friends for 11 years

[asrlem]

I have a friend that is a girl and never kissed her before we have been friends for 11 years. Is it weird because its been that long and we are just friends or do you think that i should go for it one day?

[Gumleaf]

Just because you are long term friends, doesn't mean that you should be kissing each other or trying to force some kind of relationship. You should only be 'going for it' if you feel that it is right, that you start liking her more then a friend and that you want to be in a relationship with her. It would be more weird and wrong to try and force a relationship because you think it's weird to have a girl friend for that long.

[Luminous]

Just because you're a straight guy and girl and you've known each other for a long time doesn't mean any sort of relationship should or is going to form. It's not fair to her to expect that.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I'm pretty sure that Mr.Gumleaf and Ms.Lovelyhannah have driven the point home already, but I need posts. :P

Anyway, if you risk trying to go into a relationship with this girl, you could risk ruining the sanctity of your friendship.

[asrlem]

Thanks for advise. Now would it be weird for me to date another girl if i am already friends with her because we are long term friends and we are not in a relationship.

[Luminous]

No. You can have friends of the gender you are attracted to, and if your friend gets jealous then they're either being unrealistic or they have feelings for you or your partner.

[ksdnfkfr]

Yeah I'd say if you have had a really great friendship like practically since you were born, don't think it's something to risk. Dating another girl should be okay, but I think even regular best friends boy or girl can get a little jealous when that happens. Also maybe you could try just holding her hand or giving her a peck on the cheek? idk

[ChrisTJ]

I agree with what's been said. Sometimes girls just wanna be friends with a guy and not have to worry about the whole relationship stuff. Just be honest friends. Maybe a relationship will develop, maybe not but you can't make her like you.

[Emerald Dream]

Just because you are long term friends, doesn't mean that you should be kissing each other or trying to force some kind of relationship.

Just because you're a straight guy and girl and you've known each other for a long time doesn't mean any sort of relationship should or is going to form. It's not fair to her to expect that.

I am going to not only agree with both of these above, but admit that I am kinda jealous that you've had a friend of the opposite sex for so long. I know it happens with some people, and having a different perspective than your other friends seems like it will help you see different things. If I were you, I would be afraid to ruin the relationship with this person that I already have.

[asrlem]

Ok thx for help i will just take what i get so to say.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Its great to have friends but when we are so young do we really choose who to be friends with - anyways I guess you can figure it all out as you go.

[asrlem]

Well we met at a playgroup when we were age 2 and had been friends ever since. I think its better to just stay friends by now.