Best friend haven't talked to me in months

[crowdlost]

As a 21 year-old guy, I hate how very few guy friends I have. I'll try to keep this short: I had one amazing guy best friend (for 6 years). Sleepovers, camping, sharing our deepest secrets... We've done them all. In August we had a very random fight about how he feels that I'm an obsessive person (which i totally am). I asked him if he meant i might bE too obsessed with HIM. He didnt reply and i told myself i wasnt gonna talk to him anymore unless he comes go me first.

It's october now. Nothing.

No text. No phone call. Not even dropping by its killing me. I'm always the one who talks first even if he was the one who messed up. Now i dont want to be the one who talks first. But i cant do this anymore. ITS KILLING ME. Im sad and lonely and missing him like hell.

And it feels like he seriously doesnt give a shit. Hes been going on hunting trips and vacations (thanks Facebook for making me even worse). My friend tells me he'll talk to me eventually when he needs me for something like whenevr he gets into a fight with his girlfriend.

Maybe he moved on and maybe i should too. But i dont want to. Is such a friendship worth losing my pride (and therefore i should just speak to him first)?

[JamesSuperBoy]

I guess 6 months - a long time so he has moved on and yes you can give it one last shot - speak to him - why not.

[crowdlost]

So I did it. I texted him.

And he did not reply. I could see that he Read it so i texted him a few times more and still nothing.

This hurts me so much more than anything in my entire life. I will move on, you know eventually... But i just fucking hope he realizes that i didnt deserve a friend as shitty and fucking heartless as him.

I wish i can be there when he realizes that.

God i hope i can get through tonight without hurting myself or something. I feel like sitting and watching sad movies all night long.

[James Dean]

Why don't you physically call him? Texts are nice depending on what the situation is. However, I think it would be better to actually have a real phone call and try to catch things up with him. I hope things you well for you. It sounds like you guys really had a special connection and friendship. I hate losing contacts with my friends myself. It has happened a couple times and usually if things don't work out, you do have to move on.

However, just give him a normal call and see what happens and take it from there.

[crowdlost]

I saw him a couple of times after I texted him and he didn't reply. I said hello and he just nodded. And we shook hands.

I still feel horrible. And I miss him like crazy and I have so much stuff going on right now I need him in my life but he is not trying AT ALL. And his Facebook shows me how much he doesn't care at all.

This is lonely like hell.

[SethfromMI]

I am so sorry :( . you can keep trying if you want to, but maybe wait a little while. I have lost a very close friend, but not while they were still alive. I can only imagine the pain you are going through. give it a little time and try again.

but...sadly you might have to come to a point where you realize it is over. I hope that does not happen, but there comes to a point where you shouldn't keep letting yourself down in a false hope.

I hope things work out for you, I really do

[crowdlost]

I am so sorry :( . you can keep trying if you want to, but maybe wait a little while. I have lost a very close friend, but not while they were still alive. I can only imagine the pain you are going through. give it a little time and try again.

but...sadly you might have to come to a point where you realize it is over. I hope that does not happen, but there comes to a point where you shouldn't keep letting yourself down in a false hope.

I hope things work out for you, I really do

Thank you so much for your kind words! It really helps. I don't think I will keep trying. It's going to hurt even more, I know, but I think trying and not getting what I want is worse. It sucks that I still run into him so many times but I don't want to just sit in my room and lock myself up just to avoid him. I'm not hopeful he will ever talk to me again :( but I think I might be hopeful that I will be okay eventually.

[SethfromMI]

Thank you so much for your kind words! It really helps. I don't think I will keep trying. It's going to hurt even more, I know, but I think trying and not getting what I want is worse. It sucks that I still run into him so many times but I don't want to just sit in my room and lock myself up just to avoid him. I'm not hopeful he will ever talk to me again :( but I think I might be hopeful that I will be okay eventually.

your welcome. and, as sad as it is, it may be the right decision to make. keep the door open, but I think you are right and it may be better for you to move on for the time being. still, I do hope things end up working out for you and your friend.