Noody
October 1st, 2014, 03:52 PM
So a while back I started a thread (Changing rooms (http://virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=208085)) voicing my concerns about showering nude in the locker/changing rooms after sports (Outside of school), which ended up with about 18 really helpful people giving me tips on how to conquer this issue. After about 5 months of preparation, I managed to conjure up the balls to do it for the first time with strangers and people I know. I headed over to the shower area, took my towel from around my waist, leaving me fully exposed and headed into the shower area (with 4/5 other people already in there) and had a shower. Much to my surprise, nobody made any indication that they cared I was naked in there, and I actually had a full on conversation with another guy in there who I'd never met before.
I know a lot of people have the same issue I had 3-5 months ago, where they are too afraid of showering nude due to an unexpected erection maybe, body image or just generally what people will think/say. With this, I thought I would start another thread with my top tips for conquering this fear, and also the top bits of advice from members on this forum which helped me conquer this.
1. Just go for it
I had an immense fear or this the first time I took the towel from around my waist, leaving me fully exposed in a changing room of at least 20 guys. The main thoughts going through my head were "They will all think I'm a wierdo", "Nobody will talk to a naked guy, it's awkward!", "What if I get a random erection whilst I'm in there?" and "What if my body looks ugly!".
After a minute or two of being in there, none of those issues presented themselves, they were all simply worst case scenarios that I had made up in my head. Sure, one of them might happen one day - But then again - I'm almost certain it won't have a long lasting negative effect on me.
My point is, that you will think of worst case scenarios in your head naturally - Everyone does it. However, almost 98% of the time, those scenarios will not happen. Just go for it, see what happens. If it's bad, don't do it again or find a way to combat it- If it's good, woohoo!
2. Nobody really cares about the fact that your are naked.
This is debatable, but what I found is that nobody really cares that you are showering naked. We all have the same "equipment", so why would they care to see another males penis? Sure, you might get a few comments thrown around here and there, but if they are smart enough, they won't try to bring down someone who has enough confidence and self belief to show their body in public. When/if those comments are made, either just ignore them and hope that no one else will comment, making them look ridiculous, or think of a really cocky think to reply - They will stop soon enough.
3. Erection incoming? Maths is the way to go.
The best way I dealt with the problem of unexpected erections, is as soon as I feel one coming on, think up a relatively difficult (but simply) maths equation, and try to work it out in your head. For example, I usually use sums such as 31x18=?. Sure, it's easy, you can probably work it out in a matter of seconds if you're good at maths. But the key thing is that it got your mind off of your incoming erection. I think it's probably different for everyone, so if that doesn't work, think of something really "unsexy", that usually does it too - But I found that even unsexy things made me more aware of my incoming erection and didn't do much to stop it.
4. You're there to get in, and get out - Not to show your body.
At the end of the day, you're in there to get in the changing rooms, strip, shower, dry, get changed and get out. All of you are. The simple fact that you are showering nude in comparison to showering with underwear on is not a huge detail. Just get in, do what you need to do, and get out.
5. There are so many benefits of showering naked
An article which really helped me was written by a guy called Kozo, now a 49 year old, addressing his young-self (12 year old Kozo) and explaining the massive benefits of showering naked at a youthful age. I actually agree with this guy completely after doing it myself now, and I strongly suggest you read this article.
So, that's the advice I have for you. I realise a lot of people may see this post as ridiculous, as showering in the locker rooms naked is an everyday thing to a lot of Americans these days I believe (I stand to be corrected..), but for us English people, it really is something which takes a lot of courage to do, as most people shower in their boxers at the least.
Hope I helped. If you have anything you think if worth adding to this thread, feel free to post down below and I'll add it. Also, feedback on this advice would be really appreciated! :)
(Congrats for getting to the end too, just realised how long this is. Essay time ;) )
I know a lot of people have the same issue I had 3-5 months ago, where they are too afraid of showering nude due to an unexpected erection maybe, body image or just generally what people will think/say. With this, I thought I would start another thread with my top tips for conquering this fear, and also the top bits of advice from members on this forum which helped me conquer this.
1. Just go for it
I had an immense fear or this the first time I took the towel from around my waist, leaving me fully exposed in a changing room of at least 20 guys. The main thoughts going through my head were "They will all think I'm a wierdo", "Nobody will talk to a naked guy, it's awkward!", "What if I get a random erection whilst I'm in there?" and "What if my body looks ugly!".
After a minute or two of being in there, none of those issues presented themselves, they were all simply worst case scenarios that I had made up in my head. Sure, one of them might happen one day - But then again - I'm almost certain it won't have a long lasting negative effect on me.
My point is, that you will think of worst case scenarios in your head naturally - Everyone does it. However, almost 98% of the time, those scenarios will not happen. Just go for it, see what happens. If it's bad, don't do it again or find a way to combat it- If it's good, woohoo!
2. Nobody really cares about the fact that your are naked.
This is debatable, but what I found is that nobody really cares that you are showering naked. We all have the same "equipment", so why would they care to see another males penis? Sure, you might get a few comments thrown around here and there, but if they are smart enough, they won't try to bring down someone who has enough confidence and self belief to show their body in public. When/if those comments are made, either just ignore them and hope that no one else will comment, making them look ridiculous, or think of a really cocky think to reply - They will stop soon enough.
3. Erection incoming? Maths is the way to go.
The best way I dealt with the problem of unexpected erections, is as soon as I feel one coming on, think up a relatively difficult (but simply) maths equation, and try to work it out in your head. For example, I usually use sums such as 31x18=?. Sure, it's easy, you can probably work it out in a matter of seconds if you're good at maths. But the key thing is that it got your mind off of your incoming erection. I think it's probably different for everyone, so if that doesn't work, think of something really "unsexy", that usually does it too - But I found that even unsexy things made me more aware of my incoming erection and didn't do much to stop it.
4. You're there to get in, and get out - Not to show your body.
At the end of the day, you're in there to get in the changing rooms, strip, shower, dry, get changed and get out. All of you are. The simple fact that you are showering nude in comparison to showering with underwear on is not a huge detail. Just get in, do what you need to do, and get out.
5. There are so many benefits of showering naked
An article which really helped me was written by a guy called Kozo, now a 49 year old, addressing his young-self (12 year old Kozo) and explaining the massive benefits of showering naked at a youthful age. I actually agree with this guy completely after doing it myself now, and I strongly suggest you read this article.
So, that's the advice I have for you. I realise a lot of people may see this post as ridiculous, as showering in the locker rooms naked is an everyday thing to a lot of Americans these days I believe (I stand to be corrected..), but for us English people, it really is something which takes a lot of courage to do, as most people shower in their boxers at the least.
Hope I helped. If you have anything you think if worth adding to this thread, feel free to post down below and I'll add it. Also, feedback on this advice would be really appreciated! :)
(Congrats for getting to the end too, just realised how long this is. Essay time ;) )