Dating your friend's ex

[Daracon]

Would you do it if given the chance?

[Croconaw]

I would confirm with my friend to make sure it was okay. Friendships are much more important than relationships, and more people have to realize that.

[Cognizant]

Well, Cady Heron did that and you saw what drama that caused :P

I would check in with my friend first, even if I think I know my friend well enough to know it wouldn't bug them. Having your friend date your ex could bring back unwanted memories, or make it more difficult for you to move on.

[Seafood]

Ask them first, I don't see how it is a problem is the break up was 'mutual' though.

[James Dean]

I can't say yes or no. It would depend on how things work out. I might say no now, then later down the line I might get a crush on them or something. Then again, maybe out of respect of the friend I shouldn't do it, but love is love and you can't help who you love. This is so tricky so I selected other.

[ImCoolBeans]

It depends on the situation. If I had a friend who was head over heals in love with his or her ex still, and I found out that the ex was interested in dating me, I probably wouldn't pursue anything because I wouldn't want to hurt my friend. However, if my friend wasn't too upset over it, didn't still have feelings for the ex, and was ok with me dating his or her ex then sure, if I'm interested. But sometimes magical things happen and you unexpectedly end up with somebody, if that was the case and I felt strongly enough about the person I guess my friend would have to deal with it, but I would not purposefully try to hurt my friend in doing so.

[Uranus]

I mean yea, but id at least talk with my friend first. Because even if she fucked up and he left her, getting together with her could still ruin your friendship with your buddy. I'd wait though, cause sometimes they do get back together again. My suggestion is to be careful and think about what could happen if you do

[Harley Quinn]

I've always thought of that as one of the rules of friendship you just don't break. You have to take into account what the other person is feeling, like don't do anything you wouldn't want someone else doing to you. I mean, obviously life doesn't work that way, you are free to love whoever you want and all that jazz, it's more, is it worth risking the friendship over if the other person isn't okay with it? Probably not.

[CosmicNoodle]

Yes, I would, if he can't be happy for me, screw him/her. I wouldn't mind, in fact one of my friends dated one of my ex's, I was happy for both of them, they both needed some happy in there lives.

[Body odah Man]

Would you do it if given the chance?

I'd do it if she was nice and super sweet, yeah. Most friendships are transitory anyway so offending a friend shouldn't be a deterrance

[Melodic]

If the tables were turned, I'd really want my friend to be happy along with my ex. So I'd hope my friend would feel the same in return. However, yes I would run it through them to make sure it is comfortable with them.

[asrlem]

Check with friend and then go for it

[Perfectly Flawed]

It depends, but in most cases I think it's fine.

[allisonmyers]

It depends tho def need to make sure friend is ok with it theres a reason why the ex is an ex

[Gumleaf]

As my church pastor Travis said in a sermon 'that breaks the bro code'. However, if they are ok with it, then I would go for it. But otherwise, no. I work on the theory that girlfriends will come and go but friends last forever sort of approach. No point screwing a meaningful friendship because of that sort of thing.

[Magenta]

Bros first despite how awfully tempted I might be.

But like other people have said, I'd ask my friend first and if I had any doubts they were sure it was okay, I wouldn't do it.

I dunno, I've had a friend date my ex and it was like it was being rubbed in my face for ages and I fucking hated it. So just don't do it.

[ScottieDog]

I think this one really depends on the situation. I mean I would be far more hesitant than normal before dating a friend's ex but ultimately love is love. I wouldn't do it if that friend wasn't over the ex though, that's cruel. I think a lot would depend on the specifics of the situation.