my best friend.

[hardcore-smile]

k well the other night my friend and my boyfriend came over and my friend told us that her grandfather molested her, and i now have no idea what to do. i mean what do i say to her, because its like a really big deal considering her grandfather molested her mother also, and i don't exactly know what molesting is, so if someone could explain it to me that would be helpful also does anyone have any idea what i should say to comfort her if it comes up agian .?
thank you so much.

[Falk 'Ace' Flyer]

Well, molesting is when somebody touches a child...inappropriately. You should tell her to tell her parents right away, because it's something very serious. There's not much to say, but just let her know that you're there for her.

[PhillyBby]

Molesting is having unwanted sex or touching. Let you friend know you are there for her and she needs to tell someone immediately. If he has done it to her mother and your friend then he has a problem that needs to be fixed.

[hardcore-smile]

she already told her mother and father and her dad went bilistic and beat up her grandfather.

[thesphinx]

This is a tricky situation if she has already told her parents, are her parents pursuing any legal actions? if anything your friend needs to start some sort of therapy so she can begin to heal from this incident do you know if she is doing anything like that? If stuff like this is already happening (therapy,legal action) then just be there for her because she'll need a friend hang in there .

[Zephyr]

This excact thing happened to my best friend's older sister and mom.
Her grandfather molested her mother and older sister.
When her mother found out, they cut off all contact from him.

If she's already told her parents about it, there isn't much else to do unless they want to take it to court or do as my friend's family did and cut off all contact. The best that you can do is just keep on being the best friend that you can be to her and possibly encourage therapy if she isn't over it. Just remind her that it isn't her fault and that he was way out of line. Remind her that she is still a special and beautiful person = )

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

she already told her mother and father and her dad went bilistic and beat up her grandfather.

I honestly support that course of action. At least it should be over with now. So maybe she doesn't have anything left to worry about?

[CTRL.ALT.the leet]

she already told her mother and father and her dad went bilistic and beat up her grandfather.

Wow thats great that her parents listen to her.
And her dad kicks ass.

[Zan0ra]

Well there isn't much else you can do about it now. Only tell her that you're there for her if she ever needs support.

[Malcolm Tucker]

Guys don't bump old threads.

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