Anybody else have a mom who snoopes through your physical and digital life?

[Drummer Ben]

It real creepy. Just turned 18. If I leave my Facebook on the computer I catch my mom reading through all my messages. She found out my sisters iCloud account and logs in to read all her messages. If I leave my phone on I catch my mom trying to get into it and once reading all my emails. Theirs just no privacy. It's not like I'm doing anything bad. My philosophy is if you wouldn't do it in real life, don't do it online. Any tips on how to make my mom mind her own buisness. thanks!

[Lost in the Echo]

Honestly, you really only have two options: Let her know this is frustrating you, and that she needs to respect your privacy. Tell her you're an adult now, and you can take care of yourself.
If that doesn't work, then all I can tell you is start deleting your history.

[Melodic]

I'd suggest talking to her about it. However I know plenty of parents who do the same and won't listen to it. But I think if it doesn't work, You need to just log out of everything you log on and possibly change your passwords if it doesn't work. Like you said, you're 18. She shouldn't have that much control over your social life.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I agree you should at least try and talk with your Mom.

[Body odah Man]

It real creepy. Just turned 18. If I leave my Facebook on the computer I catch my mom reading through all my messages. She found out my sisters iCloud account and logs in to read all her messages. If I leave my phone on I catch my mom trying to get into it and once reading all my emails. Theirs just no privacy. It's not like I'm doing anything bad. My philosophy is if you wouldn't do it in real life, don't do it online. Any tips on how to make my mom mind her own buisness. thanks!

I am so glad I don't have that. Sadly, this shows that your mom doesn't trust you two which means that talking might not work in changing her mind. You might have to just suck it up, discuss it with her (will probs not work) or delete history. Or after a while your mom might start trusting you and desist her snooping efforts. Good luck

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

Is it possible for you to create a password for your computer accounts. I do that on all of my devices and I never get any unwanted visitors every again. It does help to delete your history though.

[unknownuser]

Locks/passwords and delete history, if talking to her fails.

Mine would do the same... if she were fluent with technology. Thankfully she isn't, I don't think she could even find the on button on my phone.

[Croconaw]

Tell her to mind her business. You should be trusted because you're an adult. She needs to give you at least a little more freedom. What she's doing is a bit creepy.

[Cognizant]

Wow. I thought my mom was nosey, but this is a lot more severe. :\

You need to tell her that you're an adult now, and that you'd like her to respect your privacy better. If that doesn't work, well then I don't know what to say. I would advise securing your devices, such as requiring a password after you wake your computer from sleep mode or during the screensaver so that she can't get into your personal information.

[asrlem]

My dad is a super genius computer geek so he sees everything i do on my phone and computer so there is noooo place to hide and it is fucking annoying. I want to have some privacy i mean i am not even allowed to close my bedroom door thats how little privacy i have and i cant lock the bathroom door to keep my brother out. It is screwed up i tell you. But if you want privacy then have a "sit down" with your mom and tell her your exact feelings and dont hide anything.

[James Dean]

Sadly yes. They always pretend to not know much about technology. Like I'll be on my phone and they will ask to see it. I mean I've got nothing to hide but I know they are trying to search for something naughty. lol.

I just got used to it, people are gonna be nosy and if they pay they bill they have the right to know I guess.

[mrmee]

Sadly yes. They always pretend to not know much about technology. Like I'll be on my phone and they will ask to see it. I mean I've got nothing to hide but I know they are trying to search for something naughty. lol.

I just got used to it, people are gonna be nosy and if they pay they bill they have the right to know I guess.

I pay my own bill and my mom still tries to go through my phone. If i have a password when she randomly checks it, she wont let me have it back until i tell her the password.

[Sasha M]

My mom is like this too. Theirs only one difference between your story and my story though. I'm way better at keeping a lock on my life. :yes:
Of course there's steps you could take to get her to be less nosy, but the simple solution would be to not leave your stuff unprotected. Log out stuff, keep passwords on stuff, I do this very thing and my mom cant look at anything. :yeah:

[Babs]

My mom has never done that to me. She occasionally looks over my shoulder when I'm on the computer but that's it. She only does it when she has a good reason to suspect that someone's getting themselves into some bad shit.

[Stronk Serb]

Tell her she cannot do that to you and that you're an adult. If she thinks she's law-abiding, tell her that it's illegal and tell her that you don't go through her stuff and you demand the same from her.

[allisonmyers]

password protect and erease history all the time

[BeachBlonde]

If you have a Windows computer, make it a habit to press the Windows Key and L to lock the computer. That's what I do to prevent my younger brother from looking through everything.

[LiamC]

I'm nearly 18 and my foster mum follows me on twitter (I know I could block her and make it private but why should I have to do that? And besides, that'd cause more trouble than its worth), she brings up stuff I tweet in real life and uses it against me... She also found out I was on grindr through that, and because I'm "technically not 18" she "strongly advises" I don't go on it.

She's even just recently put internet filters on which block grindr as well as other things :p but she does have children who are 9 and 7 so I understand that, but there's no need for to scrutinise my twitter like that.

[Babiole]

Not really. She's mostly on Facebook speaking to her cousins over in Sicily. I don't really use Facebook.