Age?

[Semi_IronMan]

At what age can you be sure about your sexuality?

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

Most people seem to know when their sexual parts start ...maturing, and they know what arouses them. However, some people are less sure and may decide at older ages. Some may deny their sexuality in adolescence and not know what they truly are until adult hood, So my answer, is >10 years old. at least.

In my case, I started feeling that I was different around 11, and didn't figure out I was gay until 14.

[TheLoneWolf]

I'm 16 and wasn't sure till about 4 months ago. I have always known that I was different but I just didn't want to be gay. So I tried to find other problems for feeling this way.
I finally accepted it a fee months ago.
There's not just a certain age at which you can be sure. You'll just have to find it out for yourself.

[jacko]

I think it depends on the person. Sometimes it can be quite early, sometimes not. If you're bi your interests can apparently change throughout your life.

[Unde4dmau5]

I for one would say that an average age is around 15-17 when teens begin to become sure about their sexuality. Now, being that this is only an average that I guessed (and I'm more often than not terrible at guessing), some teens find out sooner, others maybe not even up until early adulthood. I would also go so far as to say the rate at which a person finds out and becomes sure about their sexuality would also depend on numerous factors including the rate they go through puberty, emotional and mental factors, and their outlook on life in general. But, everyone is different, and we must recognize the fact that people are going to discover themselves at different rates. But in conclusion, I would say that 11-13 would be the earliest age that teens begin to become sure about their sexuality, but this age will vary with everybody.

[ksdnfkfr]

It differs from person to person. The way I look at it for myself is that I'm still growing in all ways. Don't really feel I can be 100% sure until I'm fully grown.

[CosmicNoodle]

Well, I'm 17 and I still don't know if I'm Bi or Gay. It could take you a while, bdut one day you'll be sure about it, just give yourself time.

[Green Arrow]

There's no defining age when you find out, when you know you'll know. As chliche as that sounds.

[Elysium]

Any age, honestly. For some people it's obvious for as long as they can remember. For others, not until well into their adulthood. It depends far too much on the individual. Also keep in mind that you go through phases in your life; your opinions and perceptions can and will change, especially subconsciously. These things may affect the way you determine your sexuality or label it, if you choose to do so.

[JacobIN]

There is no age you can be sure...Its different per person. Me, I only accepted it at the beginning of this year, but i've "known" for about 2 years now.

[Babs]

It varies from person to person, honestly. I don't think there's much of an age limit when it comes to this.

[James Dean]

I don't really think there is one. Because you don't really start what knowing what sexuality actually is until later. So I want to say 13-15.

[Uranus]

It really depends on each person. Some know at this age, some know at that age. It's all different for everyone. Don't be too concerned about your sexuality. Because no one should judge you by that. Just live your regular life and eventually you'll find out your sexuality

[Croconaw]

There really isn't a set age. You just come across that moment where you just know.

[Perfectly Flawed]

It's different for everyone. The average age range seems to be 13-18.

[ScottieDog]

I think this varies but I would imagine most people have a clear idea by their later teens and into their twenties. You might start to get an idea of who you're into when your first sexual feelings arrive but to be sure I think you would need to be 18 or so. Many people change their minds through puberty I find.

[DeadEyes]

I think it depends on the person.

That's right, sometimes it takes longer to realise.

[Luminous]

Yep, it definitely depends on the person. I knew when I was 11, just days after I found out what it actually meant to be gay. Had I known before, I likely would have realized as a young child. Looking back, it's painfully obvious, I just didn't understand that it was possible. As shown in this thread, some people still don't even know in their late teens. There's no defined age for knowing your sexuality (despite what some people may think).

[Zachary G]

I was sure by the age of 10, thats when i came out to my parents about being gay

[Buddy 912]

Depends on what you have experienced. Some people are ready 13/14 and others are not ready at 21.

[SethfromMI]

there is no set age. everyone is different

[Gigablue]

Depends on the person. I know for me, I knew fairly early on that I didn't feel attracted to anyone the way most people do, but I didn't realize that that meant I was asexual until pretty recently.

[Wyatt 13]

This question strikes hard on me because I know I am gay I like guys, but at the same time I don't like romantic stuff with guys AT ALL, I like just mess around and hang out; do outdoor stuff. I don't like chicks AT ALL I don't picture myself making out with chicks or doing sex stuff.

[Descene]

You know when you know, but sometimes you don't know when you know. Ask me at different points in my life and I would tell you very different things. It has even changed well after puberty, though more people will fight with me about your sexuality being able to truly change than would fight me about alternate sexualities being natural. Unless you're too young to even have a crush on someone (which is a debate too, but to be safe before you've attended kindergarten) then I would never think it weird if you know your sexuality. Well, when I say sexuality I mean attraction in general, as obviously specific sexual attraction has a development requirement.

[Babiole]

My dad's younger sister wasn't sure that she was lesbian until she was 25, when she realized that she never really found herself attracted to guys.

[Semi_IronMan]

I was sure by the age of 10, thats when i came out to my parents about being gay

and how did your parents react?

[Zachary G]

and how did your parents react?

my parents were really cool about it and are very supportive of me. i was really scared at first, but i just went for it and was surprised when they told me it didnt matter, they loved me anyway.

[Babs]

It depends. Some people know when they're eight, some people know when they're thirty. There's no set age. I hate the "you're too young to know" bullshit.

[Uranus]

There's no age for this. Some know at age 13, some at 16, some in their 20's. It varies between different people.

[allisonmyers]

some people never know

[vboy]

It all depends but at the end of it all when you know you know

[Semi_IronMan]

my parents were really cool about it and are very supportive of me. i was really scared at first, but i just went for it and was surprised when they told me it didnt matter, they loved me anyway.

wow! Your parents are awesome. Mine would've probably shunned me and sent me to live with my grandma, who is more homosexual tolerent, since we're religious

[Zachary G]

wow! Your parents are awesome. Mine would've probably shunned me and sent me to live with my grandma, who is more homosexual tolerent, since we're religious

well sounds like you need to tread lightly around our parents until you are on your own and can live your own life the way you want it. its cool that your grandma is a little more tolerant, so maybe you have a place to escape to if things ever get too uncomfortable for you at home.

[Semi_IronMan]

well sounds like you need to tread lightly around our parents until you are on your own and can live your own life the way you want it. its cool that your grandma is a little more tolerant, so maybe you have a place to escape to if things ever get too uncomfortable for you at home.

yeah, but I don't plan on telling them I'm bisexual until I'm sure that I am

[CrazyPerson101]

It depends on the person, I'm 15 and I'm bi and I've known I've been bi since I was 12 but as I've gotten older, I prefer guys more but it depends on past experiences and alot of other things but my point is, it depends on the person mostly, some are sure about their sexuaity before others but in due time, everyone figures theirs out.

[Emerald Dream]

There really isn't any set age where you can be sure about your sexuality. I still haven't figured out everything about myself, for example (and I am almost 19). I would be willing to bet that there are people who never "figure it out" completely in their lives.

[AussieBoi98]

well I'm 15 and bi i started noticing what i like at around 12 but at first i thought i was gay since then i found out i actually like girls a bit more than boys so i would think about 11 or 12

[Pulp501]

There is no age, it's different and sexuality can change, that's why you might have a woman who always dated men, and may have even been married and had a family become a lesbian in her 40s. Some other people know their sexuality from a very young age and stay that way for ever, others arent sure until they're adults.

[Zsofia]

One of my friend changed sexuality at 24.

[kay_jay]

I think after you've completed puberty. I don't label myself atm but maybe after puberty I'll be sure of my sexuality.

[sieg]

you can be absolutely certain by the time you are 10. maybe a little earlier if you are bright.

[Karkat]

Short answer: there isn't a set age.

It's honestly different for everyone. Some people will never be truly sure. Some know very early on.