Our Mother and Cousin

[lieslx]

:confused:I am 15-years-old and have a 13-year-old sister. About a year ago our parents got divorced, and my sister and I are living with our mother.
Over the past 6 months or so, a cousin of ours - our mother's sister's 17-year-old son - has been a regular visitor to our home, and our mother and cousin have been spending a lot of time together.
His visits have become so regular, that my sister and I suspect there might be something going on between them.
A couple of weeks ago our mother told us she was expecting a baby but did not say who the father is. She is already starting to show.
My sister and I think our cousin might be the father. What should we do? Should we approach our mother about this? Should we discuss this with other family members?
Our cousin came by the house tonight, and he and my mother went out. They are most probably having sexual intercourse as I am typing this. He is just a kid. It kills me to think my mother is having sexual intercourse with a cousin of mine. One needs to remember that he is my aunt's son. How will all this effect our family? The unborn baby? Can you imagine having my cousin as my new "dad"?

[The Batman]

Just calm down and think about it. Is your mom the type of person who would have sex with a family member or even someone underage? Divorce is a confusing time for us and you could be overreacting and jumping to conclusions about your mothers relationship with your cousin. Just tell your mom that you don't like how close she is to her nephew and that you really need to know who the father is. Just don't jump to conclusions before you have all the facts because he really could be helping your mom through this divorce.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

Wow, though situation=[.
talk to your mom, get her to tell you who the father is.

[scassie]

i have been in a situation like that kinda. u just have to wait a while and the truth will come out. did you cousin ever try to mess with you or your sister? be carful around him.
Does your Dad know about it, maybe he knows who the father is. It might even be him.
Look on the bright side......your gonna have a little brother or sister that needs love and good teaching. you can be the 1 to do it!!!

[tombstonequeen]

wow this is why ppl have bad impression on americans lol
talk to her and talk to her sister that is just messed up

[Techno Monster]

Maybe you should confront your mom about this???

[scatman]

just ask her who the father is, she may say its your cousin but its that simple

[Tyleisme]

Well divorce is hard on the whole family. It could be that you are just confused because of everything that has happened. I would just sit down with your mother and ask her who the father is. Another child is the house affects you. I think its reasonable to ask your mother who the father is. And if it is your cousin, I'm not sure what you could do other than let your mother know that you think it is wrong and disagree with her actions. It is quite possible that it is your fathers child. Who konws. your best bet is to just ask in a family meeting type situation with you and your mother.

[Camazotz]

Wow, thats a very confusing situation. My only thinking would be to ask your mom who father is, but she might not tell.

[Close102]

talk to her about it when the cousin is not around

[lieslx]

Thank you to all for replying to my earlier post.
The past month has been the most difficult for me. I have tried to be strong, but has been unable to. My sister and I have finally summoned up enough courage to approach our mother about our concerns.
Our mother has finally admitted to being pregnant, but when asked if our cousin was the father, she just laughed it off. The baby is due September. Can you imagine how it is tearing me apart knowing my mother is having sexual intercourse with my cousin, a boy my age? Can you imagine a baby with a seventeen-year-old father and thirty-one-year-old mother? Will I be the baby's sister, or the baby's aunt? What if our cousin were to move in with our mother? I need help!
On Friday our mother informed us that she would be going away with a friend for this long weekend and that we would have to spend the weekend with our grandmother. On Saturday our aunt (our cousin's mother) came to visit her mother, and it was then that we learnt our cousin had gone off for the weekend as well.
My sister and I immediately became suspicious. Later on we asked a friend to drive us to our house and noticed that our mother's car was in the driveway. We were too afraid to go into the house, thinking our mother and cousin might be having sex and returned to our grandmother's.
My sister and I are now thinking of approaching our aunt and enlisting her help in gettting to the bottom of this.
My sister and I am so ashamed of our mother. What will other people say when they find out about this? Can you imagine the endless teasing? What about the poor baby? I feel so sorry for it. Won't we be placed into social care if the authorities were to become involved?

[The Batman]

Again I think you might be jumping to conclusions about this, what if your mom rode with her friend, and your cousin is 17 of course he'll find somewhere to go during the weekend. Ask yourself is your mom really the type of person to sleep with a family member? If your mom just laughed it off then maybe she's saying that it isn't true and if she did stay home that weekend she could have been spending it with the baby's father. Don't let this fear damage the relationship you have with your mom. You need to pressure her into telling you who the father is.

[notsure101]

Try asking your dad wat to do this is weird situation i wouldnt no wat to do personaly i say just ask who the father is


get ur sister to just ask randomly whos the father

[Oblivion]

This is am awkward situation. The fact that he's your cousin makes this a difficult situation as this effects your whole family. The fact that he is only 17 also makes this illegal! You need to find out who the father actually is though, because it really could cause problems if you are wrong, and accuse him of this.

Its funny because i almost never see you post, but then when i do.. Its right on! I agree 101%. But i put emphasis on the last part- don't accuse him until you know for sure. Maybe the cousin and her are just being friendly. Who knows?