Who needs to grow up here?

[slamb79]

So first and foremost I would like to point out that this will be a very biased rant so please be respectful of my mother. :D

But OMG is she starting to drive me up the wall.

So for the past four weeks I have been staying back at school on Thursdays till like 5:30pm to practice for the multicultural concert (which I am super excited about btw :metal:).

So the first time I did I kinda forgot to tell her and she got kinda peeved but not full on mental. So the next Thursday I made sure to tell her before hand and it was kinda chill but she kept making side comments like "What are you doing at 5pm on school nights?" (That was a question I know.)

I tell her I'm going to practice but I know she doesn't believe me because when I talk to my sister, 9 years old by the way, asks me what I was "really" doing whilst I was out.

It hurts enough that I am not trusted but I can't even have my own independence. I turn 18 in six months for Christ sake. There are kids maybe 3 years younger than me leaving SCHOOL at the same time and not getting an earful because of it.

In the end I don't want to be shoving my independence down her throat but man does it kill knowing that she still has "I'm big you're small, I'm right you're wrong" concept still lingers in her.

Like today I stayed till 6, threw a fit.

I was sleeping and she just storms in, "You have no reason to be out so late!" It seems anything recreational is an irrational option for her.

I can honestly imagine her at standing at some sort of parents meeting saying, "I am here because my 17 year old daughter was practicing at school till 6pm."

I'm too tired and frustrated to write anymore so yeah, opinions would be nice.

[Croconaw]

Your mom sounds unreasonable. She should give you more freedom. I don't think five in the afternoon is late. I would suggest that you try talking to her, but something tells me you've already tried that. I don't like her attitude towards the situation either. She has to be much more understanding because, at seventeen years old, you're old enough.

[Magenta]

Jeez, I was coming home at like 10 or 11 at night when I was like 16. Honestly, just try and talk to her again. Make a reasonable argument for why you should have more independence. Keep a clear head, don't get angry, just talk. Ask her why she reacts the way she does and try to make compromises you can both live with.

You can try doing what I do. Offer to to do this and see what your mum says. I'm 19 and I still text my mother when I'm going out and if I'm going to be late. I mean, if I'm just going downtown to the shops for like an hour or something while she's at work, I don't bother, but if I know I won't be home when she is, I let her know ahead of time, tell her where I'll be, and try to give her an estimate of when I'll be back. She's my mother and it's just a courtesy to make sure she's not worrying that something's happened to me. It's reassuring. I did it when I was 16 and 17 because I was supposed to, now it's just a habit and because I'm being polite.

[Dying Ember]

Agree completely with feraligatr
She is being completely unreasonable but some parents are just like that... The only thing you can do is talk to her about it (or the only thing that I can think of)

[slamb79]

Thanks for the replies guys, it makes me feel better that I'm not the only one that finds this unreasonable. :)

[Leprous]

Yeah, just try to talk to her, maybe that'll help. My parents won't even allow me out untill I'm 18, so yeah. When I'm home 10 minutes later than I usually am from school my mom already starts calling me, so I'm used to things like that.

[ChrisTJ]

You're 17, your mom needs to give you more freedom to do what you wanna do after school. Maybe have a chat with her and ask why it bothers her so much, what is it that worries her?

[Renata_cmp]

I totally agree with the above comments. This is unacceptable.*lemongrab voice*

[Karkat]

I'm only a twinge older than you, but my mom does the same to me a lot. My mom is most certainly unreasonable. It's not just the common consensus around...Everywhere, I am incapable of being an adult because she's holding me back, and it angers me.

But yeah, as long as you're explaining this to her, and you're not being disrespectful or something, she doesn't have much of an excuse...Hopefully she won't be so overbearing when you're an adult, but sadly, she seems like the kind of parent who might try to control your life even then.

[jayjay's toocool]

18 in one month parents are even stricter than yours, itt doesnt get better for me

[mrpieface2]

It sounds like your mom is a little unfair. She obviously doesn't trust you. But here's the thing. I can understand her because well, seriously. Who knows what you could be doing? I mean I'm sure you're not lying but your mom doesn't know what you are really doing. Maybe try to have a nice, small talk with her. Just explain what's going on nicely and don't get mad. Stay calm and tell her that it's for the concert and you want to be good for the concert. Are you staying after with a specific teacher? If so, have that teacher write a note to your mother or something for proof! Hope this helps!