In love with straight best friend

[Green Arrow]

I'm in that age old problem that gay guys have, I've fallen in love with my best friend. I've known him for 7 years and he's always been there for me, he's the friend that I'd always go to first if I needed something. He makes me laugh all the time and he was the first person that I actually came out too as well. Also he's pretty cute too. I don't know what to do, he's straight and I really do have feelings for him... it really sucks knowing that he'd never love me the way I love him. :(

[CosmicNoodle]

I'd suggest you don't tell him, reading all the threads on here you get the picture that it kind of freaks people out when they find out there best friend loves then that way

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

You should probably just try to accept that he will only be a best friend and not a boyfriend. And maybe in 5 years it'll be something that you can both have a good laugh about.

[Elysium]

You should probably just try to accept that he will only be a best friend and not a boyfriend. And maybe in 5 years it'll be something that you can both have a good laugh about.
This. It's going to suck to hear and I know it hurts like hell, but the best thing is really to get over it. Personally, when I had to accept that, the only way I was able to go about it was by telling my crush about my feelings. Once I did that (and having her explicitly confirm that my feelings were not reciprocated), getting over her came naturally. You could instigate some other catalyst to help you, if necessary.

[James Dean]

Have those same feelings with a friendship. If he isn't attracted to men there's nothing you can do. Continuing to venture with him is only going to make your situation worse. He can still be an ally to you with whatever you do in life and I'm sure he will support you. You came out to him, so I know how much you are attached to him. You are going to eventually get over him and it's going to be water under the bridge. It's going to be ok, you can still have him in your life as a support system.

[ImCoolBeans]

It may hurt, but getting over it is probably the best thing you can do. I've had my share of straight crushes, and I've had strong feeling for a friend before as well. 98% of the time it doesn't work out... But that doesn't mean that it's impossible. I had a straight crush for a few years, I didn't really have strong feelings for him but I guess you could say "I wanted it." Last year I decided I was going to ask him if he was interested, at first he said no and I politely respected that, and then the next day he messaged me back and we had a short fling. He wasn't my best friend, and I definitely did not love him, but anything really is possible, so don't rule it out even if you think it's impossible, but don't get your hopes up too high either, because doing so will likely set you up for disappointment.

As much as it sucks, you might have to just get over it

[asrlem]

I think just keep him as your friend and not a boyfriend. You could drop subtle clues about it and if he doesnt pick them up then he probably doesnt want to be your boyfriend. Just keeo him as a friend

[ForLackOfABetterUser]

He's straight and you can't do anything about that. Best thing to do is just get over it and find someone who is gay or bi :)