i really need help. am i gay or not

[transgirl91]

ok well by the name you can figure that im transgendered. but anyway i like girls. but i also like watching gay porn. also i tried having sex with a boy and honestly i didnt like it.

[Texmex21]

your definetly gay dude

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

your definetly gay dude

Are you the same dude from before...That's such an unhelpful post...

You're not necessarily gay, if you like both it could be moreso bi, but, during puberty, its normal to not be so sure which you like.

[MoveAlong]

your definetly gay dude

you can't make a judgement like that
in fact nobody can tell you your sexuality except you

but I don't understand this transgenered thing - are you a guy that wants to be a girl or a girl that wants to be a guy? and you don't like having sex with guys but you like gay porn and you like women? That's really confusing :P plz explain

[chris__robin]

yeah i think it would help if you clarified if you are
m to f
or
f to m

just wondering also how old you are and if you are truly transgender? as i understand it being transgender means transitioning into the gender you believe you should be, whereas being gay means you are attracted to members of the same sex as you.

so do you consider yourself a boy who is attracted to boys, or girl to girls, or another? depends on how you feel

[Serenity]

but I don't understand this transgenered thing - are you a guy that wants to be a girl or a girl that wants to be a guy? and you don't like having sex with guys but you like gay porn and you like women? That's really confusing :P plz explain

You know, I wrote up an awesome little sticky covering that...you should read it. Tis quite informative if I do say so myself.


Sexual Identity/Orientation
Heterosexual- One who is physically and emotionally attracted to the opposite sex
Homosexual- One who is physically and emotionally attracted to members of their own sex
Bisexual- One who is physically and emotionally attracted to both sexes
GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgendered)- a term encompassing all nonheterosexual sexual orientations.
Pansexual- One who is physically and emotionally attracted to people regardless of gender or orientation
Omni sexual- One who is willing to participate in any sexual endeavor (‘Omni’ meaning ‘all’)
Queer- Literally, anything out of the ordinary; often used in reference to one who is homosexual (generally used at individual’s discretion- there has been much debate over the term’s political correctness but large amounts of homosexuals in the last few years have been in favor of it)
Questioning- One who is unsure as to his/her sexual orientation
Asexual- One who has no sexual drive/experiences no sexual desire (Not considered a sexuality by some, rather a lack of a sexuality)

Gender Identity/Role
Androgynous- Being neither distinguishably masculine nor feminine, as in dress, appearance, or behavior; having an ambiguous sexual identity (Hermaphrodite)
Transgender- A person who feels that the gender they were assigned at birth does not fit them (Often one who cross- dresses)
FTM/F2M/Trans-Man- A person who was born female but identifies as a male
MTF/M2F/Trans-Woman- A person who was born male but identifies as a female
Transsexual- A person who chooses to surgically change their gender because they feel that the gender they were assigned at birth does not fit them
Gender Non-conforming/Gender Queer- One who refuses to accepts society’s label of male or female and presents themself as a gender-free individual
Intersex- A general term in reference to any person whose genitalia/sexual anatomy doesn’t fit the typical qualifications of male or female
Two Spirit- An individual, usually indigenous or tribal, who usually believes they have 2 spirits in their body
Third Sex/Gender- An individual who considered themself neither male nor female; also used in cultures where a gender aside from male and female exists

[scassie]

wow Valeries post covers it all. transgirl91 i think you r jus curious and want to know how you compare to other guys. I know guys that like gay porn but they aren't gay or any of the stuff in valeries post.

[MoveAlong]

You know, I wrote up an awesome little sticky covering that...you should read it. Tis quite informative if I do say so myself.

I wasn't asking what a transgendered was. I was asking whether transgirl wants to go male to female or female to male

it's kinda confusing to classify someone's sexual orientation if you don't know what gender they are! :P

[Yasmine]

being "gay" has nothing to do with transgender. it's not abnormal if you are a mtf that likes girls, and if you are a mtf transgender that likes men that means you are a heterosexual woman. your sexual orientation and gender are two seperate things. I am a mtf transgender that likes men that does not mean i am "gay" it means i'm a heterosexual woman.

[MoveAlong]

being "gay" has nothing to do with transgender. it's not abnormal if you are a mtf that likes girls, and if you are a mtf transgender that likes men that means you are a heterosexual woman. your sexual orientation and gender are two seperate things. I am a mtf transgender that likes men that does not mean i am "gay" it means i'm a heterosexual woman.

yes. that makes perfect sense

[happytimes]

your definetly gay dude

that is just uncalled for:mad: absolutely unhelpful. and dude to answer your question: it really depends. you don't have to like having sex with a men to be gay. I'm straight so can't give much opinions on this. but really if you're like 14-16 something like that curiosity kicks in a lot and stuff can change. just don't listen to idiots like that up there.

[happytimes]

oh you're a transgender. I kinda missed that part :confused: anyways i wouldn't know anything about that. I'm a guy and i like being a guy so ya.