"That's Messed Up"

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

Recently, my oldest nephew/little brother and I were viewing an array of music videos. One of which was We Are Young-Fun. In the video, during the large fight scene the viewer gets a plain view of "two girls kissing" as the little bugger described it. He immediately condemned the scene with the clever remark.
Two girls kissing? That's messed up!

Honestly I die a little on the inside everytime children make homophobic and ignorant comments like this, Should I give him a few words of wisdom?

[jayjay's toocool]

Yep, I do.

[Luminous]

Yeah, tell him. Kids don't understand. I went through a short period when I was 11 when I knew what being gay was but didn't fully understand that's what I was, and I thought it was absolutely disgusting because I'd never seen it before. Heck, I Google'd if a lesbian could be feminine, because I didn't know any better. I wish someone had told me when I was younger.

[ImCoolBeans]

I would probably try to enlighten the kid a little bit. It scares me to hear things like that from children.

[DeadEyes]

Honestly I die a little on the inside everytime children make homophobic and ignorant comments like this, Should I give him a few words of wisdom?

That's just the society we live in and no matter what, there's no changing it.

[Hudor]

Yeah talk to him. Kids reflect what they learn by observing people around them. Unless they gather more perspective, they wouldn't be able to judge correctly and would always have one-sided views that can be dangerous and hurtful.

[PinkFloyd]

Kids are (not trying to sound like a dick) for the most part, ignorant and stupid. I know I was.

That being said, all they need is to be educated. Anything different to a kid or an ignorant person is usually by default, bad. ALl they need is to be educated and then it's all good.

[James Dean]

I would just take it as kids being kids. Later on you can probably talk to him about it. I can think of so many instances where people who I was very close with friends, family and they probably saw something on tv, in real life, we were at a event or something and it was someone who was gay or lesbian or transgender and they said a homophobic remark. I just took it in stride. People are gonna have their opinions, and not everyone is going to agree with my lifestyle. Some of those people claim to me that they aren't judgmental like that but I don't know. If you didn't mean it, you wouldn't have said it. So I hope you don't take this too hard and understand the situation. He's young, and this is very common for people to express their opinions like that.

[TheLoneWolf]

Little children saying it, well yea, I can get that.
But teens saying it disgusts me.

A few weeks ago my little brother (5) and I saw a car with married people in it. My brother said 'What did they do?' I told them two people just married.
My brother asked whether it were a boy and a girl or not. I told him it probably was a boy and a girl, but it could also be a boy and a boy or a girl and a girl.
He totally agreed and said he wanted to marry a boy later in life. :D

[DeadEyes]

Kids are (not trying to sound like a dick) for the most part, ignorant and stupid.

Not just kids.

A few weeks ago my little brother (5) and I saw a car with married people in it. My brother said 'What did they do?' I told them two people just married.
My brother asked whether it were a boy and a girl or not. I told him it probably was a boy and a girl, but it could also be a boy and a boy or a girl and a girl.
He totally agreed and said he wanted to marry a boy later in life. :D

That's one sweet story I must say, I guess you're never too young to know what you want eh?

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[Elysium]

Yes! Educate children! At least let them understand what it is that they're commenting on before they start hating it. More than likely, especially with kids, they'll realize that there really isn't much to hate, if not now then later in life.

[Babs]

Kids are impressionable. It's scary to see them saying shit like that at such a young age. Next time they say something like that, maybe you should explain to them that it's not gross or anything and that it's perfectly fine and natural.

[CosmicNoodle]

Yes! Educate children! At least let them understand what it is that they're commenting on before they start hating it. More than likely, especially with kids, they'll realize that there really isn't much to hate, if not now then later in life.

This was basically what I was going to say,

[RazorTourniquet]

Yes, educate him on this. When I was young( about 2nd grade) my mum explained it to me like this: "A boy can love a boy, a girl could love a girl, and there is nothing wrong with that, nothing to hate. I mean, they do you no harm, do they? What if I was waiting in the line in a grocery store, I saw you buying apples and yelled at you:" apples are wrong! I hate apples! you shall not buy apples!" and then take your apples from you and throw them away? You love apples and I take away your right to decide. Never do that."
Wise woman.

[crazy_daug]

Yeah, you probably should. I'd get serious if that was my brother. And also, let him know Fun. isn't a joke band, it's an amazing band. Joking! I just have a Fun. obsession.

[Sasha M]

HA! Yeah, teach him a lesson.

[SethfromMI]

kids usually say the first thing thye think of, not aware of what they are syaing or if it is hurting someone. just try to talk to them

[JamesSuperBoy]

Recently, my oldest nephew/little brother and I were viewing an array of music videos. One of which was We Are Young-Fun. In the video, during the large fight scene the viewer gets a plain view of "two girls kissing" as the little bugger described it. He immediately condemned the scene with the clever remark.


Honestly I die a little on the inside everytime children make homophobic and ignorant comments like this, Should I give him a few words of wisdom?

Ok you cannot condemn a young kid as homophobic and ignorant but you can choose to either accept the child or carefully and with thought enlighten him - but to condemn as homophobic and ignorant is wrong.

[Karkat]

Kids are (not trying to sound like a dick) for the most part, ignorant and stupid. I know I was.

That being said, all they need is to be educated. Anything different to a kid or an ignorant person is usually by default, bad. ALl they need is to be educated and then it's all good.

Exactly. Honestly? We're all a little ignorant about something, and we've all said stupid, probably offensive things in the past. Especially if we were raised to be ignorant. (Not that it's something parents do on purpose, they just don't exactly know any better either.)

I used to be fairly homophobic and transphobic because my parents were, and I was pretty intolerant of anyone who didn't do things exactly like my family did. I was taught that these things "are not ok", and my impressionable mind kinda took it as "everyone you meet is a terrible person".

I grew out of it. The funny thing is that I've known, deep down, that I was more or less gay AND transgender since before I even hit puberty...

And you know, if I was at school, and someone called a kid a gay slur, I'd disassociate myself from that person. There were times that my "friends" (see: boys who beat me up unless I took the blame for things, did their dirty work) would send me after one of these kids, and I'd beat the crap out of them because at least it wasn't me for once.

You just never know. I mean, I have my anger issues NOW, but I'd like to think that you guys don't see me as a bully, or scary, or anything like that. I'd hope none of you get the impression that I don't accept you for who you are, regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, creed, etc.

Sometimes, the people who are the cruelest really are just in denial- as big of a cliche as that is, and as much as it isn't an excuse. (It isn't. The way I was treated isn't an excuse for my actions, and so on. I've forgiven myself, and I hope everyone I've hurt has forgiven me, but I don't blame them if they haven't. It still doesn't excuse that what I did was wrong, but it's done now- the important thing is to learn from it, and be a better person than that.)

You never know why someone does something unless you ask them, and so on. It can be like a slap in the face to hear ignorant comments- especially at a young age- but you have to remember that sometimes it comes from confusion, and not out of malice.

[Zachary G]

he doesnt know any better because no one has taught him anything, and i think he might change his tone a little if he knew that someone close to him, some one he loved was that way. so take the time to talk to him so he knows there is more than one side to it

[JacobIN]

You can try. AT least with kids their minds are still open. Hell, my grandfather the other day called Harry Potter a "Satan worshiping devil who wants to kill america." His words, no joke.

[Gwen]

A huge amount of children are like that because they haven't been taught otherwise. It is more of an ignorance thing that parents and teachers prefer to avoid the subject as long as possible and the child has to bring stuff like that up to learn. Best to teach them while they are young rather then growing up using homophobic terms.

[vboy]

Yes
It is important you set a good example