i need help

[xGodsMinionx]

im not sure if this is the right place to be posting it, but it said relationships
and it kinda has to do with my relationship with my parents

okay so im 17, 6 months from being 18

and like i want to join the army and everything
but my parents would never approve of me being in the job i want to be in
like i want to be the person running in the streets
kicking doors down and everything

but they want me to be like my brother
who sits behind a desk everyday

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idk how to tell them i dont want to do that without them getting pisses off like they always do

any suggestions

[scatman]

im not shure but this is not relation ships and dating related so ill tell you before a mod gets mad at you

[xGodsMinionx]

i posted it becuz it kinda does have to do with a relationship, hence the PARENTS thing... relationship with parents....

but whatever if a mod gets pissed then idc, im just looking for help, not to be told i posted in the wrong area. this was the one that worked the best.

[The Batman]

scatman a post like that isn't really neccesary just click the report post button and let the mods deal with it.

Your parents are just worried that you might kick in the wrong the door and end up getting killed but once your 18 there really isn't anything they can do about it so just keep trying to explain to them what you want to do and eventually they'll get use to it but still might not like it.

[jaymacs]

If i were you, i wouldn't join the army without your parents' acceptance, 18 or not.

I'm sure you've talked to them. Have you stated why you want to be in the army? Why is that? What are you looking for? What opportunities will you have? What will your future hold for you, during the army, after the army? Go to a recruiter, and ask them for a letter to give to your parents. A PERSONALIZED LETTER. Many recruiters have an already-typed-up letter that goes, "Dear parents, your son, etc, etc..." Well, try to get a recruiter to talk to your parents.

But i hope you know -- joining the army doesn't mean you'll be running around kicking down doors. Most of the people i know in the army just live on a base or guard somewhere and don't ever see any action. But i know three people in the Marines who have all been to Iraq.

[Mzor203]

It is your choice once you're 18, but I would agree with Jaymacs, about getting a recruiter to talk to your parents. But if you really have your heart set on something, go for it.

[Malcolm Tucker]

I'm not sure but this is not relation ships and dating related so ill tell you before a mod gets mad at you

Please post constructive posts in future. i.e. ones which will contribute to helping the Original Poster

[Maverick]

If i were you, i wouldn't join the army without your parents' acceptance, 18 or not.
I disagree.

This is your life, not theirs. Joining the army is something you want to do and by not doing it because of your parents, you will regret later on in life that you didn't bite the bullet and told your parents and joined regardless of the outcome.

You only live once and by backing out on your dreams because of a minor inconvenience you're going to regret it. Don''t put yourself through that.

I'm not going to say be a rebel, but you're getting close to the age where you have to decide things for yourself. You have to do what's best for you. The days where your parents control or have a lot of influence in your life are almost over.

Just be straightforward and tell them. I'm sure they love you and while they may be suprised at first, once they realize you're serious they should come around.

Good luck solider. ;)

[xGodsMinionx]

thanks guys, thanks for the reassurance, im just gonna do it and hope one day my parents will approve of it, and to the person who posted 3rd? about kicking the wrong door

yeah thats just a chance im gonna have to take, i mean im one of the few people who is actually willing to die for this country, because i wnat to make sure that my family and future family gets to live with the same freedom ive been fortuneate enough to live with.

even if i get killed and dont have a family of my own

my brother still could have a family so i would have atleast did a small something to ensure it for his family..

but once again thanks guys uve really helped a lot

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

Well, like said, its your life, I would never let anyone even my own parents decide that for me. Acceptance or not, thats what you wanna do, so I say go right for it.

[jaymacs]

i would have atleast did a small something to ensure it for his family..

If you die with the belief that you are sacrificing yourself for a greater good, you are not doing something small at all. In fact, you're doing the biggest thing imaginable -- bigger than millions of people in the world can say right now.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

I think that it doesnt matter what my poion is of the army and those who join, its YOUR life, do what makes you happy. joining the army is a noble thign, just make sure your doing it for the right reasosn. try and show your parents what it is abotu the army that makes you want to join.