They Say It's the Hardest

[KangarooInMalibu]

Why would you say the 1st relationship & the 1st breakup is always the hardest?

Why can/do some people get reeled in and hooked for the longest periods of time on it?

Why can it be so controlling in your life?

[asrlem]

Never been in a relationship but i would guess because the first time that you get a gf or bf then it is harder because you dont know what to do because you have no experience.

[ImCoolBeans]

I don't think my first relationship/breakup was the hardest. My first breakup was certainly tough, but we were really immature and hardly even knew anything about dating. I did have a strong relationship with somebody once, and when that ended I had a very hard time getting over it, and ended up depressed in a bad way for a while. Some people get hung up on their first relationship because it's their first experience and don't know anything different, so it tends to be an end of the world kind of situation.

[PinkFloyd]

The first break-up is the hardest because you haven't dealt with it yet. It's new and fresh to you.

Say you're a cop and you witness someone getting mugged. The first time, you'll be impacted by it but by the fourth, fifth, or five hundred twelfth time, it's not as hard hitting because it's less irregular. It would be a stretch to say you're used to it.

[Uranus]

Because you really found the one you thought you were made for. And since you never felt the feeling you had for that person, the breakup feeling is tough and new.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Why would you say the 1st relationship & the 1st breakup is always the hardest?

Why can/do some people get reeled in and hooked for the longest periods of time on it?

Why can it be so controlling in your life?


very likely as mostly the first is when we are still young and immature -

I have no idea why some get reeled in and hooked but that just varies.

[Gumleaf]

Like others have said, the first is often the worst because it's a new feeling and new experience. Although other future break ups are likely to be really difficult, the difference is that the experience from that first one has given you the ability to kind of prepare yourself for the emotions you are about to experience from future break ups. By knowing what to expect by your emotions, you are likely to be able to deal with it a little better. Now this won't be the same for everyone, but as for what that saying means, that's how I understand it.

[James Dean]

In my opinion, usually for some people, the first true love is your only true love. So when things don't go so well and it has to end, you don't take it nicely. It becomes a hard relationship because it's you're first love. First person you kissed, first person you went to the movies with. They have a special place in you.

Every other relationship you try to have after that one, is somehow going to remind you of them. There are some people who can just naturally move on and get over past loves. Then other people just get attached, like I said before, it's your first. The first of anything is going to be remembered and hard to top and hard to forget. So the first relationship shouldn't be different.

[Cognizant]

In my opinion, usually for some people, the first true love is your only true love. So when things don't go so well and it has to end, you don't take it nicely. It becomes a hard relationship because it's you're first love. First person you kissed, first person you went to the movies with. They have a special place in you.

Every other relationship you try to have after that one, is somehow going to remind you of them. There are some people who can just naturally move on and get over past loves. Then other people just get attached, like I said before, it's your first. The first of anything is going to be remembered and hard to top and hard to forget. So the first relationship shouldn't be different.

This. It can be the stupid things, too. Whenever I ride on Muni or BART in San Francisco, it reminds me of a lot of things - like how I took BART to my first date with him, or how we would always escape the awkwardness of his parents by running off somewhere on the bus. I broke off with him a year ago and every time I ride Muni, go out to the beach or hang out in Golden Gate Park, I think of him, and I don't think I ever will stop associating those things with him.

[CosmicNoodle]

The foirst break up for me was easy, I simply didn't care anymore (shows how strong the relatinship was... :( )
For me the 2nd one was hardest because I really cared for my partner, but he didn't care for me anymore, it was like having apart of myself removed.

But I suppose for most people the first one is hardest becaus eit's fresh and they don't know how to deal with it.

[Body odah Man]

Why would you say the 1st relationship & the 1st breakup is always the hardest?

Why can/do some people get reeled in and hooked for the longest periods of time on it?

Why can it be so controlling in your life?

Because the first time you become attached to something, be it a video game account, a girl, a boy, who/whatever- you give a piece of your soul to the attachment. Thus once you break up/lose the attached object, you lose that bit of your soul.

[ScottieDog]

I've had two break-ups now and I have to say the first was pretty tough. I dumped him because I didn't feel his heart was in the relationship any more but it was still a really hard thing to do. I think your first break-up is always going to be tough because it's your first love but I'm sure many people will see tougher break-ups.

[Karkat]

I feel like it depends. If you're close to the person, it can be hard for that, but otherwise, it's probably jus because it's a new experience.