Having talked to sister in 5 years

[iamkitkat]

Hello.

Despite living in the same household, I have never had a proper conversation with her.

The only times we talk is to tell each other to come downstairs of if we need help. Or if we get into an argument.

The reason why I stopped talking to her is because she kept dominating me. I didn't get a chance to say anything. She would never let me have fun and she would constantly criticise how I spoke. For example, I said "quid" instead of "pound" and she would say how I am a chav. I was in Year 6 at this time so around (10-11 years old) She would also make comments about everything about me. Back then, it sort of hurt me. She still makes comments about me but I don't give a damm what she say's

After a few more of this stuff happening. I said for her to Go away and don't talk to me again. I really didn't think that would happen as we were siblings but it did. For 5 years. I still don't feel like talking to her.

Anyone else had this?

[Ambrosia]

My sister is eight years older then me. She has always been a very dominant and a little on the cruel side. I am very sensitive to words and what I interpret people are saying or meaning when they speak to me. She was always very judgmental of me and anytime I did anything that she even slightly disagreed with she made it known by calling me cruel things or talking horribly to me or about me. A few years ago I told her to leave me alone and get out of my life. I didn't think it would happen either but we just completely stopped talking to each other. It was needed, she was a huge cause of my personal issues and why I did things like hurt myself. She didn't speak for months. I didn't know what was going in with her and she didn't know about me. I moved out and we didn't see each other.

After about a year, my dads sister got very sick. She went into a coma and couldn't wake up. Her siblings came down from all over the US to visit and some of them hadn't talked to her in years...she passed away without them getting to have another conversation with her. Their chance was gone and she died young. It was painful for them. My father hadn't really been speaking to her really even though they lived next door to each other. She was an alcoholic and he was mad at her for not stopping. The pain he felt from having not spoken to her was a pain I couldn't bare to see. He was hurting so badly. So my sister and I decided to start talking again. No amount of sibling rivalry was worth never having a final conversation before losing your sibling.

She's still mean but I don't let her get to me as much anymore. I got a huge tattoo on my back in honor of our sisterhood just do when she's being mean I can ignore her a few days but can never cut her out of my life again. Just remember that. It isn't worth the pain.

[iamkitkat]

My sister is eight years older then me. She has always been a very dominant and a little on the cruel side. I am very sensitive to words and what I interpret people are saying or meaning when they speak to me. She was always very judgmental of me and anytime I did anything that she even slightly disagreed with she made it known by calling me cruel things or talking horribly to me or about me. A few years ago I told her to leave me alone and get out of my life. I didn't think it would happen either but we just completely stopped talking to each other. It was needed, she was a huge cause of my personal issues and why I did things like hurt myself. She didn't speak for months. I didn't know what was going in with her and she didn't know about me. I moved out and we didn't see each other.

After about a year, my dads sister got very sick. She went into a coma and couldn't wake up. Her siblings came down from all over the US to visit and some of them hadn't talked to her in years...she passed away without them getting to have another conversation with her. Their chance was gone and she died young. It was painful for them. My father hadn't really been speaking to her really even though they lived next door to each other. She was an alcoholic and he was mad at her for not stopping. The pain he felt from having not spoken to her was a pain I couldn't bare to see. He was hurting so badly. So my sister and I decided to start talking again. No amount of sibling rivalry was worth never having a final conversation before losing your sibling.

She's still mean but I don't let her get to me as much anymore. I got a huge tattoo on my back in honor of our sisterhood just do when she's being mean I can ignore her a few days but can never cut her out of my life again. Just remember that. It isn't worth the pain.

I am so sorry for this. :( :'(

I'm not sure. It's just too awkward to approach her. :/

I do want to speak to her but yeah... :/

[Ambrosia]

Just do it a little at a time. Or maybe sit her down and talk about it. Either way an attempt wouldn't hurt!

[Magenta]

My sister recently stopped talking to me and I don't know why. Her mother and I don't get along and I think she takes it personally. I try to keep in touch with her even though she won't let me. It happens. My mum and her brother didn't talk for nearly 25 years but now they're friends again. It takes effort on both sides to mend relationships. Sometimes it's good at the time to get that space but if you want her back in your life, all you can do is try.

[ChrisTJ]

Yeah siblings sometimes don't get on. My sister and I have been through the 'not talking' phase a few times. I'm 15 and she's 20 so she's very protective over me and tries to stop me doing things which she views as 'irresponsible'. The problem is she has a very traditional attitude to life and stuff so she expects me to be just as traditional and hard working as her. When I started being interested in boys in a certain way and talk about sexual stuff she'd tell me off something awful saying I shouldn't speak like that or act like that. Now though we agree to disagree and we have a much better relationship. She moved out a few months ago to a flat in a different part of Glasgow from me but we still text a lot. In fact there's rumour now of her moving away to Ireland to be with her long term boyfriend and the thought's killing me :(

[James Dean]

It's very common for siblings to hate each others guts. I don't understand it myself. I just think it's because you are so close in age and maybe it's jealousy of some kind. They can't really be your friend because they are your sister or brother. You are forced to get along with them and sometimes you get along fine with them, then other times you feel they are no use to you.

[Jack_smith1234]

i ave that same relationship with my brother, hes 18 and im 14 and hes the biggest asshole to me