Two Best Friends

[SmokyChica]

So this summer I was crazy in love with my one best guy friend and a lot of stuff happened between us. He led me to really believe he would date me. I told my best girl friend about this and she was so happy and pushed him to date me (so I thought). Now the two of them are dating... I am trying to be fine with it but I can't stand seeing them together in the hallways and whenever I try to talk to her it's all about how much she loves him when I've seen her use boys and break their hearts before and not care, and whenever I talk to him it makes me feel like I wasn't good enough for him... Any help on how to get over this?

[James Dean]

If you already talked to her privately about it and how it's really affecting you, then it's just best to move on. You said it yourself that she has bad history with relationships so maybe this one will eventually go sour. I know you felt connected to that boy, but there will be others. Just worry about your needs and your life. I'm sure there are more important things on your agenda than this love triangle, or a crush/fling that your friend is now in a relationship with. Don't blame yourself for this, silly things like this happen. Keep your head up.

[Broken Toy]

So this summer I was crazy in love with my one best guy friend and a lot of stuff happened between us. He led me to really believe he would date me. I told my best girl friend about this and she was so happy and pushed him to date me (so I thought). Now the two of them are dating... I am trying to be fine with it but I can't stand seeing them together in the hallways and whenever I try to talk to her it's all about how much she loves him when I've seen her use boys and break their hearts before and not care, and whenever I talk to him it makes me feel like I wasn't good enough for him... Any help on how to get over this?

I cant help, like i couldn't be more useless at this. im in the exact same thing and i don't know what to do. You just need to know that you are good enough, its not your flaws (if you have any, i don't know you so hey you could be perfect i don't know) that stopped you, its her. Shes the bitch here. Who goes behind her friends back and dates the guy she has feelings for. You are good enough, shes just a bitch

[Gumleaf]

Well that is like the ultimate betrayal. As someone said to me when it happened with 2 guy friends and a girl, it's breaking the bro code. That doesn't make her much of a friend. I've known this sort of thing happening before where someone acts like a go between, but the go between figures out they like the person too and ask them out instead. There is no excuse for that and I understand how guttered you must feel.

How to get over it is a difficult question to answer. But please don't allow this to screw with your self esteem and stuff. You were screwed over because your 'friend' was cunning, not because you're not good enough. My normal advice is that communication is the key, but I think in this case you should try and spend time with other friends and put yourself in a position where you won't spend much time seeing them together and stuff.

I'm really sorry this has happened to you. :(

[Ben_Frost]

You should probably get over it and move on, it probably wasn't meant to be. Who knows, maybe if he had gotten together with you he could have realized later that he liked your friend more and it would have been worse with you if he had broken up with you just to be with her.

[asrlem]

Omg what a bitch that is so horrible but you could wait until they break up because you said that her relationships never work out. If not then you should play to your strengths to get a new boyfriend.
Im so sorry this happened.