself would be better.

[Seafood]

Guys, I don't think that the idea of harming AT ALL is cool. I had such a person in my life, never wanted to get him pissed and when I did without a good enough reason I faced how awful violence can be. Don't cause damage, not to yourself not to anyone. Run, swim, take a shower, count to 10, scream, anything. But please... do no harm.

We are not glorifying it. Self harm fuckijg sucks. And it is not that easy to just stop, if you haven't self harmed you would never understand, sorry, but its true. I'm trying as hard as I can but I self harmed yesterday. Its not easy.

[CosmicNoodle]

I used to self harm to stop myself from hurting others, mt medication helped with anger though so there days I do it for myself, not to protect others.

Guys, I don't think that the idea of harming AT ALL is cool. I had such a person in my life, never wanted to get him pissed and when I did without a good enough reason I faced how awful violence can be. Don't cause damage, not to yourself not to anyone. Run, swim, take a shower, count to 10, scream, anything. But please... do no harm.

It's not cool at all, it's ahorrible, damaging, painful addiction, if you had ever done it you'd realise it's not that easy to stop, you can't just decide one day "I'll just stop now, I'll take up running", doesn't work like that darling. It takes years to break the addiction, sometimes decades. Cancer is easier to cure than self harm...

[RazorTourniquet]

I used to self harm to stop myself from hurting others, mt medication helped with anger though so there days I do it for myself, not to protect others.



It's not cool at all, it's ahorrible, damaging, painful addiction, if you had ever done it you'd realise it's not that easy to stop, you can't just decide one day "I'll just stop now, I'll take up running", doesn't work like that darling. It takes years to break the addiction, sometimes decades. Cancer is easier to cure than self harm...

I am a self harmer myself and I do it almost every time that I am angry. I am the bad example, I am an example of what you shouldn't be. But last time I was angry I stopped because my mind was distracted from another thing and I didnt have time to think. What I am trying to say is DISTRACT. I am not saying he will stop completely but he can reduce the frequency of happening.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

Guys, I don't think that the idea of harming AT ALL is cool. I had such a person in my life, never wanted to get him pissed and when I did without a good enough reason I faced how awful violence can be. Don't cause damage, not to yourself not to anyone. Run, swim, take a shower, count to 10, scream, anything. But please... do no harm.


This.
Whenever I get so angry that I want to pull a knife on somebody, I usually, go take a nap. It seems like a juvenile thing to do, but sleep helps us think better, it clears your thoughts, and by the time you awaken, you'll be prepared to face whatever problems is in your way, with a logical solution.

[CosmicNoodle]

I am a self harmer myself and I do it almost every time that I am angry. I am the bad example, I am an example of what you shouldn't be. But last time I was angry I stopped because my mind was distracted from another thing and I didnt have time to think. What I am trying to say is DISTRACT. I am not saying he will stop completely but he can reduce the frequency of happening.

Ahh I see, and apologise for my ignorance, if you self harm, you know yourself it's not cool, so why wouldn't everyone else who does? Seems like you just added that in for shits and giggles.

[RazorTourniquet]

Ahh I see, and apologise for my ignorance, if you self harm, you know yourself it's not cool, so why wouldn't everyone else who does? Seems like you just added that in for shits and giggles.

I was just trying to help. Who knows. It worked for me, it might work for somebody else. I appreciate your sarcasm but please understand that I am only trying to help.

[CosmicNoodle]

I was just trying to help. Who knows. It worked for me, it might work for somebody else. I appreciate your sarcasm but please understand that I am only trying to help.

Ye, I know your trying to help, but I wasn't actually using any sarcasm. Sorry if it seemed like I was.