lost my virginity

[Gottaloveaginger14]

So up until recently I was in a long term relationship (2 years) and although we were intimate in other ways i was still a virgin until July due to my sexual abuse history. i really loved him and thought he loved me as well and I loved being intimate with him until he took my v card. He had always been a super sweet and gentle guy but when we finally had sex he suddenly became really rough and demeaning and he ended up dumping. Honestly the experience wad horrible and he took away my princess moment (lets be honest ladies we all day dream about the magic of our first time). so any advice y'all because im falling apart and I've been spending a lot of time with my therapist but i still feel incredibly dirty and used and broken.

[HUSTLEMAN]

That is horrible Cori. Ykou just have to keep your head up and keep going b/c the guy is missing out on someone special and truthfully, he doesn't deserve you anyways.

[Hideous]

That's horrible, I'm sorry this has happened to you.

Forget about him, he doesn't deserve you, you have so much to offer to the world. There is someone out there who is going to treat you with respect. I'm glad you're seeing a therapist, they will help you. Keep your mind off of it, you know now how awful he is as a person, and you should take it as a way to survive the challenges ahead of you. I wish you the best, and if you need anything, I'm available to PM!

[Gottaloveaginger14]

Thanks y'all

[soft]

Dont worry, it happens to many. I am sure he does not deserve you at all and so be happy that worse didnt happen. Live your life fullest and never feel guilty of others bad doings.

[Elysium]

Puberty for All :arrow: Mental Crises

[Leprous]

I'd just try to ignote him, maybe that's the best thing to do. If you wanna talk, feel free to PM me. I'm sure everything'll get better again.

[ChrisTJ]

Boys like that make me so mad!! I'm really sorry that happened to you, you deserve so much better than that! :)

[CosmicNoodle]

Boys like that make me so mad!! I'm really sorry that happened to you, you deserve so much better than that! :)

Off topic, but there are a lot if girls like that as well, double sided coin and all.

Sorry you had to go through that, ignore him, if he's like that, he's not worth your time.

[ChrisTJ]

Off topic, but there are a lot if girls like that as well, double sided coin and all.

Sorry you had to go through that, ignore him, if he's like that, he's not worth your time.

Yeah sorry I didn't mean that only guys are like that but yeah. People like that enrage me!

[CosmicNoodle]

Yeah sorry I didn't mean that only guys are like that but yeah. People like that enrage me!

They are douce bags, I mean, you have decided to be intimate with them, something that takesa lot of trust and some amount if courage. And they go and do something horrid like that! Discussing people, I mean, if it where rough because people like it rough, great! But this wasn't, this was him being a dick.

Ye it sounded like you where one of the Tumblr feminazis or something :p

[ChrisTJ]

Ye it sounded like you where one of the Tumblr feminazis or something :p

No that's my sister you're looking for there darling ;)

[Karkat]

It's disgusting how people can be like that. I'm sorry this happened to you. Just remember that it isn't your fault. You're not "used", or "broken" because of this- you'll find a guy who will totally give you that 'princess moment' someday. If that's what you're into.

[Buddy 912]

Cori - I have an older sister who lost her virginity the same way. It was hard on her for about a year. She has had several boyfriends since then and has had sex with them all. She tells me that she should of had sex sooner in life and just enjoy the physical experience that sex offers. Hope you get pass this soon.

[ScottieDog]

Sorry you had to go through this, a few of my friends have had similar experiences with boys changing on them after they have sex, it's really not pleasant. Do you have friends you can talk to about this?