Why is this so confusing?

[Lovelife090994]

When I was a kid I like guys and girls but I only faked liking girls so that my family and students wouldn't have another thing to tease me for. By middle school all the way to the age of 15 I was basically asexual, aromantic, agender, and blank. I dress like a male because I was and still am made to. By 16 to 18 I went from gay to bi to gay to bi but was never out. I came out at 19 as bi with harsh consequences. Now I think I'm gay but at 20 now even more so I am questioning my gender. I'm keeping my sex, but I'm questioning what I really am and what I really want. This is all so confusing and what's worse is how I'm trapped acting like a boy at least neutral to either gender, and am in a precarious situation where I deviate too much or tell my mother and possibly father anything then I'll be doomed and probably forced into more stuff despite my age since I am not on my own yet.

What can I possibly do or research to take away some of the confusion and anxiety? Yes, anxiety, people scare me, and I'm pretty certain any guy or girl I meet will be a monster in disguise and that no one will want me anyway.

[lionpinewood]

why is everyone so nonchalant about their orientation and sex/gender?? this are important, life changing realizations about yourself and are not to be made so easily. jesus, you all have these labels, and names and options and it gets to a point where you don't know what you are. are you sexually attracted to men, women or both? do you or do you not STRONGLY feel that you were born a different sex than you feel? these are the questions you need to answer. think long and hard. don't come out of the closet you may not be in. don't proclaim yourself as M/F/agender if you don't feel tormented by the incompatibility of your biological sex and the way you feel.

[Karkat]

why is everyone so nonchalant about their orientation and sex/gender?? this are important, life changing realizations about yourself and are not to be made so easily. jesus, you all have these labels, and names and options and it gets to a point where you don't know what you are. are you sexually attracted to men, women or both? do you or do you not STRONGLY feel that you were born a different sex than you feel? these are the questions you need to answer. think long and hard. don't come out of the closet you may not be in. don't proclaim yourself as M/F/agender if you don't feel tormented by the incompatibility of your biological sex and the way you feel.

Because labels aren't as big of a deal as coming to terms within yourself as to what you are/feel.

Also, not all who are trans* feel "tormented". We may experience gender dysphoria, however, some- bigender, for instance- aren't just something you can fix with the snip of your genitals and some hormonal therapy. I'm sticking in the body I currently have because it's my decision- though it is subject to change. I'm young, my hormones haven't entirely sorted themselves out. I may feel transitioning is the proper choice later on in life. (doubtful) And not all transgender people want to transition, even- it's expensive, for one thing.

He's definitely in *a* closet, it's just a question of which. He's not a heterosexual, cisgendered person, at any rate, and that's fine.