In a bit of a pickle.

[Paladino]

Two girls. 1 Guy. Tricky situation.

So I split up with my ex about 3 weeks ago and now she want's me back bla bla. I still love her. When we split up I started speaking to another girl and I found out she likes me and I kind of like her, but I love my ex and we are kind of back together but neither of them know of each other and I know its wrong to have them both but I kind of want them both but I can't because it's sick. I am extremely stressed at this, I was in this situation before I started going with my ex it was between her and another girl and ultimately I chose my gf. If it wasn't for the fact the other girl chose her ex over me I probably would never have been able to decide over them. It's a horrible situation and my friends think its funny. One of them calls me his prodigy.

help???

[Ambrosia]

Step back from the situation and take a deep breath. Just for a moment and assess what is going on. They always say, if you have two girls go for the second one because clearly the first one wasn't what you wanted anyways. I understand that it can be hard liking two girls. It is a nice feeling to know that two girls want you but stressful to not be able to decide.

Why did you and your ex break up to begin with? Was it a fight? Did someone betray the other? Clearly there is a reason you two split to begin with and maybe you need to step away from that relationship and clear your head. Normally I would recommend you not date either girl and just take a break all together but most young men will never take that type of advice. Date someone new. You and your ex broke up less then 3 weeks ago and you moved on far too quick for a man who is "in love". If it was the real thing you would have mourned far longer then just 3 weeks.

Try it out with this new girl. If you can't get your mind off your ex and she is all you think about a few weeks in, break it off with this one and try to get the ex back. I have a feeling that won't happen, though.

Good luck!

[ChrisTJ]

They always say, if you have two girls go for the second one because clearly the first one wasn't what you wanted anyways.

Good luck!

Yup I agree with the above!

I would give the new girl a try out. Sometimes when you have only recently split for a partner it can be hard to let go unless it was a terrible split. You clearly had feelings for your ex and those will take time to heal. Indeed my honest advice would be to take a few more weeks out of the dating game to give yourself time to relax and think about what you want. There's no race to get a replacement. Just think long and hard about what you want and whether things can be repaired with your ex. Then again giving the new girl a chance might make you see that you prefer her over your ex. So yeah my advice, give dating a break for another few weeks to think and contemplate then maybe give this new girl a chance to impress. I always feel there's a lot of truth in the saying that if you like two girls at the same time, choose the second as you wouldn't have fallen for the second if you liked the first.

[Paladino]

I wasn't trying move on that quickly I was trying to get her out of my mind and the easiest way seemed to be talking to another girl. I can't take the fucking pain anymore I hate my self and I hate life right now.

[Seafood]

I wasn't trying move on that quickly I was trying to get her out of my mind and the easiest way seemed to be talking to another girl. I can't take the fucking pain anymore I hate my self and I hate life right now.

Read your sig bro. Calm down. Take a breath and see which one you are most likely to have a future with.

[James Dean]

If it was me, I would probably stop seeing both of them. It's the only fair way. Because you cannot make your mind up, and you cannot get over one or the other. Perhaps you shouldn't get into relationships for awhile. Maybe figure out who you are, want you want in life. I'm not saying that you cannot be with both, as long as it's ok with both of the girls. However it's just it's better if you were to choose one partner. Since you cannot decide, don't see either one for a bit. There might be one you slightly like better. You might take your chances with one girl, decide she isn't the one then go for the other. Then decide she wasn't it either. Then we are back to square one, like I said not seeing either. Hopefully you make the right decision that's for you and I know you can do it. Don't worry.

[asrlem]

I think the opposite. You should stay with your ex because you have really loved her as you said. Tell your new girlfriend that you already have someone that you love and that it wont work out between you guys.

[ScottieDog]

Firstly you do need to stop seeing both at the same time as that's just not cool.

If you still love your ex and she's willing to give it another shot with you then go for it. I don;t think you can really move on well enough while you still have feelings for your ex, she'll always be there at the back of your mind. If things still don't work out with your ex then see about this new girl.

[Paladino]

The ex has been acting really weird with me the last few days, she says it doesn't feel the same but tbh she isn't even making an effort, but the other girl talks for a bit then dissappears then randomly phones me. I dunno man. Just gonna get drunk tonight and forget them both lol.