Is it wrong? Please answer

[Bilbo Baggins]

So, I've... kinda wanted to be a girl, instead of a boy... Is that wrong?:(:what:

[kissban]

No, u curious... :)

[Zachary G]

how can those kinds of feelings be wrong? you feel what you feel and only you know what is right for you.

[Luminous]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality and Gender

[Elysium]

You'll find that you're not the only person with these feelings. That's why we have all the gender options on VT, after all.

[Karkat]

If it was a crime, I'm guilty as charged :P

That's called gender dysphoria, and trans* people experience it. You're not wrong, this just means you aren't cisgender, and that's ok. :)

I'm bigender, myself. I'm somewhat in the same boat you are.

If you have any questions about anything, feel free to ask. :)

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

No, it's called being transsexual or (gendercurious?) It's not wrong.

[Elysium]

No, it's called being transsexual or (gendercurious?) It's not wrong.
Transsexual is generally the term for someone who's post-op MtF or FtM.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

Transsexual is generally the term for someone who's post-op MtF or FtM.

I thought that was transgender?

EDIT: I'm a moron. Looked it up, I got the terms flip-flopped.

[Karkat]

I thought that was transgender?

You've got it backwards. :P Transgender is pre-op, and may not actually transition. (It depends.)

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

You've got it backwards. :P Transgender is pre-op, and may not actually transition. (It depends.)

Lol, sorry, I'm a dumbass. :P

[Karkat]

Lol, sorry, I'm a dumbass. :P

No! You're fine!

You think YOU'RE a dumbass, I just finally realized why transgender= pre, and transsexual= post. :P

Transgender= gender is opposite from biological sex. Sort of like transitioning gender.

Transsexual= Sex is opposite from the one you were born with. You have transitioned sexes.

...I've been familiar with these terms for years and I only just realized. :whoops:

[Bilbo Baggins]

If it was a crime, I'm guilty as charged :P

That's called gender dysphoria, and trans* people experience it. You're not wrong, this just means you aren't cisgender, and that's ok. :)

I'm bigender, myself. I'm somewhat in the same boat you are.

If you have any questions about anything, feel free to ask. :)
Two questions. What does bigender mean and what does cisgender mean?

[Karkat]

Two questions. What does bigender mean and what does cisgender mean?

I'll explain cisgender first, as bigender is kind of longish.

Cisgender is when your gender identity is the same as your biological sex. If you were born with a vagina, and you identify as female, you are cisgender.

Bigender is a little bit different from cisgender, or even transgender (you feel you are the opposite from your biological sex). Generally, it means you're multiple (but distinct) genders. Most bigender people tend to feel they are agender/neutral, but occasionally male(or female), or they'll feel they are both male and female. Some feel they are all three.

It's somewhat complicated, and honestly, it means a little bit of a different thing to each person. :P It falls under the blanket of "genderqueer", meaning you're neither transgender nor cisgender.

You can find a simplified list of gender definitions here (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2893953) :)

[Bilbo Baggins]

I'll explain cisgender first, as bigender is kind of longish.

Cisgender is when your gender identity is the same as your biological sex. If you were born with a vagina, and you identify as female, you are cisgender.

Bigender is a little bit different from cisgender, or even transgender (you feel you are the opposite from your biological sex). Generally, it means you're multiple (but distinct) genders. Most bigender people tend to feel they are agender/neutral, but occasionally male(or female), or they'll feel they are both male and female. Some feel they are all three.

It's somewhat complicated, and honestly, it means a little bit of a different thing to each person. :P It falls under the blanket of "genderqueer", meaning you're neither transgender nor cisgender.

You can find a simplified list of gender definitions here (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2893953) :)
Ok, Im Going to pretend i understood bigender, but I definetly am more feminine than any other guys I know. Thanks for the help

[Typhlosion]

There's nothing in wrong in feeling like, well, yourself! :P
Nor anything in acting upon it.

Occasionally I kinda get that feeling too.

[Karkat]

Ok, Im Going to pretend i understood bigender, but I definetly am more feminine than any other guys I know. Thanks for the help

Believe me, it's complicated even for me sometimes. :whoops:

You're absolutely welcome. Anytime. :)

[gaming_marquis]

I know this is a late reply, but it's perfectly normal, at least in my opinion. Like the people before me said, what you're feeling is most likely gender dysphoria, which a lot of transgender folks feel. I'm not the most experience with this specific LGBT area , but if you need to , I'm more than willing to talk it out with you c:

[Dying Ember]

So, I've... kinda wanted to be a girl, instead of a boy... Is that wrong?:(:what:

A lot of people feel like this, don't worry! Its not wrong at all