Do I need to be perfect?

[Polo2847]

I feel like I need to improve myself to be perfect in many of my skills?
I always ask my girl friends what they look in a guy, and I don't really want to hear personality-related stuff. I was kind of focusing on skill-based stuff. Some stuff I do are:
- Violin...but I don't think I play it well enough
- Piano...same as ^^^
- Cooking...I have zero cooking skills
- Job...I'm looking for one, but I'm also a full time student at university
- Driving...can't afford insurance unless I get a job

Like, I feel I'm not ready to get into the relationship stage until I improve myself...but I have a friend who didn't know how to do anything until she had a boyfriend, which motivated her to improve herself.

Also, I was "born late" so I was always the youngest in class in high school, so I feel immature compared to everyone else. Everyone seems like they know what they're doing.

Are there any characteristics (not skills based now) a girl/guy looks into a guy partner?

[James Dean]

You shouldn't have to conform yourself just to please someone. We are all special in our own unique ways. From what you mentioned, you seem to be doing fine. Just be yourself and if someone doesn't appreciate you the way you are, keep it moving. They aren't worth your time. You shouldn't change yourself just for the approval of others. As long as you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else. What you do isn't illegal, then you are fine.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

You shouldn't have to conform yourself just to please someone. We are all special in our own unique ways. From what you mentioned, you seem to be doing fine. Just be yourself and if someone doesn't appreciate you the way you are, keep it moving. They aren't worth your time. You shouldn't change yourself just for the approval of others. As long as you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else. What you do isn't illegal, then you are fine.

This, exactly.

[ChrisTJ]

What girls look for in a guy differs from girl to girl but generally someone who we can relate to and makes us happy is a big thing for us. Some of us are driven by looks and will only accept someone who has above average looks (generally those of us who consider ourselves good looking) though some girls like me are less inclined to prioritise looks highly.

As for your list, I would say as we enter our later teens and into our twenties we do start to think highly of guys who have a job (or have money), drive a car and have cooking skills. Generally as we enter our twenties some of us (not all) are starting to think long term and looking for a guy we could possibly end up marrying. So things like cooking ability and financial stability start to be scored highly.

[allisonmyers]

Just be you then your perfect in your own right

[Gumleaf]

What girls look for in a guy differs from girl to girl but generally someone who we can relate to and makes us happy is a big thing for us. Some of us are driven by looks and will only accept someone who has above average looks (generally those of us who consider ourselves good looking) though some girls like me are less inclined to prioritise looks highly.

As for your list, I would say as we enter our later teens and into our twenties we do start to think highly of guys who have a job (or have money), drive a car and have cooking skills. Generally as we enter our twenties some of us (not all) are starting to think long term and looking for a guy we could possibly end up marrying. So things like cooking ability and financial stability start to be scored highly.

I think this sums it up. But I will add, the first thing to remember that there is no perfect partner, and that works both ways. Nobody should expect you to be perfect, nor should you be looking for perfection in a partner. Nobody is perfect, and although many of us try to find ways to make us more appealing to those we are attracted to, you can't go looking to be perfect, because it won't happen. Just be yourself, that's all anyone can ask for.

[Uranus]

I'm just going to answer your title. No.
No one is perfect. As long as you be who you were meant to be and try to not be someone else, then your perfect in your own way

[Christen]

everyone can improve but noone will ever reach perfection
you can like someone for the good things in personality but love besides or even because the flaws.

[Rania]

There is in you more than you know I feel like I need to improve myself to be perfect in many of my skills?
I always ask my girl friends what they look in a guy, and I don't really want to hear personality-related stuff. I was kind of focusing on skill-based stuff. Some stuff I do are:
- Violin...but I don't think I play it well enough
- Piano...same as ^^^
- Cooking...I have zero cooking skills
- Job...I'm looking for one, but I'm also a full time student at university
- Driving...can't afford insurance unless I get a job

Like, I feel I'm not ready to get into the relationship stage until I improve myself...but I have a friend who didn't know how to do anything until she had a boyfriend, which motivated her to improve herself.

Also, I was "born late" so I was always the youngest in class in high school, so I feel immature compared to everyone else. Everyone seems like they know what they're doing.

Are there any characteristics (not skills based now) a girl/guy looks into a guy partner?

[Rania]

I'm just going to answer your title. No.
No one is perfect. As long as you be who you were meant to be and try to not be someone else, then your perfect in your own way
' I wasn't born with enough middle fingers "
I like that saying !

[Uranus]

' I wasn't born with enough middle fingers "
I like that saying !

Haha! It's definitely true in some cases! I wish I had some extras at times lol ��

[Jexer]

Even if you wanted to become perfect you can't, nobody is capable of it.

[ForLackOfABetterUser]

No one is perfect. From my experience, girls mainly want a guy who is confident and who gives off a masculine sense about them. My tip for most people wanting to get girls is to be confident.
There are some girls who love shy guys and yeah you will get rejected sometimes but just deal with the fact and remember there are plenty of other girls out there. Good luck! :)

The girl above was also right in being yourself. If the girl doesn't like you for who you are then you're wasting your time with her. Don't change for anyone.

[Karkat]

It's admirable that you want to improve your life skills before you get into a relationship. Like, you're ahead of the game. Keep that shit up.

Let me let you in on a little secret though: very few- VERY FEW high school age girls are going to look for a man who is skilled. Most don't take relationships all that seriously, or are just new to it and don't know what to do themselves.

Personality is always a must, but sometimes you find that if a person can't support themselves, all the personality in the world doesn't make up for it. I mean, ideally, you should be able to work through issues when you find the right person, but life tends to be less than ideal.

I've found the right person twice. As of now? I'm single. Both times were my choice. There were things that didn't work.

Does that mean that they weren't great guys? Aw heck no- they're both amazing guys. In fact, they're both hard workers. They have their issues, but they're wonderful men.

And you know, you'll probably have to face the fact someday that you and the first person- heck maybe the first few people you're with- just aren't right for each other. That's just the way life is sometimes.

You don't have to be perfect, anyone who would ask you to be needs their head checked.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Its a two way deal - but no one can be perfect and its not all about skills or talents

take care

[tcjonvt]

If you're trying to emulate someone else, in my book, that's the worst thing you can do.

Be your own self. We'll love you for who you are!

[Elanor]

Does anyone else think that an average-looking guy can appear super-attractive if he has a great charisma and body language, while a physically "super-hot" guy can appear boring and unattractive if he seems insecure or stiff in some way?

Also, is it weird to be able to tell that a guy looks great and has "model looks" but still not find him attractive?

[sweetcake]

Does anyone else think that an average-looking guy can appear super-attractive if he has a great charisma and body language, while a physically "super-hot" guy can appear boring and unattractive if he seems insecure or stiff in some way?

Also, is it weird to be able to tell that a guy looks great and has "model looks" but still not find him attractive?

It's absolutely not weird. Personality and the way the guy brings himself is what I think matters. Like who would want to be with a mopey cheerleader or a timid jock? Besides, everyone has different tastes. On the end of the day, we can't tell our heart who to choose right?

[SethfromMI]

no one is perfect